Family & Relationships - 11 September 2007

Tomorrow will be ten years. Neither of us have said a word. He left this morning for a business trip without even mentioning the fact that tomorrow is our Anniversary.
I have not said a word either. It's an empty marriage for me.
I assume it is for him as well, although he seems fine.
Is anyone else in an unfulfilling, loveless marriage? What do you do on Anniversaries, Birthdays etc?

2007-09-11 03:02:50 · 20 answers · asked by candy'sroom 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I worked at Measured Progress through a temp agency. They said I was not motivated because I was not available for overtime, and terminated me for being "not motivated". With kids and family who has the time? I did work a Saturday.

I worked for Liberty Mutual Insurance through another temp. They terminated me saying I was "not productive". They track your productivity using Productivity Tracker, but no one assisted me in setting up so I could track my progress, then blame me for being "not productive".

These companies are ungrateful. After the time you've put in to find them and the background check and your sensitive information you've given out, they turn around and tell you to leave.

I called human rights and they tell me sorry, can't help you. Because your state is an employment at will state, and the companies do not accomadate you for having kids...you're out of luck, so go find a baby sitter even you don't have money. Sell your house even if its not saleable.

2007-09-11 03:02:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i have a prob,last 1day ive got a dispute with my husband,as he wanted to have sex and i didnt want to,so he insulted me telling me that i was an horrible person.so i didnt talk to him,when he came back ystdy he didnt talk either.even 2day hes off,he went to gym.what should i do?am waiting 4him to xcuz himself bcoz hes all at fault.but he seems to be the one who was insulted.hlp pls coz weve never had dispute like this before.

2007-09-11 02:59:41 · 21 answers · asked by j-b 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I had recently moved back in with my mom and sister. I have my son half the week per a custody agreement with his mom. Lately, I have been taking a lot of negative actions from my family. They constantly tell me that my stuff is in their way and I'm lucky I live there. They try to take over my life with my son at times and tell me that they will take him and raise him because they don't think I am a good enough father. My girlfriend sees this and she gets upset because she knows that is not the case. I need to move out of this situation but I don't have money saved to leave right now. I don't know if a shelter is a good place to go to save money while I am working to afford a new place to live. I have tried talking to my family about this on numerous occassions and it changes for a few days and then it's back to the same stuff. Any advice would help.

2007-09-11 02:58:39 · 3 answers · asked by kws504 2 in Family

2007-09-11 02:57:24 · 19 answers · asked by abina s 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I cant seem to have a normal conversation plus i find it hard to control my urges....like i make suggestive comments before i even tell the guy that i like him. I am insecure too and i'm unable to love myself. I think i'm ugly and stupid. Ive a lot of hidden resentments and anger as i was raped when i was 8. I'm so depressed and i cant go on like this anymore.

2007-09-11 02:56:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

so last november i met a female online and was a over the road truck driver at the time so i decided to meet her in person.we met in tulsa ok and i ended up moving to missouri to be with her.well its now 10 months later and she flipped out and left me and called me every name in the book when i got a payday loan to compensate for the money we did not have one payday.i was hurt at work and couldnt work full time anymore physically and she was working at the church of scientology making around 40 dollars a week.anyways i didnt tell her about the loan and she ended up finding it when she was snooping through my email.she flipped out and broke up with me..said every possible mean thing she could and now not even a month later is sleeping with some other guy she just met.she had one date with him and slept with him the same night.she keeps asking me for money because financially she cant do it alone and i still love her.what the hell should i do?go back to ca and forget about her @ss?help!

2007-09-11 02:56:30 · 6 answers · asked by menzel_damain 1 in Singles & Dating

How many of you girls would let your man be with another woman as long as you were there and in on it at some point?

I know I will prob get alot of crap for this, but if you trust your man and are open to new experiences, why wouldnt you?
I am just curious how many would do it... My man said that he is amazed that I would allow such a thing.. I know I am not like may other girls, but there are some out there who think like I do...

2007-09-11 02:54:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Really, I just dont understand it! Most of them like playing mind games and I can never really get a for sure answer whether or not they are interested...What do I need to do to bring forth the answer a little quicker? I met this girl that is very flirty and always gives me a hard time...nothing serious but more of a flirty hard time...Is this a sign?

2007-09-11 02:53:11 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-11 02:52:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i usully go with my cousin who is 3 yrs older than me and is a boy.....i find most embarresing to sit besides him although we are very close to each other cause all my friends stare at him and i pretend not to notice and afterwards hey make some teasing comments like he is cute or something like that .........should i be embarissed???

ps....i am not usully alone there is his brother as well and his mom and my sister and mom but he or his brother(who is 2 yrs older than him) always sit beside me..i dont know why....just a condicdence i suppose.!!

2007-09-11 02:50:34 · 7 answers · asked by J. S. 4 in Family

i am afraid to fall in love with someone?i m scare to hurt his feelings and also mine.don't mind to be hurt.i m afraid the expectation is too much from other side,i m talking like i m so great but the truth is i am not.what does this mean? i just need to be loved but why cant i get it?But God love is always there they said..but God love is different from human love....

2007-09-11 02:49:23 · 11 answers · asked by truth set free 1 in Marriage & Divorce

When my gf and I first met we discussed (foolishly) our past sexual histories. I had been with 5 women total in 4 years while she had been with 27 in 2 years (not including oral only). At first this did not bother me but as we dated sometimes she would blurt stuff out that I really did not want to know, like, "I used to kiss all the guys in the club, I had sex in car parked at a busy gas station, I "messed around in a porta-potty" and now I'm having trouble getting these images out of my head. What really troubles me is that I found a letter she had written in which she said the thought of me with the other women made her want to puke but made no mention of her past except "she didn't like to talk about it but sometimes it slips out". Later in the letter she says she must learn to get over it. I think she has an easier time because mine were in the context of relationships and not drunken oneniters. I do know she had low self esteem before she met me but I don't know what to do.

2007-09-11 02:48:03 · 17 answers · asked by poison_memory 1 in Singles & Dating

What if the husband was dying?

2007-09-11 02:46:19 · 27 answers · asked by Svetlana 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i am afriad they will find it and i don t want them to ....i have most embarresing things there i don t want them to read.......pls give me a good hiding place!!!

10x everyone who answers

2007-09-11 02:43:38 · 46 answers · asked by J. S. 4 in Friends

Is it cute? Or is it annoying? Why?

2007-09-11 02:42:14 · 14 answers · asked by jeska102 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok, so heres the story. . I am 20 years old my husband is 22. He is maintance at our apartment complex for 4 years now and i babysit. Our combined income is 700/ week. Now to me that sounds like alot but its not. Our rent is only 320 b/c he works there. We want to start a family in the next year or two and have a very nice cozy aparment w/ 2 bedrooms and just about everything you could dream of having, computer, big tvs, huge king beds and all new kitchen appliances. My thing is, everyone keeps telling us we are married and we need to have a house before having children. I personally dont want a house, i mean of course i do but i dont want to work 50 hours a week to barelly make my mortage, and not be able to enjoy family time and shopping and having money to spare. Does this sound dumb? I wish my family would get off my back of my husband geting a house for us, i just dont see us getting one if we ever do for atleast another 10-20 years. any1 w/ expierence on apartment living?

2007-09-11 02:41:43 · 8 answers · asked by whatup 2 in Family

OKAY SO I REALLY WANT TO CONFRONT MY EX AND TELL HIM CERTAIN THINGS THAT I CAN'T HOLD INSIDE ANY LONGER, AND NO ITS NOT TO GET BACK WITH HIM! HE IS AFRAID TO CONFRONT ME! WHAT CAN I TELL HIM IN A SMALL SENTENCE THAT WILL MAKE HIM WANT TO SEE ME!! ITS DRIVING ME NUTS!

2007-09-11 02:37:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I want to have it open, but my mom had a good pint to close it so people are not disturb dinner and the speaks and the dvd we want to play!

2007-09-11 02:32:35 · 15 answers · asked by Kelsy 1 in Weddings

Married 28 yrs, last 2 or so have been difficult. Awhile back he started his own email acct (in the past we've always had the same password) and I just found out last week that he is talking to classmates from classmates.com. He went out w/ 3 females he went to school with last week and I never knew he was talking to them until he wanted to meet up with them (2 are married, 1 is not). I lgot suspicious and looked in his cell and found a couple of contacts that I don't know who they are...when I questioned him about it he just said he talks to alot of people (which he really does for business) and that I should not be going through his stuff. This is the 1st time this has happened, however the last couple of years we've had some problems w/ our marriage. What do you think?

2007-09-11 02:31:39 · 64 answers · asked by bambam4343 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Okay, don't tell me to leave him, we have kdis and I want to try one last time. a year ago he moved in with a coworker, when he came back he did & said a lot of hurtful things, but i tried to get past it. we have been back together for 10 months. sometimes i still have a hard time with it, so a few days ago he is like you know i never really slept with her. so for a brief time i was very hapy because that is why i couldn't get over it, then he decided to stab me in the heart the next day by telling me that he did, twice. see when he first came back he told me only once because he felt guilty about it, now he says twice so that tells me he does not feel bad. but the last 10 months have been nothing but a lie. i know i don't deserve this, but aside from sleeping with her what hurts the most is knowing he doesn't seem to care, he doesn't realize how hurt i am, i cry every single day. he says he don't show emotions. well everytime i cry he gets angry and yells at me.

2007-09-11 02:30:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My new partner is extremely kinky and likes to be very dominate in the bedroom, i've never quite experienced sex like this before and I really enjoy it. The first time we were together he asked if he could tape it, I told him no and he was ok with it, but now his birthday has come and he wants a BJ on video for his birthday gift, i've only known him for 3 months and i'm alittle weiry of documenting something like this, even though I would like to do it for him. I don't want to end up on the internet, even though I truly believe he would'nt do that, I don't trust to many people. What should I do?

2007-09-11 02:25:31 · 22 answers · asked by Steviemercury 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-11 02:19:59 · 16 answers · asked by opossum3 1 in Marriage & Divorce

For anyone who suffers from it, did/do you find it difficult, if not impossible, to give anything to a relationship? Do you feel that you have nothing to offer, and cannot give yourself to someone in a relationship? If so, why do/did you feel that you were not giving enough? Is it just a result of lack of emotional energy?

My ex is the one going through this, although we have little communication because I want to let him have his space. We've been apart for about 7 months now, but I still really care for him and worry. I've told him time and time again that I am always here for him if he needs anyone to talk to or listen, let him know that I care and encouraged him to get help. Should I continue to keep in light contact with him every once in a while? You know, just send an email or something letting him know that I care and am thinking about him? Or have I done enough, all that I can do, and should I just step back and let him come to me? I don't want him to feel I've abandoned him

2007-09-11 02:19:41 · 11 answers · asked by dohnnyjepp 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-11 02:17:10 · 19 answers · asked by smiles22 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Over the past year I became best friends with someone who I felt understood everything about me. We grew very close, and somehow we ended up in a loving relationship -- this was very gradual and step by step and definitely didn't happen overnight. We spent every second together, and the past summer, we went on vacation together. It was amazing, and during the vacation we told eachother we'd love eachother forever and never break up. It was then that I devoted myself to our relationship, and when we returned home we didn't see eachother for a while. When we next saw eachother, he told me that he'd like to "take a break" and just be friends for a while, as he has a lot on his mind. I broke down, and told him this was when I needed him MOST, and disappear now was what i needed least. The next day, he called me and said he'd do everything to love me again, coz when he saw me in pain he couldn't take it. I was happy, but then suddenly on the third day of school, he called me and said that

2007-09-11 02:16:52 · 24 answers · asked by AAA 1 in Singles & Dating

If a man had been turned into a woman or vice versa, would you have seeing as you dont mind they had a sex change.

2007-09-11 02:12:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok ive only gone on one date and it wasnt that good. we only went to the movies and then a couple weeks later we broke up probly cause of that. i wanna know wat the perfect date is so that i can finally impress a girl and keep a girlfriend for a long time. oh and if it helps im 16.

2007-09-11 02:11:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

okay here it is:
My birth dad does not know how to be a father, he is very nice to me but i only see him twice every year and when he is absent from important events he sends me a card and fifty bucks telling me he is sorry, another thing he just doesn't get it once i was over in houston (i live in austin) and the one and only night I got to be with him only (hadn't seen him in 6 months) he blew me off told Vikki(literally evil step mother) to go and take me to the movies while he went to a bar!! Now turn to Vikki once when i was ten it was Bryans (my birthdad) b-day and i had spent like two hours on making him a b-day card and she asks me what i got him i showed her the card and then she goes "well let's go buy him something" and I said no i like the card than she takes it rips it and says "lets go buy him something" !!!! and the other part of that family always gos everywhere and than when i am there is like oh yay you weren't with us but you had better hings to do, whos wrong here?

2007-09-11 02:10:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

The last year I asked a man to lunch and he got mad.

Two days a go another man asked me to lunch and I politely declined.

The first man is a player I found out. The other man I hardly know but he seems down to earth.

2007-09-11 02:10:29 · 8 answers · asked by Sweet Pea 3 in Singles & Dating