Quick question about clinical depression and dealing with a relationship....?

Question

For anyone who suffers from it, did/do you find it difficult, if not impossible, to give anything to a relationship? Do you feel that you have nothing to offer, and cannot give yourself to someone in a relationship? If so, why do/did you feel that you were not giving enough? Is it just a result of lack of emotional energy?

My ex is the one going through this, although we have little communication because I want to let him have his space. We've been apart for about 7 months now, but I still really care for him and worry. I've told him time and time again that I am always here for him if he needs anyone to talk to or listen, let him know that I care and encouraged him to get help. Should I continue to keep in light contact with him every once in a while? You know, just send an email or something letting him know that I care and am thinking about him? Or have I done enough, all that I can do, and should I just step back and let him come to me? I don't want him to feel I've abandoned him

Answer 1

people are depressing

Answer 2

I have been suffering from post partum depression for the past one year when I gave birth to a baby boy. I couldn't stop thinking about how my husband loves him more than me and how things might be better if he wasn't born at all. Thus, I stayed away from him because I knew that I might do something I will regret for the rest of my life.

Almost instantly I went to a therapist and convince them that I need help. Among other things, I've tried herbal supplements and other book to treat depression but nothing works like the Depression Free Method. So now I'm proud to say I'm one of the happiest mother in the world. My husband loves us both very much and I thank the Lord for the blessing he gave us.

Depression Free Method?

Answer 3

When depressed, it is hard to give anything to something or someone you care about. The worst thing you can do is make him feel abandoned. Be there for him. as much as you can. offer to make an appointment for him, and go with him if he wants you to. I don't mean nag him daily, or anything, but every couple days give him a call and see how he is doing, see if he wants to talk. It doesn't always take a professional to listen, sometimes the best listeners and biggest help for someone who is depressed is their loved ones. Talk to him about trying some medications, available through an MD, he doesn't have to see a 'shrink' to get them. let him know too that if he does go to couselling you won't think he's crazy, and you will support him. There is still a lot of love there on your side, and i'm sure he still cares about you, but when you are depressed, and not getting help, its hard to contribute to any sort of relationship. be it friend, family member, or lover (spouse, bf/gf). I'm sorry you are going through this, but I have been depressed, and it takes the ppl who care most about you, to pull you through it.

Lexapro works well, and i didn't have any major side effects from it.

Answer 4

clinical depression is a mental illness that should be treated before having any healthy relationship or you could just bring other person down.Thank god i don't have I'll settle for ADD. i was told by my doctor i was given wrong diagnosis as a child which caused me years of clinical depression and misery. I tried 10 different kinds of antidepressants and none worked enough for me. Since getting right diagnosis at age 34, i was able to get off depression drugs completely with a CNS stimulant that works wonders for me. It's not perfect but a hell of alot better than what it use to be. The only thing i noticed since don't take antidepressants anymore after taking for 16 years is a little anxiety. Well sometimes alot of i get too much stimuli aka stress at once i have small panic attack somewhat controlled and duration 2-3 minutes then i laugh cause got through but for the moment was having an attack and i don't believe in medicating since i get through it so quickly and even though have a script i'll save for emergency like when i wrote my exam for the second time. Needed to take. First time i wrote exam just got off meds and had huge episode and literally thought i was dying or would be carried out on stretcher. Was awful but they just moved me to back of room bymyself and was ok until last hour and started up again . Told my doctor who treats me now and he gave me **** for abruptly stopping a drug without first cutting back.So no mental illness for me.

Answer 5

Depression can have several causes (and effects). In relationship, the ideal is to have a 'give and take' where partners feel they are being cared for emotionally as well as caring for the comparison other. This balance is difficult to maintain when one or the other participants is grappling with emotional issues like clinical depression (lasting longer than 6 months). Everyone goes through highs and lows, but clinical depression is defined as a more than just a long-term dysthmic condition and it can often be chemically-based and treated with medication.

There are several types of depression which can affect people:

*Major Depressive Disorder (Single Episode)
*Major Depressive Disorder (Recurrent)
*Dysthymic Disorder
*Depressive Disorder Not Otherwise Specified (NOS).

A brief description of these types of depression is as follows:

The two types of Major Depressive Disorder are the same in their symptoms but the difference is that with Single Episode. With the 'Recurrent' type you have had more than one episode. These episodes should not be otherwise accounted for by substance abuse, general medical condition, or a different disorder.

'Dysthymic Disorder' is different in that it is more of a chronic "milder" depression in which the person would feel depressed more often than not where:
(a) the condition lasts longer than 2 years
(b) the symtoms are never gone for more than 2 months
(c) no 'Major Depressive Episode' happens within the first 2 years.

It would be hard to address the condition in question over the internet, but my feeling would be to stay in contact with your ex routinely to ensure that he's doing okay and to gently recommend he seek professional help and/or medication to treat what could be a simple medical issue.

People with depression of all kinds often report they have 'nothing to give' emotionally in general and therefore cannot give to another in a specific relationship. The first step, therefore, is to take care of oneself. Good luck.

Answer 6

Does he love you? If he does try to help him. Encourage him to get counceling and he probably needs medication. Clinical depression is a real physical illness that medicine will help. He may need to try 2 or 3 meds to find the one that works. Don't leave him if the 2 of you love each other because he has clinical depression. Millions of people suffer from this. It is more common than you think. Good luck to the 2 of you.

Answer 7

Short answer yes keep in touch don`t let him think you have abandoned him. He feels worthless at present and the fact someone cares will help. Hey and you are a special person for caring so much.

Answer 8

That's not exactly a quick question. Give him space. My guess would be that you are doing more harm than good. You are constant reminder of a depressing situation.

Answer 9

counseling is usually the best way to talk about these things!!!I am going thrue the same thing and it has relly helped.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

why dont you just walk away from him and stay gone . I think they have alot more issues than you are capable of dealing with . good luck .