My bf & have been together since high school for 4 years on and off. At the beginning I would hear that his mom would say stuff about me behind my back & when I would leave the room, scream about how much she hates me. I felt that it was ridiculous that she was talking about me considering she was like 30 years older than me, but whatever. When we take breaks she says its about time its over & that its time for him to move on. I think that its very rude of her that she talks about me to everyone, especially since they tell me! I am not saying I have never said anything bad about her but i just hate being around his parents, mainly her. She thinks that she knows everything and it always wrong. She just drives me crazy about everything and how FAKE she is towards me. He wants to marry me someday & I just don't know if I can handle it. I know that it would take a lot for me to like her and I hold grudges forever! My friends thought I was exaggerating about her but after met, they agree
2007-09-11 17:46:17 · 10 answers · asked by Liana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have told my boyfriend before that this bothers me that I don't the way she talks about me because we live in a small town and he always says that I am with him, not her! But I just wish I liked her. As for what mamapie2u said, I met her when I was in high school and I never said a bad thing about her. But when my friends are telling me that she is so immature that when I leave the room she screams that she hates me...I think anyone would have to share a nasty comment. If she has something to say...she should tell me not scream infront my friends. I think that is may be that we spend a lot of time together and she doesn't want to loose him, but the things she says are uncalled for. For example: I was talking to her and I said I was thinking about moving out of state for my last year of school and she gets all snippy and says that her son will not go with me, when he has never even mentioned me leaving to her. So she just put her two sense in which was not correct.
2007-09-11 21:21:57 · update #1
It's ok seriously almost evrybody's parents that they are dating would hate you.So don't worry.
2007-09-11 17:54:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the mother of a 16 year old boy, I can honestly say I have pretty much disliked every girl he has brought over here. Out of probably 10 - 12 he has brought home in the past year, I have liked 2. Mother's are VERY picky when it comes to who their son's are dating. She is probably just concerned with the fact that her son has never really had a chance to see if he might be better off with someone else, and in reality, you should consider that for yourself. Your both very young and haven't had many relationships so why would you want to be with the same person without even giving yourself a chance to explore other options? You both are wayyyyy to young to set these types of limits on each other. Use the next "break" to your benefit and see what it's like to go out with other GUYS, and not just one, several. I'm not saying sleep with any of them, but at least see what they have to offer. You might be surprised at the interesting conversations and fun times you can have going out on dates! Be young and free while you can, there is plenty of time for the tied down game.
2007-09-11 18:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and talk to her be upfront. Drop names, so and so said you said ______ this about me. Express how much you adore love her son and you would like to friends. Listen to her response very carefully. If her answer doesn' satisfy you simply say it would be very sad to have a great life with her son but without her present b/c she couldn't meet you half way. I knw it won't go as easliy as I am typing it but you need to lay out your foundation for what type of relationship you wil have with her in the future. She is being very childish so it may take some time for her to get in line with what her son's plans are with you. Maybe she is overly concerned b/c you guys are taking so many breaks. Maybe someone is filling her ear with slutty stories about you. No matter what type of person you are or relationship you have with her son. If she was adult enough to directly confront you this wouldntt be a problem. Considering she is being nice to you to your face and catty behind your back sounds like she is worried about losing her son to you. Remind her that whatever is going on is mutal maybe your bf should be present to help you along.
Good luck
2007-09-11 18:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this my daughter Kate? Sounds just like her. If it is her, I've told her time and time again, that she must speak to her bf about this! He must not repeat hurtful things his mother says to her! He is just hurting her too if he does! Best thing is to never spend time with her. I know there are times when you feel you must, but at the same time, you don't have to be in her proximity. Some mothers never feel that a girl is "good enough" for her son. My mother-in-law still feels that way, has caused lots of problems, and it's been 34 years! I just treat her civilly, and ignore her the rest of the time. One thing she is fully aware of, she is not welcome to stay at our house. If she needs care in the future, it will be in a nursing home. I hate to be so bitter, but after all this time, she should know that I am the best thing for her son. Good Luck! :)
2007-09-11 18:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay first of all i can say i totally understand i have been with my boyfriend 10.5 months straight now been off and on fo about 5 years now and his father hates my guts wont admit it but ive heard him i am a money stealing *****.....in his words. He moved in with me and robert a week or so ago and has been all nice offering to take me to work...etc but i learn to deal with it im not in love with him i am in love with his son. he doesnt have to like me.But he will respect me in my home.I hold grudges very well too, but think of it this way....your not going to be married to his parents they have their opinions and you have yours im not going to say it will get better im just saying brush it off, dont pay them any mind if you love him it shouldnt matter what his parents think
2007-09-11 19:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT marry someone whose parents hate you and whom you hate! They probably think no one's good enough for their baby!
Run! It would get worse after the wedding.
If you MUST(?) marry him,then ran away and stay far,far away.Then when you have their grandchildren, they might accept you more.And then may be not.
Is your boyfriend worth all the trouble?? I guess not!Think hard and fast.You might even lose your parents!
2007-09-11 18:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by Glo in the dark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to tell your b/f that you won't marry a man who's mother is openly hostile. My guess is that she doesn't think you are good enough for her baby boy. That's a hard thing to fight, so you are going to have to decide if you want to. How does your b/f react to this? That should tell you what to do.
2007-09-11 18:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure sounds like it's time for you to grow up young lady. You don't want them to say things about you but it's ok for YOU to say things about them? Come on now. Kinda sounds like you may be a real pain to get along with. You hold grudges FOREVER? That is a real sign of immaturity right there. BTW, why should you even care if your friends agree with your ideas about your bf's mother/father? Sounds like you gossip about other people too. Hmmmm....maybe the Mom has a real reason not to like you and wants her son to do better than you.
2007-09-11 17:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by Mamapie2u 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
You are NOT marrying his Mom......most Mothers never like THEIR SONS, girlfriend.....Be fake back......if you must....
After you get married,,,,,if you do....move a distance away...so she does not meddle in your marriage......
Glen
2007-09-11 18:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by Glen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby, trust me, he is NOT the person u need to marry , it will cause you great stress....please hear me...your story is IDENTICAL To mine but we have a child and i married him and LORD it has been H-E double hockey sticks....dont do it...its not worth the pain of unforgiveness...u will have plenty of it...dont do it ...leave him alone unless he is totally willing to cut her off and that wont happen without God intervening HEAR MEEEEE DONT DO IT!!!!!
2007-09-11 18:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by panini 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋