It's mainly videos of women showing their butts and stuff on YouTube, it's nothing hard-core. I am 5 mos preg and I tell him that with my changing body I think he has to look at other images b/c I'm not satisfying him. He says that one has nothing do to with the other. He said it's a man thing and that it's just things that men sometimes look at. He says it has nothing to do with me. He says these things but I still feel so insecure. Why do men watch this stuff.. is it b/c they're not satisfied at home?
2007-09-11 11:35:04 · 12 answers · asked by Karla Marx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We do have relations.. And it's good, but sometimes he gets "tired" before he finishes.. this is why i'm all screwed up about it.
2007-09-11 11:58:54 · update #1
It has nothing to do with you... Seriously!
I can certainly understand that you're feeling insecure; I'm not even pregnant, but I gained a few lbs since I've been married, and I'm feeling quite unhappy about it. But you have to understand that guys will look at this stuff even if they're married to the most gorgeous woman in the world; it has nothing to do with their partner. Heck, I'm a woman, and I look at porn sometimes. It's fun, it satisfies a certain voyeuristic urge we all have to some degree, it's arousing, it plays into our curiosities. If it bothers you a lot, just ask him to not look at it when you're around; this is something he can, and should, respect.
2007-09-11 12:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-20 01:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by Charlotte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to hide the fact that your body is changing. Buy some sexy maternity lingerie that shows off your belly and wear it with pride. There is nothing more beautiful than a pregnant woman.
Sounds like your husband is just out of shape. I used to get "tired" before I finished too. Then I bought a treadmill and started running every day. Now I have so much energy my wife can barely keep up. LOL :)
2007-09-11 12:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all most men find a preg women beautiful theres a glow about them. even though we see it differnt. as for the porn yes men to look at it alot other wise there would be no business there. some women cant stand the thought of there bf or hubbys looking at porn. and you my feel unconfortable looking at it to. but for some it really gets them going and hot for each other. but has to be men in it to. has to be eye candy for both and its not like you can ever meet them . work out a fantacy together. and no not all men that look at porn are not satisfied at home just want to spice it up.
2007-09-11 11:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by tweettreat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He watches porn because he has some character defects. It is part of his make up and it won't change. A common trait of individuals who watch porn is self-centeredness. But, you already know that, don't you by the fact that he's continuing to look at this stuff knowing that it upsets you. You see, life is all about him. He comes first, not you and not your baby. For you to truly be happy in your life, you will be better off finding a quality man who doesn't have any addictions or weirdness.
2007-09-11 12:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It IS somewhat insensitive of him.
However, I would agree that its NOT about you. He looks because he's a MAN. We are visual creatures.
It would be like him stating to you that he is made to feel like he is not enough for you because you talk about your feelings with your mother or your girlfriends..... ?!?!? The fact that you share emotions with your girlfriends, sister(s), or mother have NOTHING to do with wether HE's meeting your emotional needs, right ? Same thing with him looking @ porn.
Women share emotions, men like to look at women.
Its a hard-wired thing. Unless he is choosing porn over being with you (sexually), you have nothing to worry about. If he is substituing the porn for relations w/ you - then you have something to discuss.
Maybe he doesn't think you want to be active with him while you're prego. So he's just "taking care of business" himself.
Otherwise - don't create a problem where one doesn't exist.
2007-09-11 11:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by aa889d 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it hs absolutely nothing to do with you and you need to relax about it before you go crazy. pg hormones can do weird things to women. i'll bet any money, he finds you more beautiful than ever right now. what he's looking at is nothing. not even as much as a playboy mag. stop telling him he should look if you're so insecure.
2007-09-11 12:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is always that they are unhappy at home, but that they can look at videos of someone else but will never meet, talk to or ever touch. It is just usually fantasies if you ask me. If they were unhappy at home they would be out doing the deed instead.
2007-09-11 11:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Boo-hoo. My man watches other women. Grow up. He is right! It has nothing to do with you. Stop buggin on him and grow a backbone. Insecurity is very unattractive/
2007-09-11 12:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by Vegas Mike 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he is a man. And because no matter how much you ask him about it or how much you ask him no to. He WILL continue to do it, better to have it so you know then behind your back like my b/f! Sad thing is no matter how much you ask him not to or tell him that it hurts you he won't respect your feelings enough to stop......... its a loose loose situation for us. Sorry you have to deal with that ##IT!
2007-09-11 12:09:18 · answer #10 · answered by dazednconfused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋