Family & Relationships - 11 September 2007

This question is meant to be light and not taken very seriously. I'm not looking for advice. I'm just curious to other couples' comments on this situation if they were in the same boat.

My husband and I are in our mid-twenties. We do not want any children of our own. Many people always say "Just wait and see, you'll want your own kids". Or they ask the famous question "how could you not want kids?"

Now, we have some clever ways of responding. My favorite way to respond to nosey people is to say "My husband and I are enjoying our selfish years first before we sit down and talk about having kids. When one of us decides we really want children, we will talk about it and come to an agreement". But we both already know the answer is no.

Do you have any other Clever ways that you answer these questions or statements from other people?

2007-09-11 08:24:31 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-11 08:23:11 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-11 08:22:57 · 12 answers · asked by Shelley 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi,
I'm turning 16 in January and I am stuck 4 ideas...
I don't want to spend too much, but I want to have a good time, and invite about 20 ish people (mixed - but i am female).
I live in the UK, so it will be winter (which is annoying as I'd LOVE an outdoor party...)

Any ideas would be much appreciated

Thanks!

2007-09-11 08:22:49 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

How does your current significant other feel about it?

2007-09-11 08:18:35 · 19 answers · asked by Mel 6 in Marriage & Divorce

is it ta 50/50 chance or more? he has talked about marriage before but i never really took too seriously cause it wasnt the right time

2007-09-11 08:17:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

i am still in love with my exboyfriend and we have been broken up for over a month. he wants us to see other people before we decide if we wanna get back together. i love him more than anything in the world. when i see him, my heart falls to the floor because i kno that he isnt mine. we made out yesterday and he said he loved me. i talked to him today when he brought me home from school and he says that most of what he said yesterday was because we were in the heat of the moment. if i could have one wish for the rest of my life, i'd wish that he and i were together. i miss him so much and it kills me to think of him with someone else. what can i do to make the pain go away? what can i do to make him want me again? what should i do if he never wants me back?

2007-09-11 08:17:06 · 22 answers · asked by lil_brown_eyes_hottie 2 in Singles & Dating

Gosh! It must be very nice to be Happily Married. Where the husband and wife get along so well, flawslessly, in their marriage life. Happily Married People are living Heaven on Earth, while Unhappily Married People live Hell on Earth...I FEEL SO UNLUCKY AT TIMES!!!!!!!! When I see Happily Married People....so very happy with each other...

2007-09-11 08:15:58 · 30 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2 in Marriage & Divorce

This girl and I fell in love a couple of months back. It was simply bliss. The problem was that she just got out of a 7 year relationship and she wasn't over her ex bf. She ended up leaving me to get back with her ex to work things out. After getting back with her ex we still kept in contact with one another telling each other that we still loved each other. We would secretly get together just to spend time with one another. But we recently agreed that our little secret rendezvous and talks on the phone were not right. So we both decided to let each other go yet we're both still in love with one another. I'm letting her go because I love her and I want her to be happy, but it's very difficult to do so knowing that she loves me just as much as I do for her.

2007-09-11 08:12:37 · 3 answers · asked by DFlow 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-11 08:09:46 · 1 answers · asked by patz50n 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Hi i have a friend, who i got on really well with before we broke up for the summer holidays. now that we are back at college (sinior year highschool) he is totally blanking me :/ ...
ill say hi in the corridors or the yard but completely sees past me, and desnt reply to msn,myspace or texts.
I got a female friend ( very attractive) to message him, and he replied in 10mins >< so i know its not to do with tech probs or tht..
I just feel really puzzled and a lil hurt that a buddy" wud be like this.
Advice?

2007-09-11 08:09:38 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My fiance and I have said "to hell" with all of the extravagance and decided to elope instead. On 11-14 we will go down to the county courthouse...my question is this...

What is the ceremony like? Is it the traditional vows of love, honor, cherish, obey, etc. OR is it like in the movies where he'll say "do you take this man, do you take this woman? I now pronounce you man and wife?". Thanks guys!

2007-09-11 08:09:28 · 13 answers · asked by Leigh 2 in Weddings

I celebrated my 1st annivesary a couple weeks ago. I have heard the saying "the first year is the hardest"...well, our first year was a walk in the park....I was just curious to see who else had an easy first year...does it get even better? I can't imagine it being hard to be with the man I love...what was your experiences?

2007-09-11 08:06:20 · 13 answers · asked by Kelly H 4 in Weddings

Okay so I'm a freshman in high school and he's junior in high school. I like him but i don't know what to say to him. What can I say to him without embarassing myself? We both play tennis but in different seasons. Would that be a good way to get to know him? Thanks so much I really appreciate the answers!!

2007-09-11 08:05:50 · 6 answers · asked by RichieSamboraGirl93 6 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-11 08:05:09 · 15 answers · asked by Julie 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Whats on your mind?

2007-09-11 08:02:11 · 18 answers · asked by Alexa F 2 in Singles & Dating

He used to have a suzuki. Crashed that one and needed surgery. Got into another accident on another bike and walked away luckily. I know he's the one for me but he tells me that I'm being jealous and selfish because he told me he doesn't want me on one because I'm a girl. I don't want one at all I just don't want to see him get hurt. If he was the one to get killed I'd be the one to suffer and he's proven his luck enough. I'm not trying to run his life. What should I do?

2007-09-11 08:01:02 · 8 answers · asked by jcb2387 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

who care if your seeing someone from your job place?...does it really matter who your talking to?..obviously it does if you got people worrying about it everyday?..why do some people think its wrong to date inside the work place?...and if you do why do you have people envying you all the time?....really does it mater?...

2007-09-11 08:00:34 · 26 answers · asked by Redd 2 in Singles & Dating

How do you think a bad boyfriend would act, also do you think if your boyfriend was controling alot and didnt kiss you very much anymore would that be bad?

2007-09-11 07:56:06 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I sent my divorce papers of to the courts and had not heard anything for ages so i contacted them and they informed that they have lost my papers including the marriage certificate. so i am resending the papers but without the certificate what can i do

2007-09-11 07:55:30 · 18 answers · asked by areyou_looking_atme 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi,

Me and hubby are married for nearly 5 yrs now. I have realised early in the relationship that he has commitment issues...perhaps due to his childhood. I had conceived within 5 months of marriage and had an abortion since he was very upset about it! I wanted to wait till he was ready. Last year or so, we had been talking about having kids in this year. We actually discussed in detail how exactly we would raise the child until he/she was old enough to stand on his/her own feet. Now, when the time actually came he backed out saying he does not ever want kids. I have a strong feeling it has to do with his feelings (bad) towards his childhood and father. He says, tomorrow if the child grows up and asks him why he went through with it, even though he was not willing, he wouldn't have an answer! He says he would probly be ignoring the child and the child would feel unwanted. He does not want responsibility. I have been googling about this topic and haven't found a good suggestion yet

2007-09-11 07:55:29 · 17 answers · asked by san 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I know this girl I like, and she knows it but she is givin me like mixed signals or something, want to know once and for all if she sees us going somewhere, anybody got any good ideas on where or how I should do it? I'm in LA. Or what should I do to find the right girl for me??

2007-09-11 07:53:45 · 14 answers · asked by thinkrealred 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

so there's a guy i like and he describes our relationship as "we're bf and gf when we're around each other and broken up when we're not." we spent the weekend together but i decided not to talk to him yesterday for a break from each other. we had 2 classes together today. in the first one, there was an open seat next to him but i decided to sit next to my friends...i didn't want to appear clingy. he looked at me and smiled and blushed i guess. he looked up at me throughout the class. in the next class , he asked me to sit next to him but we didn't flirt or anything...it was like nothing ever happened on the weekend. he even left before me instead of waiting like i thought he could. i kinda think neither of us know what we're doing. should we have a talk? any other advice?

2007-09-11 07:53:42 · 7 answers · asked by thebodyelectric! 1 in Singles & Dating

About 2 months ago my wife and I got upset with my mother over some favortism my mom showed my neices and nephew over my kids. I have since gotten over it basically but my wife just won't let it go. We use to go to my parent's house every Sunday but now it seems I can't do that. My girls love my parents very much, as do I. I want to continue to go over there on Sunday to see my family, but my wife won't go and I'm afraid to go because it may cause friction. I love my wife, but I want to see my family too. Am I being a momma's boy? Should I go to my parent's house Sunday anyway? I'm torn in half between the people I love the most. I don't think it's fair of my wife to pull me away from the family I grew up with, and yet continue to force her parents on me, whom I can't stand but have endured for my wife's sake since we married 7 years ago. I'm just so emotionally torn!!!!

2007-09-11 07:53:36 · 19 answers · asked by keith_stn 2 in Family

I'm telling my best guy friend I’ve had a crush on him for about 5 or so yrs now. What words do I use? How do I explain myself? It’s going to be a phone conversation so take that into consideration. I think he likes me back but I’m afraid it will destroy our friendship. What do I say? I’m scared…lol

2007-09-11 07:49:41 · 15 answers · asked by Indgrid 1 in Singles & Dating

i love my boyfriend and i know he loves me. i know he would never cheat on me, hes never lied to me and he treats me like a princess. hes always held his own financially and has showed me nothing love... but he got laid off a while back ago and i feel like ive been supporting him for about six months now.

.he has sincerely tried to get a new job but hasnt yet and it doesnt look as if he will.

i wasnt really worried about it because i make a sufficient amount of money right now for both of us but now my family is pointing it out to me and it is getting kind of frustrating...i love him and i dont want to leave him but im not progressing and its becoming very stressful to have to worry about taking care of him...

2007-09-11 07:45:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Very unhappy in Southeastern Alabama trapped because I refuse to let somelse raise my son??/

2007-09-11 07:43:09 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

he has a problem

2007-09-11 07:41:12 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-09-11 07:34:10 · 9 answers · asked by Help! 1 in Marriage & Divorce

After a long battle against small cell cancer, we learned yesterday that my boyfriend's mom passed away. I've been trying to anticipate his needs and take care of any errands or loose ends he has while we prepare for services. Of course, I made it clear that if he needs to talk or anything else, I am here for him. Was there anything special that you did for your spouse/partner that helped them through the grieving process?

2007-09-11 07:33:29 · 5 answers · asked by sleepingliv 7 in Other - Family & Relationships