is this right ?

Question

my mom took her credit card put it under my dads name without him even knowing name and used it till there was a big bill .and now he has to pay.. it off,and then my mom doesnt pay most of the bills so she makes my dad pAY THEM AND SHE a acount where most of his money goes with her and she has a high paying job +the money he makes and so my moms telling him to pay the bills.and my dad is seriously dead mad at her whos right in this situation ps. their gettin a divorce

Answer 1

The conclusion was so obvious...good luck, Kevin.

Answer 2

As the saying goes all is fair in love and war. It's a shame that this has happened your mom should have never done that but now that it is done your dad better stay on his toes and keep a weathered eye out for anything and everything. I hope he gets a fair judge that will split the bills down the middle most states do that anyways, but just in case, tell your dad to keep close track of his records.

Answer 3

Wow, looks like mom is a ruthless woman. If they are separated and dad has proof that they weren't living together at the time of the purchases, then mom should eat the bills. It's just sad that you were drug into the mess. Dad needs to get his check direct deposited into his own separate account so mom don't go on anymore shopping sprees. Just remember that dad does have an obligation to pay child support, unless he gets custody of you and your siblings(if there are any). Good luck to you all!

Answer 4

There's probably more to this than meets the eye- there may be more to it than you know. Most people don't just get a divorce over money- there's more to a relationship failure than that usually. As their child you should not be concerned with these matters at all and they shouldn't be discussing any of this with you- this is their mess and they'll be screwing up your life enough by divorcing they shouldn't be dragging you into their issues. You shouldn't have to be concerned as to who's right and who's wrong in this situation- it puts you in a position to choose sides. You shouldn't have to choose sides with your parents- you should be on both their sides.

Answer 5

I'm sorry you are going through this and I think you already know the answer. It is not right to do this; however, divorce can be very ugly. A lifetime has been built between them and now it is going away. It can be very hurtful and angry trying to deal with that loss. Try talking to both your parents separately and explain how you are going through a lot yourself and could use their support. You shouldn't be put in the middle of this. I'm sure they both love you but sometimes our emotions can cloud our judgement. Good luck.

Answer 6

she is in the wrong and if she is gonna be running up bills like that she should pay them not him but he will wont his credit to stay in good standings so the only way he can do that is to pay them off and i would put in the divorce papers that any credit card coming out with his name on that he wonts them canceled and she cant get anything in his name no more i wish you good luck and happiness and sorry for you that their getting a divorce

Answer 7

Your mother was wrong know doubt about it but your dad is letting her get away with the things she is doing.Your a guy so your looking at it strictly from a man's point of view instead of looking at it for what it is,it's all part of being married and you will find that out when you get married. Sounds like your dad is talking to you about his problems and he shouldn't be doing that.Your dad is showing you that marriage is bad and if you marry this is what will happen to you,but what your dad isn't telling you is he is allowing it to happen remember that. She is your mother so why are you taking sides you shouldn't be involved in this at all.

Answer 8

first im sorry to here that thy are going to get divorced and just remember that it IS NOT YOUR FAULT in any way
second no it is not right may be your dads lawyer can help with the money and bills because he gets half of everything including money in the accounts she will have to list all accounts and how much is in them to the judge good luck and best wishes in the future

Answer 9

Well, Kevin, I'm sorry you have to be exposed to this is your home. This is adult business and you shouldn't concern yourself with it. You need to be busy being a kid. In most marriages, unless there is some other agreement, the spouse's pool their money and share equally in it as well as sharing equally in the bills regardless of who made them. So, I don't think either is right or wrong, because I don't know what kind of an agreement they have about sharing finances.

Answer 10

Your Mom is not only totally wrong she has also broken the law. Your Dad has every right to be pissed. He also has every right to contact his credit card company and state that there was fraudlant activity and a fraudlant card placed in his name, He can also contact the police and file charges against your Mom. He needs to contact the credit card company immediately so that he is not held responsible for these charges.

Answer 11

I am glad you are concerned about your family, but I'd let the adults and thir attorneys work this out throug the courts. A lot of it may come down to how long they were married, what the state's community property laws are, income to debt ratios... many factors.