Family & Relationships - 11 September 2007

To all those people who gave me answers without READING first! My Partner has been TRYING to get divorced for over 4 years. SHE WILL NOT SIGN THE DIVORCE. He pays her every cent he OWES her in Child support and more. She still wants MORE than her share because she has been in school for over 4 years and needs the money he gives her for HIS CHILDERN to cover her school costs becasue she doesn't WORK. WE had children because we are in LOVE and have been together for 4 years and I wanted kids too (my first kids). The whole time we've been together he's been TRYING to get a divorce! She is a greedy woman who isn't LOOKING after her children financially at all! It is the responsibility of BOTH parents, that is why I am getting a job. Why doesn't SHe get a job too instead of spending all the money she gets for her kids on herself! Why should we go bankrupt supporting her to go to school?! Sheesh

2007-09-11 12:55:25 · 8 answers · asked by getlostex 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Have them pay me the interest/ payments that I had to make? Am I being a heel? My brother was killed in a car accident about 8 months ago and had no life insurance. My parents had no money. They were in shock and barely able to do anything. I put the funeral on my credit card. It was about $16000.00 dollars and my credit card interest rate is 18%. I made several large payments from my cash savings. I got it down to $7,300.
They are settling his estate.They got $50,000 from the car insurance , so they will pay me back from that.
They have asked what amount I expect. Am I a heel to expect the interest and payments back???? From the figures I have given what would be that amount? Any and all advice would be appreciated

2007-09-11 12:54:23 · 2 answers · asked by yeah , yeah whatever 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

We are not super wealthy, but it seems like it's the same old question, what do get the person who has everything. On our 5th anniversary, I took her down to the car dealership and we drove off with a brand new SUV! Have more kids now, and travel is difficult for a get away. Even a simply romantic idea, or thing would be awesome.

2007-09-11 12:53:36 · 2 answers · asked by rhinorob 1 in Weddings

I have never loved anyone in my life, even my parents, but I respect my parents. I don't love, but I respect. I think love is for weaklings and is not manly. Since I am a man, I trained myself from an early age to not feel any emotion besides anger. I never smile and I laugh only with my best friends. Most girls I know are a bunch of cry babies or cheerleaders who are already taken. I could never give a girl a gift or flowers without being embarassed. So right there, that would ruin it. The only thing I have ever been afraid in my life of is love. I will never show it and I don't want anyone to show it to me or I would probably have a stroke. I hate sex because it is a weak, disgusting, and submissive act, and I might end up with kids. I am the controller and dictator, not an inferior woman. Women should play lesser roles. I could never be a father and I have no patience for little kids. So I can't see why people think I am missing out on life when I avoid women and kids altogether

2007-09-11 12:52:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What do you like when it comes to girls' hair? Do you like it long or short, straight or curly? What texture/styles do you like? What's your favorite hair color?

I've always wanted guys' opinions on this!

2007-09-11 12:46:53 · 8 answers · asked by Victoria 3 in Singles & Dating

Without a lot of details (married him, found this info out after, he is jealous, possesive, controlling, flirtatious , cheated, has lots of female friends, but wants therapy to save marriage), Now the ? If you found out your husband visited prostitutes on average twice a month for 4 years during his previous marriage; he says because X sex starved him, and he thought it better than an affair that would destroy their family - what would you do/think? Are you counting how many women this must be? Really though - what are your thoughts???

2007-09-11 12:44:27 · 21 answers · asked by Springtime of my Loving 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Theres this guy and he's the most annoying, perverted person ever and he likes me. He kept saying those lame things like "Is it hot? Or did you just walk by" and its annoying! I got off the bus today and as i left he said good bye sweetie and i screamed at him saying he;s a perv. Can you guys help me find a nice way to make him stop talking/annoying/liking me?? PLease Help!!!!!

2007-09-11 12:44:19 · 1 answers · asked by jbxaddict 2 in Singles & Dating

i'm kind sweet ,nice and looking 4 some2 who is a good cuddler please answer

2007-09-11 12:43:47 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

my bf wants to have sex i want to but what if i get pregnant that would stink help please should i yes or no

2007-09-11 12:42:05 · 25 answers · asked by Michele B 1 in Singles & Dating

Why would a married man admit to his wife that he is cheating and thinks its funny? This recently happened to my sister. She is seeing a divorce lawyer next week. This is after 33 years of marriage.

2007-09-11 12:40:02 · 16 answers · asked by Annabelle 4 in Marriage & Divorce

ill give u the general overview..
we dated for 2 years..and fell in love really quickly
we have broken up times before this and both of us have said this was the end for good but we have gotten back together everytime
this time, its been over a month and were still both saying that and we still like argue and part of me still wants to get back together
from knowing that this has happpened more than once..what do u think
we'll get back together or no

2007-09-11 12:35:01 · 20 answers · asked by charlotte 1 in Singles & Dating

my mom took her credit card put it under my dads name without him even knowing name and used it till there was a big bill .and now he has to pay.. it off,and then my mom doesnt pay most of the bills so she makes my dad pAY THEM AND SHE a acount where most of his money goes with her and she has a high paying job +the money he makes and so my moms telling him to pay the bills.and my dad is seriously dead mad at her whos right in this situation ps. their gettin a divorce

2007-09-11 12:34:36 · 29 answers · asked by *KEVIN* 2 in Marriage & Divorce

So I have a boyfriend that I have been with for a while.

We love eachother no doubt. Like, I know for a fact we do. And we have had sex before. My dad tricked me and told me to tell him when I'm ready so he will get me birth control. When I finally told him he said no and told my mom and they both wouldnt allow me at his house.

So I stopped talking about it to them and my mom now lets me go over. Since my boyfriend knows I can't take the pill we are 100 percent safe. Meaning he wears a condom and he pulls out before he gets off.

The thing is I am still very paranoid because I now skipped my period. I know that I am not pregnant but now that I have had sex and I am almost 16 I think I'm old enough. I've said everything to "I need to be 100 percent safe. no kid" to the fact that "my period still isnt regular and its been over 3 years" but, nothing will do it.

I know I can get them on my own and I can pay for them but, my mom was like mmhm and whose going to drive you? I'

2007-09-11 12:33:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

PLEASE... only serious answers!
I'm interested in finding out what men find attractive in a woman (and don't focus on looks, because, really, what can you do about those? And for the record, I'm told I'm attractive, I have a nice figure, and I'm in my early 30s).

I have a HUGE crush on a man who seems out of my league intellectually. I'm not stupid, by any stretch, but I definitely don't think I'm on par with him.

I'm a caring person, I make him laugh, I'm pretty, and probably smarter than average... But how do men rank these qualities in order of what attracts them to a woman? I mean, if I can't hold my own in discussing world events, is that a big black mark? Do men even care about that? Or do men PREFER to feel a little smarter than the woman they're with?

Feeling very insecure... help!

(And again, don't bother responding if you're just going to say, "Big boobs!" Get your 2 points somewhere else.)

2007-09-11 12:26:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i went to meet him at a public place a bar and we were talking he told me that he missed me and loved me then he kissed me a passonate kiss and then something happened well i feel ashamed because i love my husband kory very much but i have feelings for daniel too Help

2007-09-11 12:24:14 · 45 answers · asked by A 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My ex-g/f of 10 years cheated on me. She got pregnant. Came back to me for forgiveness. I forgave her. She wanted an abortion. I forgave her again. I made her feel comfortable and I was a genuine friend/lover (yep, stupid me) and I was there for her in every way. She promised a life with me again, FOR THE FOURTH TIME. Yep she cheated on me 4 times. You can call me an idiot and tell me to grow a backbone or selfesteem. I loved her. I loved her forever. Not anymore. Luckily I saw right through her this time. Take a wild guess where she is at now? She owed me $1500 and it should be in my hand by friday. Do you all think she will give it to me? I am THE only one who knows about the abortion, so, I better be getting the money. Also, answer me this please. Her "b/f", an abusive person, convicted drunk driver, possible drug user, compulsive gambler, 110% loser will ever make a relationship work? Thats who she was with, again and again, and as of today (her dad 2007). I did love her.

2007-09-11 12:21:16 · 12 answers · asked by cappatown23 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Last year we used to talk sometimes. I used to have the impression that he kinda liked me. I actually like him for who he is, he's not just some idiot like the guys I've fallen for in the past. but he's in none of my classes this year and we never get to talk anymore. And he has a girlfriend, so I don't really expect it to go anywhere anyway. I don't think I should do anything about it, I should just forget about it, and how do I forget about him? thanks!

2007-09-11 12:18:21 · 1 answers · asked by 77684 3 in Singles & Dating

just turned 38, and I am panicking that I will not be able to attract younger women anymore. Give me some hope and encouragement!

2007-09-11 12:14:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

typically, when a man proposes to a woman and she accepts, he places a ring on her finger, and later they get married. the thing is the man paid for the ring but he didn't give it to her as a gift, but a symbol and a token of their commitment.

who actually owns it? the man or the woman?

2007-09-11 12:13:35 · 33 answers · asked by Gruntled Employee 6 in Weddings

he is in all my classes. he seems to be from michigan. what kind of girls do michigan boys like? and what do i say to him? need help. and also his best friend sits with me in science. p.s. i'm in 7th grade.

2007-09-11 12:11:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok i like this guy how should i impress him im not a girly girl i wear black and heavy sweaters and stuff should i show more skin to see if hes interested? and i kinda notice he looks at me as i pass him down the hall everytime so do you think hes interested or not

2007-09-11 12:09:51 · 4 answers · asked by Courtney 2 in Singles & Dating

Would u do this to your kid and laugh?
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=-fVDGu82FeQ
For those who dont trust links, just do a search on youtube and search: kid blood
it should be the first video

2007-09-11 12:07:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

when your with that special someone, and you guys are watching a movie, and someone in the movie farts, like say, your watching wild america, and then the fart part comes up where there dad is singing and the dad farts, what is your reaction?

2007-09-11 12:03:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I dont get how parents can do this. Im giving myself as an example. I have been dating my bf for 2 years. Im prob going to end up marrying this guy. He is a good guy, is educated, works, treats me right. My parents just don't like him-its that simple. He's not even allowed over my house. (i still live with my parents but im moving out soon, my bf and i are in mid 20's.)
Anyway, i have been threatened that if i marry him, they will disown me completely. I have known another girl that her parents completely disowned her because she married the man she loves. I don't get it-there is so many worse things in this world that can happen -someone can get sick, someone can get in an accident, ect... and its like your not talking to me because of this?? Life is too short, i dont get why some parents disown or even threaten to disown their kids, especially if they were always good kids and want to make their own decsisions. I thought parents were suppose to love their kids unconditionally....

2007-09-11 12:00:14 · 4 answers · asked by hersheybar99 1 in Family

ok so heres the deal.. I am dating a guy who lives in Penn. and I live in TX. we have been dating for 9 months now and his birthday is coming up and he will be 21. I want to go visit him but he would keep me there and make sure that I'm safe cause here Im always getting hit and cut by my family. I want to make him really happy and for him to have the best birthday ever so what do you think i should do?? If i did go visit him i need almost $200 so if theres anyway i could get it (im 15) i would love to go and stay with him! plz help me out

and yes i do know that it is illegal but both of our parents know about us and they don't care

2007-09-11 11:56:11 · 1 answers · asked by love struck 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-09-11 11:50:52 · 5 answers · asked by hermecshec 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

ok..... there are two guys that i've been involved with off and on for about a year and some change with (not at the same time). the first guy was my first at pretty much everything: my first real boyfriend, my first at sex, my first to bring home to my parents, my first love, etc... well we fell off for a while and i gave him his space because he was doin things i didnt approve of. the second guy i met him while i was givin the first guy space. he's a good person, but for some reason we jus cant keep a relationship goin. but we both like each other. he looks at me as marriage material... they both do. but now my first is back in the picture and tells me that he wants us to work at getting back together. but i kinda want to see where things are goin to end up with the other dude. i started kinda late in life and am new to bein in love and havin 2 dudes. so who should i pick and what should i do?

2007-09-11 11:42:34 · 1 answers · asked by dria4eva 1 in Singles & Dating

my situation is that ive been going out with this one girl for about lil over 1 1/2 years, i broke up with her about 3 months ago b/c she broke my trust, literally found out about a bunch of lies that she had told me, talkin to another guy behind my back and completely lieing about it, basically caught her slippen and uncovered alot of other lies that she tried to cover up repeadly, even using the line "i put that on everything" all the time..

well 3 months later, we start talkin again and now we r going back out.. might be a dumb move for me.. but i cant trust her anymore.. how do i do it?

is it wrong me for me not believe every word she tells me now..

she kicks it with All guys and its prettty hard to not get some thoughts of lies and scandalous stuff happening behind my back, and im not the type that would do it back or do it just b/c i think she is.. so its kinda hard for me..

"a relationship cant work without honesty" is a quote i tell myself..

2007-09-11 11:39:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

There's this guy at school who likes me, and honestly, he kind of disgusts me. We're in the same group of friends, so he sits with us at lunch. He keeps trying to sit next to me, or as near me as he can. It's very annoying. Even if someone's bag is on their chair, he'll move it and sit there until the person comes back and kicks him out. He also kind of clings to me in gym, and in World History, he keeps flirting. He knows very well that I have a boyfriend and that we're just friends. I made it clear. The only reason we're "friends" is because of mutual friends and classes together. I'd rather just not ever talk to him. How can I get him to stop liking me?

2007-09-11 11:37:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

It's mainly videos of women showing their butts and stuff on YouTube, it's nothing hard-core. I am 5 mos preg and I tell him that with my changing body I think he has to look at other images b/c I'm not satisfying him. He says that one has nothing do to with the other. He said it's a man thing and that it's just things that men sometimes look at. He says it has nothing to do with me. He says these things but I still feel so insecure. Why do men watch this stuff.. is it b/c they're not satisfied at home?

2007-09-11 11:35:04 · 12 answers · asked by Karla Marx 3 in Marriage & Divorce