who care if your seeing someone from your job place?...does it really matter who your talking to?..obviously it does if you got people worrying about it everyday?..why do some people think its wrong to date inside the work place?...and if you do why do you have people envying you all the time?....really does it mater?...
2007-09-11 08:00:34 · 26 answers · asked by Redd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know its not good...but in this situation there are no strings attached..the relationship can be dropped and be maintained to the friends they were...its funny cause i do see it happen...so the one who said that i need to get over myself....i was never "on myself"..it was a question..
2007-09-11 08:42:06 · update #1
It really depends on the kind of person you are, some people can do workplace relationships and even flourish at them, and I have seen others that ended up with horrible endings. Do people say it's weird if you dated someone from church, or school, ect... It's nothing more that a place where people get together and share some kind of goal, best way to know someone before you actually meet them.
2007-09-11 08:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the people this may bother just don't believe there should be relationship drama brought into the workplace. They get enough of it at their own homes. The others just don't want to see work performances being dictated in the workplace by who's dating who. I do also believe that the workplace is a great place to meet someone. If you work in the same place, what other interests do you share. So it actually makes since to date in the workplace. As long as a supervisor is not dating a subordinate. Even the slightest resemblence of an impropriety can lead to law suits. Such as when the boss decides to switch girlfriends and the old lady slaps a sexual harrassment suit on him or her just because they broke up.
Just keep the drama out of the workplace, (short answer)
2007-09-11 08:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by Rickey R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason it matters and the reason companies take a stance on it is it can create uncomfortable work environments in several ways (besides the obvious boss/subordinate issues.) If you work for a giant company and someone from marketing is seeing someone for accounting then they break up, probably it won't effect anyone. But if you work for a company with say, 25 employees, it can and will create tension should they break up. Relationships are ripe for gossip, and companies try to do anything they can to curb that. The can also be a giant distraction for everyone, even when they work out, which obviously isn't very productive.
If where you work is just a job, then by all means date your co-workers. But if you hope to make a career somewhere, don't dip your pen in the company ink if you can avoid it and certainly don't do it often. You might get away with one or two long term relationships but "hooking up" with several co--workers is a great way to lose the respect of your co-workers and gain unwanted attention.
2007-09-11 08:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by tnk3181979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some possible issues are:
If you are having relationship problems, they tend to be brought to work (which can negatively affect both of your performance).
Gossip around the office about the 2 of you distracts others.
If one of you is in a higher position than the other, issues of favoritism and such may come into play.
If you try to be discreet at work and not let others know you are dating, one or the other person's feelings may get hurt when their partner doesn't pay attention to them or virtually ignores them in an attempt to behave as if nothing is going on between them.
If a break up occurs, it can be really hard to see your ex at work every day...hear people talk about them, hear about them moving on and dating others, etc.
Also, some companies won't hire or allow (your) family members to work there, so if you were to marry that person, one of you may have to find another job.
Some people have no problems dating in the workplace, but there are the above issues to consider...it can make life more challenging and stressful.
2007-09-11 08:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Professionally speaking, it isn't really a matter of other people envying you. It's more about the supervisor / subordinate relationship, and treating others with professionalism at work.
While everything is shiny and new, it usually isn't a problem. The craziness begins when things starts to decline or doesn't work out. Even if the two people don't work in the same department, chances are they could cross paths on a regular basis. Hurt feelings or hostility is awkward in the workplace.
From the employer stand point, it is also about employee work efficiency/productivity, and potential situations of sexual harrassment.
2007-09-11 08:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Workplace relationships rarely last. Usually the guy feels he's conquered the 'chase' or vice verse...and moves on to the next challenge. People like to gossip and make silly bets on how long it will last. Or speculate all sorts of stuff. Plus it distracts from workers productivity. A lot of time is spent flirting and not doing your jobs. The magic tends to wear off soon because you see each other ALL the time.
2007-09-11 08:13:06 · answer #6 · answered by sandbox4u2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter as long as you both love each other and are getting along.
As soon as you fight at home, your both at work around everyone mad, that part sucks.
If one of you gets fired from that job or if the business ever closes, your both out on the street looking for jobs at the same time, that hurts.
Drive to work every day with each other, never have any time alone, I'm sure that will suck after a while.
What would you talk about after you drive home together after you've been seeing each other for a while?
Maybe this will work for you, but most of us would hate it after three months.
My opinion anyway.
OK so I assume your getting married some time soon when I say all of this..
2007-09-11 08:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by nelppik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, it should not matter, as long as you guys really care for each other, and want to take it to the next level, all well and god. But it does matter if you guys are carrying your relationship on, and being all lovey-dubby in the place of business, because it is just that. A place of BUSINESS. and you should respect your co-workers, but being in a relationship with a co-worker is ALL GOOD. Just go about it the right way.
2007-09-11 08:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there are many reasons why dating someone you work with isnt always a great idea. People at work tend to be all up in your business, what if something shall happen between you and the person you are dating at work. that can make for an awkward situtation but to each his own.
2007-09-11 08:11:26 · answer #9 · answered by pph24013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different people take relationships differently. If things go sour it may be distracting or stressful to see that person every time you go to work (where most of us don't like going in the first place). People may envy workplace relationships because they aren't, themselves, successful in that department and seeing it all day can be frustrating.
2007-09-11 08:10:28 · answer #10 · answered by night_wolf_ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋