i am still in love with my exboyfriend and we have been broken up for over a month. he wants us to see other people before we decide if we wanna get back together. i love him more than anything in the world. when i see him, my heart falls to the floor because i kno that he isnt mine. we made out yesterday and he said he loved me. i talked to him today when he brought me home from school and he says that most of what he said yesterday was because we were in the heat of the moment. if i could have one wish for the rest of my life, i'd wish that he and i were together. i miss him so much and it kills me to think of him with someone else. what can i do to make the pain go away? what can i do to make him want me again? what should i do if he never wants me back?
2007-09-11 08:17:06 · 22 answers · asked by lil_brown_eyes_hottie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesnt get jealous. if i try to make him jealous he just gets mad. its hard cause he takes me home from school. there are no guys interested in me at my school, so i cant date any of the guys there.
2007-09-11 08:40:21 · update #1
I am not 10 or 12. i am at the age where i can date. he was my first true love and it ended in a bad way. thats y it hurts alot.
2007-09-11 08:45:10 · update #2
Go get a life and stop asking Yahoo Answers...
2007-09-11 08:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by Moethedog 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First thing that I would suggest is to stop all contact with him for a while. I know it sounds harsh, but you have to do it. Otherwise, you'll continue feeling conflicted and hurt. Take the time away from him to be with your thoughts and try to look at the situation from a third perspective. It's important, because you don't want to chase after something or someone who doesn't share your sentiment. You deserve to be happy and loved. So, go and clear your head. Discover some of the wonderful things about you that others would love and focus on that. Focus on what you have already and visualize how you would've wanted your life to be without him in it. Be happy that you're you and keep yourself busy with things that you love to help you not think about him. When you're ready, you'll be able to face the situation clearly and make a decision as to your ex. Good luck and have fun in your self-discovery.
2007-09-11 15:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by whatif 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally relationships works both ways it takes two just to make it work. He has to want you as much as you want to be with him. He seem to like havin you around but he still wants to see other people. Men likes to have choices. I know you love him but it seem like his playin games with you. But you so in love that you cant see pass that. I think you need to go out and find a new friend. Get to know this new friend. If after a few weeks your EX doesnt come around to see what he has lost. Keep that new friend and please move on cuz you deserve better. If he doesnt wants you back open up your eyes and see that your a good girl and you deserve that best.
How long have you two been together be for the big broke up. Take some time to your self.
2007-09-11 15:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by Tameka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that he took you home from school so I will just assumed that you are still in junior/or high school.
At your age "love" is something very vague and blurry. You need to have more experience in life in order to determine whether who is being true to you.
You are really into him right now, because simply you guys are not "really really really" together. If you are fully with him all the time...trust me you will be bored of him.
You are still very young. There are so many options and choices for you to choose. Why be with someone that kept on playing games with you? If you totally ignored him and not be around him anymore. Trust me, he would running back to you in a heart beat.
He's doing this right now, because he knows that he could fool around with your heart and mind. Don't let him get to you like this. Let him know that he's not the only one that could play this game.
Good luck.
2007-09-11 15:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by VHE123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't really make the pain go away. From what I've been through in the past, the pain doesn't go away, time just allows your heart and your mind to adapt to it until you become numb and you just stop thinking about it as much.
As far as making him want you again, if he's asking for space. You're going to have to give it to him. If you do things drastic by forcing yourself to be around him, you're only pushing him away.
If he doesn't want you back, then that's just what it is. I'm sure a lot of people have been in similar situations and we all just have to pick up the pieces and go on from there.
I know it's difficult right now, and trust me, I'm feeling pain too as of the moment. We just have to figure out a way on keeping our heads up without being destructive to our own well being.
2007-09-11 15:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by DFlow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you told me earlier about this, I would have say if I were you, I would not give away anything of mine to him until I know for sure that he is mine.
I think you need to pull away from him. If a guy is indecisive and contradict its action and words, that is not a good guy to have relationship with.
To kill the pain, might be you shall observe other guys surround you that might be interested of you currently. Try to appreciate other male members nearby you and find out their good side.
If you dont' know if anyone is having crush on you, you could start taking compliment from both sex about whatever you were doing, saying, or thinking, and own the compliment, meaning you feel you deserve them. More importantly, you need to compliment on yourself. Why? You want feel you are good for any guys, and attract the member of the opposite sex with your confident. A confidence and self assurance woman is more attractive then a girl with perfect baby face and shape but have low confidence.
AND forget about him. When u start appreciate other male, and start feeling confidence, u might realize u are less dependent on him.
And dont' let him feel that you are desperate. Interact with member of the opposite sex or some of your girlfriend. LET him know that you have your own social life, that you can live without him. The least thing you want is to have him taking you for granted because he think he got you.
2007-09-11 15:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by deskof.vivian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good man is hard to find and easy to keep. Don't waste your time on the man that always keep an eye out for the next thing around the corner. Love is hard. In this country, one rarely die of hunger. However, over the ages, many souls have known to be slaughtered by love as evidenced in songs and stories in all cultures. Don't rely on another to complete you. You make yourself whole. Make yourself valuable to you, and others will attract to you. The old adage is true. Let him goes. If he loves you, he will be back. However, be picky. He needs to prove to you that he is worth taking back. Avoid damaged good. Stress out and sad about a relationship? You are normal. Exercise. Enroll in a gym. Run, swim. I, myself, prefer in door: no dust, smog, safe. You can have a clean shower and feel fresh afterward. Take good care of your body. Be lovable. Be nice. But foremost, you are a beautiful person take good care of YOU....If he leaves you, it is his lost. He is not ready for your love and commitment. He does not deserve your love. Would you pay a lot of money for a broken car that only give you headache? If it cost you more than money, then you need to seriously analyze it. Good luck in life and fight back. There are many good men out there. You just have to shop at the right market.....Have you seen the movie 300? You need to train yourself emotionally like the Spartans groomed their king. Don't let yourself be a good crystal glass in the hand of a 5 year old kid. You said that you "make out" with him. Have you heard: " Why pay for something that you could get it for free ?". Save and give yourself only to those who is worth giving. It sounds that your friend is only "window shopping". Life is tough. You need to be cautious about people. One last thing, ask yourself, does he deserve you love and attention.
Depend on your age, invest in yourself. Stay in school, later on, go to medical school so that you can help and touch others in a big way. Good luck.
2007-09-11 16:48:15 · answer #7 · answered by rider 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it to. He wants to date other ppl but have you waiting in the wings. Do you want to be his chick on the side? (Doubt it) So go out with your gurls and have fun. Enjoy being single and meeting new ppl. If you guys are meant to be you will. If not then you will need to move on at some point anyway so start now. You deserve to be treated better than how this guy is trying to treat you. There is someone out that that will treat u better!! There always is!
2007-09-11 15:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by geminimom79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guy is playing a game with you to say I love to a person and not mean it then that is just crazy. .. There are plenty of fish in the sea do you really want to be with a man that says he loves you one day and then changes his mind the next. You deserve better. Only time will tell. Good luck
2007-09-11 15:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by xoxocrystalxoxo2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what are you like 10 or 12 years old?do your homework and study and think about what you want to do with your life!!! for goodness sake the world does not revolve around this guy!!! you have a lot of growing up to do first and so does Mr. wonderful,which he really is not!!!!do not be a stupid girl who puts up with being treated like a rug and letting people walk all over and use you!!!! girl you have a brain use it!!! you are not in love it is a crush get over it already and stop being so desperate for a boyfriend!!!! good luck... and do not have sex to try and keep him sex can wait!!!!
2007-09-11 15:30:15 · answer #10 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date another guy. You may find someone who you really like n may one day fall in love with. Also, if you date someone else your ex may get jealous and if he doesnt want you back then move on. Show him that you dont need him.
2007-09-11 15:23:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋