Family & Relationships - 8 September 2007

i have my own boyfriend of 6 years, since college. and i've known this other guy since May. i've slept with him various times throughout this summer, with no protection. whenever i have sex with my bf, we always use protection. so i'm pretty sure my bf not going to be the father.
the problem with my friend is that he's 25 and just getting his life together. he moved back in with his parents and is also back in college to get his bachelors in a year. he's gone thru depression, suffered from drug addiction, and lost all his friends cuz of that. but now he's trying really hard to get back on track. i met him when he was doing an internship where i work at during the summer. right now he works at Target, and I work for a big corporation as a financial analyst. so i don't know if i should tell him that i'm expecting his babyor keep lying and tell him its my bfs.

2007-09-08 18:02:25 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm in high school and had been going out with my boyfriend for three months. He wasn't allowed to date because of his really conservative parents. Anyhow, he broke up with me about a month ago because he really wanted to follow his parents wishes and felt really guilty. When he broke up with me, he said he wished the relationship would continue but he just felt too guilty keeping it a secret. He'll be allowed to date in about a month, but I don't know if he still likes me. He'd liked me for three years before we went out. Does it sounds like I could get him back?

2007-09-08 18:02:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Online, Offline.

please, let the names remain anonymous.

sorry, i just HATE it when people are rude!

2007-09-08 18:02:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My fiance and iare due to be married in october and are both very excited.... But my fiance's sister in law has issues (to many to type here) she is driving me crazy she is always "playing the victim" and has a constant "woe is me" complex. we were friends until a conversation we had got me soooo frustrated i had to tell her "i cant talk to you about this anymore i have to go" in a firm and authorative manner. and hung up the phone. now when we speak it is very strained she is to be my matron of honor in less than 6 weeks and is neglecting every duteis MOH's are supposed to do. I'm not really sure what my question is i guess i need to know how you deal with someone like this she is going to be a part of my family and my fiance does not have a big family so what little he has i want him to keep even if she does make me want to grab my hair and scream. Just thinking about her makes me itch.....should i just let her do her thing and restrict our convos to the weather??

2007-09-08 18:01:25 · 5 answers · asked by sab20052005 2 in Family

i just started high school last thursday and ive already made alot of new friends both guys and girls but there is this really cute girl in my Tap class (bassically tap class is like study hall) and i want to ask her to homecoming but i havent even talked to her yet, shes kinda shy i think so i really dont know how to approach even just talking to her, should i just flat out ask her to homecoming or should i try to get to know her? and if u think i should try to get to know her how do u think i can approach a girl i dont know preety much anything about and that im kinda afraid to talk to?

2007-09-08 18:00:48 · 4 answers · asked by Joey P 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-08 17:58:50 · 9 answers · asked by ms.O 2 in Singles & Dating

1. Hot/Sexy
2. Cute
3. Shy/Nerdy
4. Wild Partier
5. Cool/Punk
6. Tomboy
7. Nice/Friendly
8. Smart/Intelligent
9. Hardworking
10. Honest/Genuine

Or others...

2007-09-08 17:57:36 · 40 answers · asked by sunny2006 2 in Singles & Dating

Im Not really well Not at all quiet at home..and its lik once i reach skool i get so quiet and nervous and scared around people
i also hate when people look at me it makes me nervous and scared idk wat to do i wanna get over my fear
can someone help me

2007-09-08 17:57:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My boyfriend came over one night and every has been really great, a few arguements but im sitting major exams at the moment so thats understandarble... Out of the blue he tells me that he thinks we cant go anywhere from here and things are different, that his heart tells him he loves me, but his head says it wont work. After pleading for hours he left me..... Today he has messaged me saying that that was the biggest mistake he ever made and he misses me and asked to see me. He came over with flowers and chocolates and we spoke about it. He told me that he just felt really freaked out, we were talking about moving in etc and he feels a bit freaked out, he is only 21. He says he loves me and cant be without me, but I still feel like he doesn't want me, WHAT DO I DO!? Thank you,
Ash

2007-09-08 17:54:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

to still live at home?

2007-09-08 17:54:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I'm 28 now and I have been in a very committed 3 year long relationship with a 22yo girl and we now have 2 children. A 2yo and a 2 month old. We have lived together almost the entire time and at times I admit I have treated her bad by ignoring her, arguing and not always meeting her sexual needs mainly due to our 1st child being in the same room as us and me not paying as much attention to her as she deserved. So she went back to work and I took some time off to watch the kids. Now i'm a loser for watching our 2 children, cooking, cleaning etc. Not an easy job at all. Around Christmas, 1 month pregnant with our 2nd child she broke up with me and continued to live under the same roof. So now and we still live together and still have sex sometimes. She told me the other day after sex that she has been having sex with a co-worker from month 2 of pregnancy to month 8 and she's still interested in him. She cried when she told me and I know she regrets it. I love her and my kids even more.

2007-09-08 17:53:25 · 22 answers · asked by dank1four20 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

it's like a mission impossible for them. i haven't really figured it though.

2007-09-08 17:52:58 · 21 answers · asked by the questioner 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Case in point: don't ask me why but I was surfing thru the personal ads in Yahoo & all the men said the SAME thing. "I love sports, I love being outdoors, I want some1 to walk my path with Jesus". Can we please be more original? What man doesn't like sports or being outside & finally why should I have to pretend to like sports when U don't if I want a BF :(. Don't ANY men like to stay inside cuddle & watch a movie after going to dinner anymore? :((

2007-09-08 17:52:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Guys and girls, let me know...
I was introduced to a guy by a mutual friend a couple of weeks ago. Since then, we've been texting and calling each other daily and just.. with a little flirting involved I guess.
I think I have feelings for him but I know he has a girlfriend already...

He is the one who always initiates the texts and he calls me... I don't call him often.

Any suggestions? Thanks!!

2007-09-08 17:52:16 · 36 answers · asked by sunny2006 2 in Singles & Dating

Ok, I'm curious about this. I have a few guy friends. They are like brothers to me (so, nothing sexual or anything). They all have lovely girlfriends too.

I find that when these guy friends are in the presents of other men, they show off. For example, I met up with a few of these guy friends last night at a bar. They had just come from a bachelor party. They were talking and saying to each other, "God, marriage is so stupid. One girl to have sex w/ for the rest of your life" and stuff like that. One of the guys said, "one girl for the rest of you life? That's what the women believe!" All the guys laughed and agreed.

But, what I found crazy is that, all of these guys are Head Over Heels for their girlfriends. They would not cheat and they all plan on marrying these current girlfriends.

So, do guys just make such sterotypical comments in front of other guys just to show off? Opinions? Thoughts?

Mens Answer Wanted too

2007-09-08 17:50:34 · 15 answers · asked by Answer Girl 2007 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm 19 and I've been single for 2 years and every guy I date just screws me over.

2007-09-08 17:49:57 · 4 answers · asked by lynn 1 in Singles & Dating

I always here about how someones Mom was an alcoholic for years.
Or someones father sexually verbally and/or physically abusive to them when they were young.
One thing that I never hear about is a family where when one grows up, there is a good nurturing structure where the children love and feel loved.
Therefore do better in life because of it.
Most achievers are either workaholics. Some earn success and some steal it.
Then there are some that are so damaged from their childhood, they can barely function.
So are there people out there that grew up in a healthy environment?

2007-09-08 17:45:56 · 9 answers · asked by Kari 4 in Family

I am at a business school. I am pretty and smart, a lot of guys pursuing me. Some guys already have significant another some where else. Some guys are sleeping with another girl in the same program. Finally, Some guys are unattached, and I happen to like them too, but they cannot take any disappointment. If I don't respond to their advance right away, though I have flirted with them a lot, they would go for easy girls for sex. These things happen over and over again, I don't what to do any more. Should I just sleep with them too? And when they ask me if I am interested, though I have concern, I still just say yes? That is the way to keep a guy and hopefully to have a real relationship? I thought people should be friends first before become involved, now it seems easy girls get all the guys, somebody like me will end up alone.

2007-09-08 17:45:19 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-08 17:43:19 · 2 answers · asked by omfgbeky 2 in Singles & Dating

Iam a freshman at college and Iam single and I always get girls that whisper in my ear about sex and I'm not interested. They ask me questions about my size and stuff. It bothers me though. Im trying to study and stay focused on academics but they keep getting in my way. Im a virgin. What should I do to stay away from these things.

2007-09-08 17:35:10 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm sitting here at home trying to do my math HW and my dad keeps coming in here and screaming at me. This sucks so much I hate my life. Should I move across the country (again)?

2007-09-08 17:34:24 · 6 answers · asked by Jennifer S 4 in Family

My mom just visited, I didn't even get to see her for ten minutes. She was crying and telling me how her stupid boyfriend threw her cat out the window of the car because they got in a fight, that bastard! Now she has no where to go, she does not live with me..My dad is like satan and wont let her into this house. No one understands what I'm going through right now, I am so sad.
I have a lot of family problems, too.
I just miss my mom the most because she's the only one that cares enough to listen to me. I don't know what to do anymore..

How can I through this without killing myself?..

2007-09-08 17:28:29 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I know everyone's different, but as a general rule, would a 20-year age difference matter to you? (Assume that both parties are over the age of 30 and the man is the older of the 2).

2007-09-08 17:26:25 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok so we moved during my third grade year so my dad cood get a job he wood enjoy more.then in fourth grade my mom and dad divorced he decided he wasnt happy with us anymore so after being mean to my mom and taking alot of their money they joint shared he left. so for a while it was ok for a couple months just going over to my dad then over to my moms untill my dads new girlfriend came into the picture like we got introduced to her then we really didnt talk cuz we didnt no wat to say and were shy. then my dad gets all mad and says we arnt being nice enuff to her and stuff. so this goes on for about three years until finally were sick of her telling us wat to do when she has no control over us and her cussing at us and just overall treating us badly. so then we get a court order that she is not allowd to c us(kind a restraing order thingy). soo then my dad decides he doesnt want to c us anymore so for over a hole year my dad doesnt have any contact with us never calls or nothing. then

2007-09-08 17:24:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

verginity together. and well [[lucky lucky us]] we got pregnant. i've never had to deal with ANYTHING like this in my life. and i kno its my fault. but it all happened so fast..and i told him [[the MOST scary and emotional nite of my life]] he took it so good. i thought he'd be mad. and leave me alone with this mess. but thnk god he didn't. i brought up adoption. i've always been against it, but i told him if thats wut he wanted, thats wut i'd do. but he actually shed a couple tears in my arms and begged me to keep it. but i'm so so scared to tell my parents and even more scared that i won't be able to support this baby. gosh, this is just not sumthing that happens to me. its so crazy. i mean..idk. i have so many thoughts...i geuss my question is..wut do i do? do i follow [[our]] hearts and keep our baby. or do i follow my mind and give it up?!? i just don't kno..i kno that kno one can tell me wut to do but myself..i just need to hear some other thoughts..please. and thank you so much.

2007-09-08 17:23:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

k, well, recently this girl i didnt really "like" came up to me at our football game and started to wipe my shoulder, even when i figured nothing was there, but, people said that she just wanted to touch me and tell me that "I like you"...well, i thought about it and a couple nights ago i had a dream, and she was in it....and in my dream i always had this book that i read and she knew that so she wrote a note saying that she liked me and wanted to go out with me.......and well, today i saw her and it wasnt like she really noticed me, i mean she did, but she never stopped and talked to me or anything....note she was with a couple of her friends and my school is big so there was a lot of people too...but, i dont really know if i have a chance at her, or what my next step should be to try to get to know her or to get her to get to know me..can you help me??. Tell me also what my next move should be, not too fast though...i like long answers!!THANKS!!

2007-09-08 17:17:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

... I was on MySpace at the same time as a girl on my friend's list? This is what happened: I was taking a shower when I heard my phone chiming to indicate that I had messages. I figured I would just answer the messages when I got out of the shower. Then I heard my phone ring two seperate times. Once I got out of the shower, I checked my phone and saw that my girlfriend had tried to text me. Out of nowhere she was asking me if I was busy talking to this girl on my friend's list. When I hadn't been able to answer, she said, "So it's true then... Ok" So I called her back and asked her what she was talking about. She said, "You know just what the hell I'm talking about.", and hung up on me. When I tried to call back, she would not answer. Finally I drove to her house and asked her if she was serious. She said yes. She had noticed that this girl on my friend's list who had been "in a relationship" was now single. She also said that it was too much of a coincidence that we were both online.

2007-09-08 17:14:10 · 41 answers · asked by Treblacram 2 in Singles & Dating

My fiance suddenly stopped kissing me passionately, stopped gving me foreplay, but expects me to please him.
Could he have cheated on me? Is it control? What could be happening? Why would a man do that? Did I do something wrong? It has been like this for over a year. I have hesitated to make wedding plans because of this.

2007-09-08 17:12:31 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-08 17:09:55 · 9 answers · asked by dillon20007 2 in Friends

I mean to ask that after after I and my husband have filed a mutual divorce petition, and after passing out of the 6 months time provided by the court, can my husband now refuse to give me divorce? Can the mutual petition be cancelled by him alone, if I do not agree to cancel it? It is now 9 months running.

2007-09-08 17:09:09 · 6 answers · asked by puja s 1 in Marriage & Divorce