how can i build up sexual confidence, and feel more sexy?

Question

Hey you guys it turns out the guy that i like doesn't like me, but forget about him. How can i be more confident and feel sexy and radiant in myself. He doesn't really have to tell me that he doesn't find me attractive, and he never could. The nail in the coffin was it would be cool if you were a guy, and saying that my friend (big boobs, model walk) and me combined would make the perfect woman. I don't like the idea that to him, i'm not enough. People have told me that i could be a model, but he sees that i'm pretty but nothing in comparison to other girls that he likes. Fair enough, i want to look and feel sexy for me and attract other guys that will acknowledge me as beautiful and sexy, and all the things he doesn't see. I can't chase him anymore it breaks my heart, i cant be the little sidekick that appears desperate for his attention. Does anyone have any tips for building self esteem and sexual confidence, i'm done with chasing this guy for love, theres a whole ocean of men.

Answer 1

A guy should want to be with you for who you are. Not just because of what you look like. Don't worry about this guy. Go out, wear the clothes you feel comfortable in. Dress in something that makes you feel comfortable. You'll meet someone who likes you for you. Good luck!

Answer 2

Appearance plays a lot in attracting others.You must find what suits you most.You can consult a designer or costume maker ,if you can afford.At least choose neat and fit dress which projects your curves/shape.Hair style equally important.Learn to smile always.Smile is magnetic.Have pleasing manners.Be broad minded.You say yourself every day 100 times that you are attractive and getting more popular day by day.Attend all social gatherings and get togethers.Have a lot of friends.In concervation be a good listner.Do not disagree in discussions with most of the people.Do not fight on trivial issues.Ignore comments that "you boob is small"etc.You make youselves wanted.Keep up your individual style.Donot go after a guy.Dont make yourself cheap.Good Luck.

Answer 3

I understand.Actually sexiness comes with age and mostly confidence.Men love a confident woman.That is sexy.If you do not have all the physical qualities of beyonce, then if you show that you can handle yourself in the presence of a man, you are assertive without giving offence, you say no and mean no, and you show that you don't care whether they find you attractive or not, because you like yourself just the way god designed you (never let them know that you might feel a little insecure)...then if they are sincere and real men, not idiots, then they will see how good you are.Do you dress to make yourself feel good about your assests.Even if you are single do you wear sexy, undies that make you feel good about yourself.?...this guy, well I woulden't bother with him hunny, hes not good enough for you.Do you know why.?...he does not feel good about himself.He lacks confidence and has to put you down to feel better.Telling you other girls are pretty.That most likely means he dosen't want to admit your a stunner.!....You may like him but he's not worth your personality.Concentrate on what you do have, make the most of it, and look for someone who in turn makes you feel good about yourself...you will soon gain that sexual confidence you want with the right man to guide you.

Answer 4

Get completely shut of the fool then. The only way you can come across as sexy and confident with yourself is to LEARN TO BE happy with your body and your personality. If you really do love yourself (and i dont mean that in a bitchy way!), then you wont have to pretend, act, come-across-as, you REALLY will be happier and more confident, and that will show. Why are you so worried about the "image" thing, its not just the outside that makes you sexy and confident, its the inner you that counts even more. Its great to be pretty and slim and model-looking, but if you havent got the personality to go with it, its just surface, which isnt the real you. Get some books on boosting your confidence and INNER beauty, then you will find someone who loves you for YOU, not for a page-3 model which is really just a picture! Make one night a week a real pamper session for yourself, dealing with a different part of your body/looks each time. Then you need to practice your new-found confidence on your mates - they will probably be really honest with you. You dont have to be second to anyone, you dont have to wait for prats who want you now and again, but cant be bothered the rest of the time. You are worth more, and once you really start to believe in that, you will get someone who doesnt just want a dolly-bird with no brains on his arm.

Answer 5

Kim Cattrall (Sex & the City) wrote a book called "Sexual Intelligence". I saw the TV version on HBO and it was amazing. The book is a gold mine of info on both sexes. Very, very enlightening. As far as being sexy? You need to find that in yourself. Some jerk tells you you need to be combined with another woman to be good enough? Big boobs? Model walk? C'mon! Nice that you saw his true colors now, honey. I've known obese girls, I mean really, really big women, that had to fight off the guys because they knew themselves. Heck, my buddy married one, and she's awesome! Teach yourself to paint, to do stained glass, raise a barn, anything you can do by yourself, for yourself that you can be proud of. OK, the barn thing might not apply, but you get the drift. Quiet personal successes build quiet personal strength. You like that one? I just made it up and am proud as hell! And find new guys to hang around, you sound like a sweetie.
I hope I helped some.

Answer 6

good at least you can see that he's not worth your time and beautiful presence,you must find a man that deserves you.I run and work out a lot and the more i do this the more i have a sence of well being,confidence and i feel so sexy!!spend time with good friends that help you realise how lovely you are,and over time these things sink in and you will believe in yourself and your own self worth.also as you get older your confidence increases too so thats cool
good luck sexy!.

Answer 7

You, lack confidence? I doubt it; very confidently put question.

Just because a guy says something doesn't mean that it has anything remotely to do with what he's thinking. Around cute girls the first think that come into my (panicking) head has, on hindsight, not been the best think to say.

If you like him, don't be his friend (cruel to yourself), just have fun. If you enjoy the attention of flirting with him, then do. If you can't find a way to have fun with him then ask yourself why do you like him.

Answer 8

Try to be more confident and find YOU ARE HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF! Loving and accepting ourselves is THE MOST CRITICAL FACTOR in experiencing joy,happiness, and success in life. When you really love yourself and you really love other people, you find that life is really an incredible journey where things flow, and no matter what happens you always find a way to enjoy yourself and you feel fulfilled. You MUST love yourself completely.
This determines your STANDARDS for what you are willing to accept or settle for. It determines how well you treat your body and your health, how much money you feel you deserve to earn or feel you can make, your belief in whether you can achieve your goals, how much others RESPECT you and how they treat you, and even whether people like you and want to be around you. People love being around confident people. You see, confident people do not feel the need to judge you or tear you down in order to elevate their own self-worth. They radiate a positive energy. You feel safe around them. You need to consistently and confidently take action to move towards your goals, and towards your ultimate destiny. People who lack in confidence often get ‘stuck’. So you see, your entire DESTINY is shaped by your degree of confidence. True self-confidence comes from an absolute sense of certainty deep within, that you are able to handle anything life throws your way. Truly confident people exude calm, control, power, certainty. They care about people, and they make people feel good when they are around them.They never brag – after all, actions speak louder than words. People who brag are just masking their insecurities. People have varying degrees of confidence depending on what activity they are performing. For example, someone might be totally confident in performing a piano concert, or driving a car, but feel totally inadequate at a new job they’ve started, or at flirting with members of the opposite sex. People with Total Self-Confidence, though, have complete belief in themselves. They never ask themselves “Can I really do this? What if this doesn’t work out? Am I good enough to pull it off?” They know that if they really want something, and they are committed to getting it, it will happen. They know that it’s just a question of time until they’ve mastered the skills and knowledge to make whatever they want a reality

Answer 9

First of all, well done for shaking off this guy. It just destroys your confidence to be rejected regularly or put down. You actually just have to know you are great for all of that to come out in you. Its simple. Please don't compare yourself to anyone - there are always going to be better looking girls, ones with better figures, more money blah, blah. You are unique and you need to realise that. Your combination of looks and being are what someone wants right now. Once you know inside, all the guys will come running!

Answer 10

I dont want to sound boring in this answer,but you have to feel sexy on your own first. When you are confident that you are then everyone will see it. Maybe the guy is not confident and wants you to doubt yourself.Or if he is truly not interested so be it.If you give to much then more is always expected.Just be you and it will work out fine.