To all those people who gave me answers without READING first! My Partner has been TRYING to get divorced for over 4 years. SHE WILL NOT SIGN THE DIVORCE. He pays her every cent he OWES her in Child support and more. She still wants MORE than her share because she has been in school for over 4 years and needs the money he gives her for HIS CHILDERN to cover her school costs becasue she doesn't WORK. WE had children because we are in LOVE and have been together for 4 years and I wanted kids too (my first kids). The whole time we've been together he's been TRYING to get a divorce! She is a greedy woman who isn't LOOKING after her children financially at all! It is the responsibility of BOTH parents, that is why I am getting a job. Why doesn't SHe get a job too instead of spending all the money she gets for her kids on herself! Why should we go bankrupt supporting her to go to school?! Sheesh
2007-09-11 12:55:25 · 8 answers · asked by getlostex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
take her to court and have his child support payments reduced then simply explain to the judge that she should be at least getting a part time job even if she does go to school .
good luck .
2007-09-11 13:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First families come first. That is how the law is set up because it is assumed that people have enough sense not to bring children into the world that they can't afford to support. The courts are not going to say, "Hey, children A get less this month because now daddy has decided to have children B". If your children were children A I bet you would see things differently. If you are having such a difficult time you and your BF should have waited to have children until all of this chaos with his wife was over with. As it is, you decided that you didn't want to wait and didn't think it all out before you had children. You can't blame his ex for that.
2007-09-11 13:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't blame anyone but yourself for your situation. You knew (or should have known) your BF's background before you got involved. First children come first, and support shouldn't be denied to them so you get the luxury of having more kids by this man. It is the same as expecting his first children to sacrifice for their half siblings. Your BF's wife doesn't owe you anything and how she chooses to live her life while she is married to her husband is none of your business. You made your bed, now lie in it and quit expecting the wife to help you make it. His wife doesn't have to sign anything and she doesn't have to care about how bad it is for you or for him. I am not trying to be mean, but you need a reality check. P.S. Your BF can go to court and ask a judge to grant him a divorce if his wife refuses to sign. Sheesh!
P.S. Your question is misleading. He isn't divorced.
2007-09-11 13:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by onebigfool 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Been through it myself, dude. Seems to be a case of 'nice guys finish last'. The system is designed to favor women and always will until there is some kind of Mens revolution. That is unlikely to happen, however, as long as the majority of men back down whenever they are offered sex.
2007-09-11 13:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st of all insulting a woman who chooses to actually raise her children instead of sending them off to strangers every day is absolutely uncalled for. Those poor children have lost their dad to another woman and a "new family" so don't wish it upon them to lose their mother's attention as well. It's YOUR decision to work, so don't use it as ammunition.
In any event....
I agree that you shouldn't be paying for her school, so perhaps you can speak with a family law attorney to work out a way that ensures the money is only spent on supporting the children.
2007-09-11 13:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
She is getting away with it so why would she want to get a job and it is NONE of your business what anyone does with their child support money.
2007-09-11 13:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
HE doesn't NEED HER to sign the papers in order for HIM to get a divorce.........duh!!!!!
You knew when you got involved with a MARRIED man that he had children........before YOU had children.....sounds like you are the stupid selfish one to bring children into a situation like that.....
2007-09-11 13:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
she has a right to go to school so she will eventually earn a decent living. Why did he leave? to cheat??? with you?? pay her
2007-09-11 13:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by Nora 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋