How do you gain confidence?

Question

What are some ways to gain confidence? I am a very insecure person with very few (maybe even none really) friends, and I get nervous whenever I meet people, and I have trust issues. People have been really mean to me throughout my life mainly through jr. high and high school and it has ruined my self-esteem. How do I get it back? I try to fix myself up, but I guess feeling good about the way you look doesn't compensate for the way you feel about who you are. Someone please help!

Answer 1

find out what it is that you dont like about yourself. Why are you insecure? And dont concern yourself too much with high school. once you are out on your own, things that happened back then will seem, insignificant. Theres some that say if you keep telling yourself somthing eventually you will start to believe so you can try that to :)

Answer 2

You are not alone when you mention low self-esteem and insecure. Same for me, I am also a insecure person. But I believe in this: In everyone, there is a inner strength that if you believe strongly enough, it will push you through obstacles in life. How to discover this strength?
1. Stop telling yourself that you are insecure and lousy - only then you will start to embrace new confident.
2. Look into yourself and ask what is the most confident and comfortable things that you do that makes you feel great - this helps to regain your confident.
3. Helps other who are less unfortunate - Very often, giving helps will makes one feel good.

Finally, lean to accept that the world is not about how people look at you but being comfortable about yourself, do the things you like and be happy living.

I am also trying to discover my real self. I don't know how long it will take but I will keep on trying. Don't lose hope and enjoy life.

Answer 3

Remember this very important truth, one out of every three people are *** holes or idiots, some are aware others don't care. When you decide on a value system and refuse to budge from those values you give your self power. This is usually derived from things like religion, law and sciences. Don't deal out a hand of **** but don't take one either.People that can't treat others with respect and dignity usually don't deserve it back, pick your battles wisely and often times consider the source, it's probably an idiot so who the hell cares what the jackass thinks, says or does, they matter not!