Men only please! What attracts you to a woman?

Question

PLEASE... only serious answers!
I'm interested in finding out what men find attractive in a woman (and don't focus on looks, because, really, what can you do about those? And for the record, I'm told I'm attractive, I have a nice figure, and I'm in my early 30s).

I have a HUGE crush on a man who seems out of my league intellectually. I'm not stupid, by any stretch, but I definitely don't think I'm on par with him.

I'm a caring person, I make him laugh, I'm pretty, and probably smarter than average... But how do men rank these qualities in order of what attracts them to a woman? I mean, if I can't hold my own in discussing world events, is that a big black mark? Do men even care about that? Or do men PREFER to feel a little smarter than the woman they're with?

Feeling very insecure... help!

(And again, don't bother responding if you're just going to say, "Big boobs!" Get your 2 points somewhere else.)

Aww... I'm getting such good answers! (And some very sweet ones too-- thank you!)
So (and again, I can't believe I'm worrying so much about this; obviously I really, really like him!)... what about aggressiveness? I don't want to seem like a pest, but I want him to know I'm alive. :) I like the one guy's advice to let him think I'm interested, but keep him wondering. I was thinking about bringing him lunch one day (if I happen to make something good)? Is that over the top? I don't want to freak him out. :)

Answer 1

Dear Laura,
Well, I'm in my early 30s too and I'm a man. Anyways, through my experiences and experiences of my friends and people I know, it doesn't matter if you're a "hottie" or not. Women often think that man are attracted to big boobs just like men often think that size matters. I often talk to my female friends about this issue and they all feel the same as you. So, to answer your question as a man: what really attracts men is not women's looks but their character. It's the character that makes women sexy, lovable, sensual, etc. It's how you present yourself. Don't just expose yourself (open up your soul), but be a little misterious, seductive and sensual. Don't give everything right away, but lead him on to wanting more. Strong women who know what they want are always attractive. I'm sure you've heard of the term "femme fatale". It's a woman who seems like she wants a man but than again she still keeps a distance. That's what makes guys crazy. But, you need to have a limit. Keeping him on a short distance for too long, may result in him giving up on you. So, you constantly need to give him treats, to keep him interesting. Soon, he'll be all yours. Trust me ;-)

Answer 2

Well for me. Looks isn't all that important.

I mean sure, looks gets your attention, but personality is what keeps it.

as for me, I tend to go for that cute smile

the smile that can always make my day oh so much better just by looking at it.

most guys indeed do go for breast and that junk in the trunk.
but most of those guys don't really find happiness..

my ex girlfriend had everything. and I literally mean EVERYTHING.

but that's not what kept my attention. I had loved her for who she is.

her personality was just amazing.
she was very smart.
much smarter than me I must add.
she was beautful, had the greatest sense of humor, and she was just simply irresistable.

she was way out of my league..
we were the exact opposite when it came to looks
I didn't think she would go for anyone like.

I'm not all that cute, I have me some love-handles, and I'm also shorter than her.

but what I did have was my personality.
=]

so basically what I'm trying to say is that, looks doesn't matter that much, but if you know how to start a conversation and keep it going, then you're good to go.

and from what I read, you got it!

=]

so don't worry!

any guy who is not taking notice of you must be a fool.

Answer 3

Attractive features of men are like this: A nice and cute face, Their eyes, Moderate amount of Chest hair, Their legs (with some hair) A sexy voice, Cool hair, Muscles, Good teeth, Oh, and they could have a really attractive body and all, but if their personality sucks then it ruins the whole sexy vibe. For example, take Joe Flanigan (google him), I find him very sexy because he has a beautiful face, has hot chest, and such cute black hair.

Answer 4

The way she looks at you and interacts with you...If she is funny sometimes, serious sometimes and usually has a very kind and humble personality. To me the most beautiful and attractive woman is a kind and good-looking woman who does not realize just how pretty she is. A beautiful woman who presents herself like she can walk on water is an instant turn-off to me. You hear alot of crap about inner beauty, but there is some truth to it, it doesn't always have to associated with ugly woman, in fact most times good looking women have inner beauty, if you just look for it......

Answer 5

Laura: Please do not put yourself down its not becoming of you.* I only look for four(4*) characteristics in a woman.* #1 She does not criticize.* #2 She does not condemn.* #3 She does not complain.* #4 And she has the ability and capacity to contribute to my happiness.* No one can make you happy, they can only contribute to the happiness you already have within yourself.*

Answer 6

main thing is knowing that the girl isnt just a slut and has more to offer than just her body.