sex, Dad tricked me?

Question

So I have a boyfriend that I have been with for a while.

We love eachother no doubt. Like, I know for a fact we do. And we have had sex before. My dad tricked me and told me to tell him when I'm ready so he will get me birth control. When I finally told him he said no and told my mom and they both wouldnt allow me at his house.

So I stopped talking about it to them and my mom now lets me go over. Since my boyfriend knows I can't take the pill we are 100 percent safe. Meaning he wears a condom and he pulls out before he gets off.

The thing is I am still very paranoid because I now skipped my period. I know that I am not pregnant but now that I have had sex and I am almost 16 I think I'm old enough. I've said everything to "I need to be 100 percent safe. no kid" to the fact that "my period still isnt regular and its been over 3 years" but, nothing will do it.

I know I can get them on my own and I can pay for them but, my mom was like mmhm and whose going to drive you? I'

Answer 1

Here's a simple answer. Tell them you're planning on getting pregnant. Sure, it'll piss them off but hey, they'll try and stop you. Then you get birth control. :D

Answer 2

oh my god, I think i know exactly what is happening. he no doubt about it raped you. The first reason he tricked you is because he took advantage of the thought process of a minor child. he's a grown man, press charges on him so he gets 25 years to life. If he was engaging in sex with an underage minor, he should have been charged with pedophilia. He took both of your clothes off, a 38 year old is stronger than a child. it could have hurt you, it already did hurt you. and if he stuck his penis in you, you could potentially be pregnant. if he impregnated you, charges should be filed now, not 2 to 3 years later. having the penis stuck in to you all the way will hurt a child more than a grown woman because there is very delicate developing tissue that doesn't reach its full size until age 18. at your age your body only allows for gradual penetration, not forceful penetration. there are a lot of factors surrounding the subject of teenage girls experiencing pain from force penetration. you have every right to feel the way you're feeling right now, regret is an emotion associated with guilt and a sense of sadness. You aren't, it's not your fault it's his, part of it is he's a grown man that has engaged in intercourse with you being a minor in the eyes of the law. the behaviors exhibited in the wording of the question are what you should charge him with in court. you have every right to testify and the court will listen to you. It's great you are standing up for yourself and not letting him do it again, it shows maturity at your age knowing what is right from wrong and being responsible. it's a very great idea you are not going back there again because you weren't comfortable with the situation you have experienced. great idea to keep your mouth shut about it, don't say something until you feel you are ready to tell the truth. you fought him off like the responsible young adult you are, good job. you should be very proud of yourself. good luck to you and may everything work out for the best.

Answer 3

Having an irregular period is something that can often be regulated by taking the pill. This in and of itself is a reason to consider taking the pill.

I'd have a mature conversation with your parents. Tell them that you feel betrayed that they tricked you this way. Frankly, their behavior is pretty dumb (don't tell them this!), because now they have broken your trust. This will make you less likely to share information with them in the future and encourage you to keep secrets. I'd also explain to them that you'd like to have an open relationship, and this kind of deception on their part makes things tough.

I think that withholding the pill with the futile belief that this will make you less likely to have sex is ridiculous. All it does is place you at a slightly higher risk of getting pregnant, which is the last thing you want at the age of 15.

Condoms and pulling out together is pretty safe, especially if you have irregular periods. But the pill would be an additional peace of mind.

Answer 4

If your 16, dont you have a friend or adult that you can confide in? take a bus if you have to, since you obviously want to be safe. And also maybe try talking to your parents again and telling them that yes, you are having sex, but you want to be an adult and do the adult thing by not having a baby and doing everything you can to prevent it. Planned Parenthood will give you birthcontrol for cheap or free, especially since you are a minor. Good luck, and you should be proud of youself for wanting to be responsible.

Answer 5

Parental units, who can figure them out. Do not close the barn door once the sex has already been had. If you are not going to stop having sex, you must protect yourself, whether your parents help you or not. It would be nice if they were on board, if they would have actually done what they said they were going to do, but it looks like they actually think you are going to stop because they are against it...I'm sorry you were lied too, I sorry you're even having sex ( I know you think you're ready and you can handle it) you CAN handle the act it self, but you will in no way be able to handle the consequences, and I am sorry that you have no one to go to except this site...be safe. I love you:)

Answer 6

At first I thought your father was wrong for tricking you, but now I can see he was perfectly right to do so. You are a MINOR - meaning you shouldn't be having sex anyway and whoever's having sex with you could and SHOULD be in prison. Your parents are well within their rights to prosecute this guy who's having sex with you.
I'm extremely worried by the fact that you think 'pulling out before he gets off' is a good method of contraception. :/ It most certainly ISN'T and I can tell you've clearly been very badly informed about sex in general.
My advice to you now is to first speak to your mother about this possible pregnancy scare, then have yourself checked at your doctors/GP and then STOP having sex until you're of a legal age. You're too young for this sh*t girl. :/

Answer 7

Let me tell you something..having him "pull out" Is Not Good... If you can't drive, you shouldnt be having sex.... Oh and if the condom is defective or.... if he doesnt pull out in time..where does that leave you??? Pregnant at 15 with no means to support yourself ..... And ummm working at Mickey D's wont cut it..

Answer 8

Sara you need to sit down with your mom and dad and tell them exactly what you just told us. I'm sure they will make you Get a check up and the doctor will also tell them you need birth control.

Answer 9

Go get yourself on birth control. Condoms are not 100% safe. They are 98%. You can go by yourself on a bus to Planned Parenthood and get them.

Answer 10

Check with Planned Parenthood... see phone book. They will help you birth control pills.