2007-09-11 02:57:24 · 19 answers · asked by abina s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You find happiness in different parts of your life with or without kids....
2007-09-11 03:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my life pre kids was all about me and what I wanted. After kids is all about them and what they want and need. To be a parent you have to be completly unselfish. They consume every single minute , thought, feeling the minute they are born. There is nothing absolutley nothing in this world that can compare to the love of your child. Knowing they love you whole heartedly can just melt your heart seeing their precious faces. When you have kids suddenly the world is a different place you dont look at things the same. You notice how fast people are driving up your road that you lived on for years and never noticed before, you will hear a siren and pray that its not your child.. things that never mattered before kids will become very important. If I had to give up my life as a mom and go back to the way things were before you may as well just take my breath away. I wasnt living until these 3 beautiful girls I have became mine. I am so blessed. Its the best and most proudest happiness you will ever have. See your kid in a dance recital for the first time, see them score their first soccer goal.. nothing compares to that happiness when you arent a mom. Its just a different life. Enjoy your pre kid time because when the time comes you will be ready for a different kind of happiness. One you never knew could be so great and rewarding.
2007-09-11 10:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by neicygreeneyes2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found more direction and purpose in my life AFTER kids.
I'm not really sure still what constitutes happiness (seems a rather sporatic feeling...like laughter)
I can say I had more freedom before kids, but since I didn't know the value of that freedom, it was pretty much wasted working 2 jobs (keeping busy). Now I know the value of freedom, and look forward with a little smile and a little tear to when the kids grow up and move out.
2007-09-11 10:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the circumstances in which a person finds themselves facing parenthood. If unprepared emotionally, financially, and marital status with marital harmony, raising a child can be a heap of a job to tackle. If a person is in a happy stable marriage, has the financial resources then having a child can be a pleasurable experience. Having a child takes a lot of time and effort in order to be able to provide not only financial well being of the child, but love and clean healthy environment in which to thrive. Otherwise, having children when one is not ready can bring a great amount of stress and disappointments. Children are beautiful and can bring much joy into our lives but the responsibility of children should not be taken lightly.
2007-09-11 10:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't find life happier before kids or after...It was a different kind of happiness. Children are a blessing from God...and each one of mine (total of 4) have brought so much joy to my life.
2007-09-11 10:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say after kids. I had fun before them but now I don't know what I was doing before I had kids! My son (6) is my world and I am 7 months pregnant with a little girl! I wouldn't change it for the world!
2007-09-11 10:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by Meichelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happiness is a constant in my life. There were times pre-kid when I experienced great happiness. There are times, now, with the kids (and my husband) where I am overwhelmed by joy & contentment.
Happiness comes from inside, not out. I find my happiness, it is no one else's responsibility but my own.
2007-09-11 10:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was happy before I had my kids. But when they were born my life experienced a different kind of happiness that only kids can bring along with a little insanity LOL
2007-09-11 10:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are moments that I miss having time to my self ( to include going to the bathroom without a kid following me asking a billion questions...
But for the most part I am happier being w/kids.
2007-09-11 10:17:46 · answer #9 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After kids but boy was that a hard job!!! Truth be told, the real reward is the grandkids. This is when you see how well you did as a parent, watching your child be a parent. And those little facing looking up at you saying Grandma, nothing BETTER than that.....
2007-09-11 10:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋