We are both in our twenties and have been friends for 2 1/2 years.
He has had trouble getting a gf for most of our friendship. I was always the one that talked to him about his problems. He would tell me everything about his life all the time and I would help him work it out.
Even though all that he would ALWAYS try to sabatoge my relationships and say that "he was the jelous type" or that my boyfriends "reminded him of the guys that use to tease him in highschool". And I still was his friend.
So now he has a gf and guess what? He stopped talking to me. We did not end on a bad note but he has been avoiding me. Everytime I call him he doesn't answer and when he does answer it is because I have called him on private.
He ends my call early saying "he has been busy" and "we have to hang out soon, but he has to go"
I think this is really inconsiderate as I have been so considerate to him throughout our friendship despite the unwelcoming he has showed my bfs. I know he probably liked me
2007-09-11 18:17:27 · 7 answers · asked by Okay Hero 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Basically I feel REALLY used. Like used as a crying bag.
2007-09-11 18:19:09 · update #1
You most likely haven't been used. If he hasn't had great luck with women and now finally has a girlfriend she is going to be his first priority and that is harsh but normal.
Just keep how he is treating you in mind for when he comes back if this relationship doesn't work out. Talk about it then not now other than expressing an interest in meeting his girlfriend don't say anything.
His new girlfriend might not appreciate him hanging out with a woman no matter how good a friend you are.
Just take a breath and be there if he needs you, take the high road.
2007-09-11 18:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm, well his behavior does seem really confusing and when you said that you knew that he liked you before i can see why. It may seem very inconsiderate and it is in a way. Why is he doing this? Beacuse of how he "sabotaged" your former relationships, the saying "what goes around comes around" may have hit his mind. And what he's probably fearing now is that you might do/say something that may put a dent in his new relationship. And beacuse he might have liked you in the past he may also feel a little hurt that you never saw him in that kind of way.
2007-09-12 01:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by fobabe032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this means that he really liked u and wanted u to be his gf!!! as he already said he was the jealous type he was feeling something for u, and he had shared everything abt his life with u so u were someone special for him! but now he has a gfand is showing his anger by ignoring u! i am going through a somewht similar situation in my own life anyways best of luck!
2007-09-12 01:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't seem like a real friend to me. Probably he really was jealous when you got bfs. Just be there for him like a true friend and let him know that you'll be there for him no matter what.
2007-09-12 01:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by thnks_fr_my_chmcl_rmnc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He now has a girlfriend and is probly trying to make this one work. Dont give up on him yet. I dont think he has forgot you. Give him same time to see what happens.
2007-09-12 01:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by Diann s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arrr some people are so selfish, you can find better friends , he will probably come back for your help as soon as he has trouble with this girl, so just sit back, and try to not stress your self
2007-09-12 04:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try to communicate with him, if he still ignores you, pronounce him "DEAD", and just go on with your life.
2007-09-12 03:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by Light 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋