help my ex daniel emailed me and called me to meet him i did should i tell my husband?

Question

i went to meet him at a public place a bar and we were talking he told me that he missed me and loved me then he kissed me a passonate kiss and then something happened well i feel ashamed because i love my husband kory very much but i have feelings for daniel too Help

Answer 1

Well you have two choices:

1) You tell your husband the truth and hope that he forgives you.

2) You never tell your husband and hope he never finds out.

What you did was really dumb, on several levels. It's pretty dumb to marry someone when you still have feelings for someone else. It's pretty dumb to meet a person like this in a bar and then kiss him. And it's pretty dumb to love two people at the same time because this is never going to end happily.

Answer 2

Well - you can't go back in history - but for FUTURE reference - as a married woman - you don't go out with a guy (unless it is family) without your husband around - or at least him having knowledge and approval of it. You NEVER go out with an ex.

As for what happened - well - you are feeling VERY GUILTY - I'm sure. If you are not planning to leave your husband for this ex - Daniel - then keep your mouth shut and your guilt to yourself. No sense in hurting your husband's feeling just so you can take the guilt off by telling him. That's yours to live with now.

If you don't want to be married - leave now. Leave. Hopefully you are not one of those pitiful people who needs to make sure the NEW relationship is solid before you leave the old one. You either want to be married or you don't. Once you've decided that - THEN you can figure out what to do about Daniel the ex.

AND - if you slept with the ex - then this whole thing is complicated by STD's and possible pregnancy. Lovely. If you're staying married - try to manage NOT to have sex for awhile and go and get tested.

How old are you? 18?

Time to grow up.

I feel so bad for your husband.

I just read some of your past questions - you had a kid in 1998 - and gave it to your parents. You were married (To Daniel I guess) for 5 years - and got a divorce. You've been having "sex dreams" about Daniel. And the worst thing of all is that you HAVE A FOUR MONTH OLD CHILD!!!!!! Do you ever think of anything besides yourself and having an orgasm!!!! Stop involving yourself in other people's lives until you have your own life together. Give the daughter to your husband - and leave and go off somewhere by yourself and get your life together. Please.

Answer 3

The reason you feel ashamed is because you know you did something wrong. You have to make up you mind, and set priorities. Do you want to show respect for your husband and work on your marriage or do you want to turn your back on him and venture off into something that already has a bad start? If you keep this up, you will not only continue to hurt yourself, but your husband will suffer too. Do something before it's too late and more people get hurt. Best of luck!

Answer 4

Do you have feelings for Daniel still? Are you willing to leave everything for Daniel? I think you should tell Kory because he is your husband and all, and if you love him, you should tell him, but you should also be ready for the consequences of what will happen. You need to decide what you want and what you will gain and what you will loose with whatever decision you make.

Answer 5

IF you really loved your husband, you would NOT have met Daniel. Why did you give Daniel the chance to kiss you AT ALL? You cheated on your husband. Aren't you proud of yourself?

So what would you tell your husband that wouldn't gut him like a fish? Is that your way of having power over him, knowing you can hurt him like that? Poor guy.

Now put yourself in your husband's shoes and pretend he did this to you. Would you want him to tell you or keep it a secret and Never meet the woman again?

Case closed.

Answer 6

Wow...I have a LOT to say about this but to keep it short - how would you feel if your husband did this to you?

You know it's wrong...otherwise you wouldn't be asking for help. You screwed up - now you either have to face the music and deal with it....or live with your guilt.

For the record, perhaps you should contemplate what it means to LOVE someone, because I think you may not quite understand that particular feeling/emotion. And while you're at it, look up the word LUST, it might help you understand those "feelings" you're having for Daniel.

Answer 7

The mere fact that you met with your ex says that things aren't right between you and your husband. If you really want to stick with your marriage, then cut off all ties with the ex. Change your phone number for one. Don't tell your husband, because it will only cause him pain, unless you feel you want to or might be tempted to meet up with your ex again, then yes, tell your husband, because subconsciously you may wanting your husband to know so that you can reek havoc, then you will have a 'reason' to get out of the marriage.

Answer 8

I believe that you should never hide anything from your partner. Just put yourself in his place. How would it feel to have that done to you? It may already be too late to repair the damage you have done, but you can't go wrong with living your life by this rule,"Treat others as you would like to be treated". Also remember that Karma is some powerful stuff. Time has a way of making you forget why they were your ex in the first place!

Answer 9

"Something" happened. Why beat around the bush? What happened was that you went on a date with your ex, and either had sex with him, or just played around sexually. And you have the nerve to claim a great love for your husband. BULLPOOP!!!!! A person who feels love for their spouse, don't have dates with ex's. And, they don't screw around with ANYBODY except their spouse. Why bother asking IF you should tell your husband? You won't. For some sick reason, you've picked this forum to brag about being slutty. Telling hubby would lead to either a divorce, or at least rule out a return session with Mr. Spermy. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you have no intention of sleeping with Sperm Boy again. But, you will.

Answer 10

you didnt love your husband enough to not go out with your ex and then you didnt think of his feelings when you kissed your ex and whtever the something that happened was, you should tell your husband becuase he desserves to know the truth and if you realy want your marriage to work you need to be honest with one another besides imagine the tables turned wouldnt you want him to tell you if he had done some of the things you have? You shouldve told him about the hole thing before you meet your ex then maybe you wouldnt be in this possition! remeber honesty is the best policy