There's this guy at school who likes me, and honestly, he kind of disgusts me. We're in the same group of friends, so he sits with us at lunch. He keeps trying to sit next to me, or as near me as he can. It's very annoying. Even if someone's bag is on their chair, he'll move it and sit there until the person comes back and kicks him out. He also kind of clings to me in gym, and in World History, he keeps flirting. He knows very well that I have a boyfriend and that we're just friends. I made it clear. The only reason we're "friends" is because of mutual friends and classes together. I'd rather just not ever talk to him. How can I get him to stop liking me?
2007-09-11 11:37:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've told him that we're just friends, by the way. He definitely knows.
2007-09-11 11:48:07 · update #1
Oh, yeah, and my boyfriend goes to a different school.
2007-09-11 11:48:51 · update #2
Introduce him to another girl. He might start bothering her instead.
Otherwise, there is not much else that you can do, besides telling him to leave you alone everytime that he comes near, and then ignoring him.
2007-09-11 11:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can get him to stop liking you (guess he can't help himself ;-) ). Perhaps you need to talk to him again and explain that he's making you uncomfortable, and to be nice, perhaps you could tell him that you don't want it to ruin your friendship but if he continues to get too close and bother you you may wind up having to be rude and you don't want that to happen. On the other hand some guys can't take 'no' for and answer and you wind up having to be WAY more forceful than you might be comfortable with (you may have to act angry, tell him he has to stop sitting with you or you'll have to talk to the others in the group and he might be asked to leave... etc.) . Try the firm but kind approach first (be VERY clear about what he does that you want to stop). See how it goes... you may have to result to stronger tactics. Good Luck!
2007-09-11 11:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by spiffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he has a thought that there is even a possible chance he isn't going away. Be straight w/him, don't try to hurt him, but be honest and say how you feel honestly, like you did above..( when he is alone so not to embarrass him). Or, just get up and move away from him until he gets it. Did you ask your other friends how they feel about him? Maybe they don't want him around either, or maybe he's just lonely..Be careful. Whatever you do, be honest. Good luck.
2007-09-11 11:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by ms4womensrights 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just getting worse 4 u, isnt it? idk, honestly, i think uve let it go on soooo long, u resent him now. and, maybe if u had of told him how u feel about him earlier, u wouldnt have had this. but, u cant fix that now. i would tell him u think hes being 2 flirty around u, and it makes u uncomfortable. just tell him to stop,(nicely, because, after all, u cant have 2 many friends). and, at ur age, id say relationships dont last 4ever. so, maybe id just let it go.
or, as an alternative, u could.... speed this up. here is some cruel tips if u have a low self esteem :P
be flirty to him. this may disgust u, but u may enjoy building him up and letting him fall.
be flirty to others, and ignore him
tell him to go away now.
hope i helped!
2007-09-11 13:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by Die Sonne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can i give u the best idea?????,
dat is just call him in a secrect place dat no body will c n e thing, n u say directly that u r feeling like he is flirting u, if he say sorry than u just ignore his flirtings, n stop talking 2 him, or if he talk much or ignore ur lines, then
give a big slap under his ear , so he can understand .....................................
2007-09-12 07:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first calm down, take a deep breath and relax. you're boyfriend is in all danger no longer properly worth getting disillusioned over. why did he harm up with you? did he harm up with you so he could be with yet another lady, if so then don't be disillusioned over it via fact your boyfriend properly now ex-boyfriend is a a hundred% douchebag. if he broke up with you via fact he have been given in a combat then its comprehensible to be disillusioned before everything, in relationships you could have your conflicts and if he broke up with you via fact he did no longer have emotions for you anymore, he's purely a waste of time. and because you have been purely relationship for 2 weeks that did no longer fairly supply you adequate time to renowned each and each others character adequate yet.
2016-10-04 09:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him off I did that once and i felt really bad but he didn't bother me no more or u can just tell him that u r going to tell ur boyfriend.
2007-09-11 11:44:18 · answer #7 · answered by JENNIFER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him off in between ur friends or better yet make out wid someone like me infront of him that would throw him off since i am uglier than a ghost lol
2007-09-11 11:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by striker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend i have the same problem and for me it helped being a little bit of a b i t c h, like ignoring him, flirting with other boys(i.e. ur bf) in front of him SO HE GETS THE MASSAGE LOUD AND CLEAR
2007-09-11 11:43:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you made it clear to him that you have a boyfriend and he don't care, then you might need to get your boyfriend after him.
2007-09-11 11:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋