has anybody proposed to their guy and he declined? is it risky?

Question

is it ta 50/50 chance or more? he has talked about marriage before but i never really took too seriously cause it wasnt the right time

Answer 1

I proposed to my guy on new years.. he said yes.. 5 times. I felt I had to ask 5 times so he knew i was being serious!! I think he was a little disappointed as he wanted to ask me himself but i felt ready, right then, and i blurted it out. We went ring shopping later (for me, he wont wear one) and when the lady told me to put the ring on he said "She can't drive like that!" and i kinda chuckled and put it on.. not realising he wanted to put it on later.
Guys can be pretty sentimental.. i guess it depends on what your boyfriend is like.. if you want to propose, feel ready and love him then do it.. there is nothing stopping you. If he says no it doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't love you.
Whats life without a bit of chance.
Good luck!!!

Answer 2

I thought about it, mainly because I thought he would probably never get around to it. But I then thought the better of it. I actually think most guys look forward to proposing. And I think they may feel like you have taken a tiny piece of their manhood away.....proposing is something that is important to a lot of guys.
I think I would have done it if I had still been waiting in another years time....I mena, come on, how long does a girl need to wait? But only as a last resort.

Answer 3

you can say 'i am the marrying kind, where do you see this going?' and see what he says. he may say, i want to marry you, and lets go buy a ring. or he may say, i dont see myself with you (no guy says this, they say, i dotnt see myself marrying for a long time, that usually means no.) so, you yourself never ever propose to a guy but it is very important that you do talk about the future with him because you dont want to find out years from now he never wanted to marry you. but you dont actally ask him. you tell him you love him and hope he sees a future like you do, and if he does not ask you then you stop seeing him, there is a book called 'why men marry some women and not others ' by john molloy. it will tell you everything.

Answer 4

Men and women operate differently when it comes to getting engaged. A man who has not proposed is either A. not ready to get married or B. preparing to propose himself. They don't wait around for the woman to ask them.

If you propose, you either A. are asking a guy who is not ready or B. stealing the thunder from a guy who is preparing to propose.

Answer 5

It depends on the guy. I asked me fiance to marry me about 8 months ago, and he said "no, i want to be the one to ask YOU". It hurt my feelings. But a couple months later, he asked my dads permission first, then went and got a ring, and proposed to me. I said yes. Some guys are just more traditional.

Answer 6

Closure is the most important part of a relationship first you must ask where you stand. Communication is important to come to a proper conclusion. Identify where you are in your relationship first.

Answer 7

I started hinting to my boyfriend that I should just ask him to marry me and I was prepared to go through with it. His exact words to me were "I am a traditional kind of guy, please wait for me to ask you".
So be very cautious with your guy. Maybe drop some serious hints that you are inclined to ask him and see what his reaction is.

Answer 8

I asked my fiancé to marry me,and he said yes :)
I also got him a ring,and i think he was a little put out that he'd not had time to buy me a ring also,because it was a surprise.
But he said yes anyway,and got me a ring as his sign of engagement to me,a few weeks later.

I think most men would like it - it takes the pressure off them,plus i enjoyed asking him!

Answer 9

i never have, but thought about it. i mention it to my b/f and he's like NO, because he wants to do it himself. he said that he's his thing, so dont i ruin it.

Answer 10

I think You should wait until "he" asks you.