After a long battle against small cell cancer, we learned yesterday that my boyfriend's mom passed away. I've been trying to anticipate his needs and take care of any errands or loose ends he has while we prepare for services. Of course, I made it clear that if he needs to talk or anything else, I am here for him. Was there anything special that you did for your spouse/partner that helped them through the grieving process?
2007-09-11 07:33:29 · 5 answers · asked by sleepingliv 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Consider him in "custodial care" wherein you are the caretaker. Clean the house, take out the garbage, write the addresses on the thank you cards for flowers, talk to the family members he can't handle seeing, etc.
Most of all, just listen to him talk, hold him when he cries, and let him know you love him. Grief is a long and taxing process. It takes a lot of energy. Let him be a mess if he needs to be,
I am sorry for his and your loss.
2007-09-11 07:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by Buffy Summers 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about that. give him my condolences
Mainly just be there for him, ask other freinds to come and be with him, try and get him alot of emotional support! and most of all help him in any and all ways.
Good Luck and my prayers are with you
2007-09-11 07:41:25 · answer #2 · answered by Master Hoyle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 21:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry for his loss, just being there letting him talk about it. letting him no your there is a great help. good luck to both of you's i no it's hard.
2007-09-11 07:40:52 · answer #4 · answered by Gone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there, that's all anyone can do.
2007-09-11 07:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋