Today is the big day!?

Question

I'm telling my best guy friend I’ve had a crush on him for about 5 or so yrs now. What words do I use? How do I explain myself? It’s going to be a phone conversation so take that into consideration. I think he likes me back but I’m afraid it will destroy our friendship. What do I say? I’m scared…lol

he lives two hrs from me...we are both in college...so the phone is the only option for now.

THANKS to everyone who took time out to answer. I will be revealing this tonight, hopefully and I will have the outcome as details. Wish me luck! Lol

Answer 1

congrats, you're taking a big step.

try "feeling" out the situation first.
you can do this in a calm, cool way:
1) go talk about the usual subjects
2) when he's comfortable, ask him questions about other people that he might like, if he doesn't have one, and talks about you, that means he's focusing on you, which is a plus.
3) ask him questions about you. you can turn this interrogation session into a game, like 21 questions. etc. ask him what he thinks of the guys you've dated, or if you haven't dated, ask him what he thinks of you.. ask him about his honest opinions about you, to see what/how he sees you. if you hear positive, charming feedback, then he's being nice. if you hear strong feedbacks, like "i think your cute, and any guy would not be crazy enough to be with you" (or somewhere along those lines) then go for the kill.
4) to go for the "kill" just counter it and say, "hey, do you think i'm cute enough to be with you? hypothetically speaking that is" pretty much creating an imaginary line to the conversation. if he expresses no, then it was a hypothetical question, you can cover it up and say, "i guess that's what the guy that i like will say, he has the same traits as you..etc." to smoothen things and move on.

expressing your heart is hard, but you have to be clever in doing so.

Answer 2

First of all, this sort of thing is much better when done in person. But either way, start off by telling him how great he is and how much you value the friendship, but lately it's become something more. Say that you don't want anything to come between you but you have feelings for him. If he seems a little weirded out, stop right there. He's not the one for you and you'll have to get over it. But if he acts interested or even a little confused, keep going. Let him know that you're interested in being his girlfriend but you'll wait for him to decide. Let him know that this is something you've really thought about, that you feel its worth it to risk the akwardness that's sure to come if he turns you down, and that he'll still be your best friend no matter what. After that, its up to him. Be true to your word though, if he says no, dont take it too hard. Give him time to think and dont push him into a decision. Meanwhile just go on being best friends. And again, I strongly suggest doing this in person, but its really up to you. Hope I helped some.

Answer 3

I had to do the same thing about 10 years ago and it was nerve wrecking. I didn't think about anything else all day.

If you can absolutely do this face to face you will not regret it.
Tell him you've been thinking about this for a long time and you've got to get it off your chest.
Just let him know that this is how you feel and that you don't regret telling him and that you thought he should know.
Tell him how comfortable you feel with him and how you can tell him anything. Your feelings for him shouldn't be any different. Tell him how nothing feels real unless you've told him about it and shared it with him.
Tell him how much you look forward to talking to him every day and sharing the most mundane things. It didn't matter.
Tell him how the day goes by faster after you've spoken with him.
Tell him his happiness means a lot to you despite what he's feeling and you would be happy if someone else makes him happy.
Tell him how every guy you've dated you've subconsciously compared them to him and they've never added up.
Tell him if you thought this would destroy your relationship you would not have said anything. And as a matter of fact these "feelings" you have would have been a non-issue because you know the strength of the relationship.
Don't be scared.
Can you live with not telling him?
Can you live with never knowing if he feels the same?
You'll never know what can happen if you don't try.
I really can't believe I saw your question. I would asked the same question almost verbatim 10 years ago.
I said what I needed to say because I couldn't live comfortably without knowing.
This guy was my best friend, my buddy, my confidant.
He was my cheerleader was always in my corner regardless of how things went. He was at every Thanksgiving and Xmas dinner with my family. Everyone knew him.
He was a great friend....................................................................and a greater husband.
Do it. Get your questions answers.
I hope you end up on this side of the rainbow.

Answer 4

Start with, "Have you got a minute? There's something I'd like to talk to you about." That lets him know you have something serious to say. Then take a deep breath and tell him just the way you told us: "I've had a crush on you for about five years now."

He will probably say something, and you can make it a conversation by letting him take the lead from that point, and answering honestly. If he says "Why didn't you say something sooner," just say you were scared. If he says "What do you mean by 'crush'?" just tell him the truth as you see it.

If he reacts negatively, just say you'd rather keep him for a friend than freak him out with this, so please just forget you said anything. If he decides later it might be a good thing, he'll have to say something about that himself.

Answer 5

You're friends, so he knows you pretty well after 5 yrs.! Just be yourself. Let him know over the past 5 yrs. you've grown to really care about him, respect him, & you realize you have more than just the normal "friendship" feeling twds. him. You've realized lately just how important he means to you & how important he really is to you & that he's actually become a part of your life so to speak. He's always there for you unconditionally, you trust him, know he w/be honest w/you, feel he looks after your best interests regardless of the situations. He's the first person who ALWAYS comes to mind that you want to share things with. He's just your #1 person in your life. You just can't help but feel your friendship goes deeper than you realized it had gone. Let him know you've been wanting to tell him these things, but were a bit afraid to because you didn't want to scare him & take any chances in loosing what you already have with him. But, at this time, you felt you just have to say what's been on your mind & be open & honest w/him. Just be honest & sincere, it w/show in your voice. Just let him know how much you care about him & exactly all he means to you. I don't believe he w/fault you for your honesty & the fact you were finally able to say how you truly feel about him. I DO WISH YOU THE BEST, & feel things w/work out OK for you. Don't forget my saying, 99.9% of what we worry about never happens! You'll prove that to yourself time & time again through out your life. Think of me everytime you do it to yourself:) Take care, & thinkgs have a way of working out for the best, that too you'll find out.

Answer 6

Well that's amazing new's i wish you good luck and all the best, the really good thing is that your being honest with him!
Tell him that you want to be honest with him and you have something important thing to tell him. And go from there! it'll be fine! :)
Good Luck! :)
lil miss vixion

Answer 7

Try to take him someplace nice, maybe put your head on his shoulder or hold his hand.. See how he reacts to it instead of going a direct route.
My wife and I were friends for 8 years before she tried that with me. Been married 10 years now..

Maybe that idea will work, maybe not.

Answer 8

Oh my, don't do it over the tele......this is a face to face kind of thing, if at all, remember your could be risking everything. Don't you think if he liked you in the same way he would have told you? Careful, and best of luck!

Answer 9

Hes your best friend, right?
So you'll know what to say when the time comes.
Calm down and good luck!!!!!

Answer 10

Well.....break the ice by saying "Guess what" he will say what and then you say "I have had this huge cruch on you for so long" say this with surprise and excitement...get him excited. And then he will be speechless...then you say "Ist'nt that weird" and thats when he will respond and just go from there. B very adult about.