Im Not really well Not at all quiet at home..and its lik once i reach skool i get so quiet and nervous and scared around people
i also hate when people look at me it makes me nervous and scared idk wat to do i wanna get over my fear
can someone help me
2007-09-08 17:57:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
omg i ttly had the same problem. i am a freshman right now and i usually am really bad around talking to new people....i get all scared think they will hate me or ignore me. then i went to high school and figured out these key things...
1) trust me, everyone is scared, some are new and others dont have the class with any of their friends and dont know anyone
2) to help you feel more social when you go into your class, find the girl who looks like she would be really quiet (is kinda sitting alone with a scared look on face) start by talking with them. they probably feel the same way you do.
3) people wont be mean to you if you start talking to them. i always thought this until i started getting more confidence
4) meet the friends of your friends. they will automatically be nice and talk to you because you have the same friend. most likely you will have a lot in common
hope this helps. i know it is scary but youll get over it!
2007-09-08 18:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was the same way, and it is still hard. you just have to suck it up and make yourself talk to people. smile even when you don't want to, if you are feeling shy, pretend to be confident. if you look confident in yourself, you don't have to make yourself be the one to start a conversation, people will want to come to you. dress nice, speak up, and don't look afraid to stand out or speak up. if you get nervous, just take deep breaths and close your eyes from time to time and pretend like you are just talking to a close friend or a family member. it may not help a lot, but it helps some. even if the fear doesnt go away, you make yourself SEEM confident and it will help quite a bit. even if you are nervous, put on an act and people will see you for you and you will eventually become more open and less nervous. school can be an intimidating experience at that point, you just have to push through it and just keep in mind that nobody is better than you and that you have just as much right to be comfortable on a day to day basis as anyone else. and every morning tell yourself that it will be a good day and that you aren't shy or nervous, and eventually you will have grown into that and actually feel that way. its a sort of self hypnosis. try saying it every night before bed as you are falling asleep too, that is when it works best.
2007-09-08 18:10:42 · answer #2 · answered by lyndsie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiddo, you really need to work on your self esteem.
The reason you are not shy and quite at home is because you feel secure and know that your family loves you unconditionally.
That is a great feeling, but at school, they are all really strangers.
You need to be kind to all and helpful. If you see someone struggling with their books or a problem in study hall, help them.
Reach out and pretty soon these strangers will be no more and you will feel more relaxed and able to be yourself.
Now hold up that head when ya walk and look at the world around you and even look them in the eyes, don't be scared.
You will know the bad from the good, hang with the good.
Remember we are all God's children, you might even help another shy person with your kindness.
2007-09-08 18:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like that freshman year, just relax. Especially around friends, dont be afraid to speak up or comment about w/e you are talking about. A movie, celebrity, whatever it is, just take a deep breath (not an obvious BIG one lol) and it will help to calm you. You wont be scared of others and the more you interact and fell good about yourself the better off you will be in high school and in life. I speak from experience I hope this works for you and that you read this even though it is low on the answers list. Your popular here and at school! :)
2007-09-08 18:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by Chris457 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, I had the same problem when I was in school. What helped me is to just concentrate on one person, being a friend of yours at first to meet someone else and so forth. You feel uncomfortable around alot of people? I did too. Family is one thing but strangers are different. This might sound dumb but I also worked at a place where I had to talk to strangers. So if you are old enough or when you do get old enough; work where you have alot of practice talking to people. good luck!
2007-09-08 18:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was like that a bit when I was younger alot its ok I believe you grow out of it I pretty much tell people whats on my mind now some of the women I liked most in school were shy but never really aproached them because I was chicken **** at the time haha n worried what other people said some people wold talk bad about them but believe me its not worth worring about ud be suprized at some guys that might like you I had women want to go to prom with me I never would of thought when I went in the Marinesvthat didnt no liked me n I was always against crowds n shy I guess
2007-09-08 18:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by dillon20007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah I used to be like that, and I was able to change it halfway through my freshman year by joining the theater club and acting on stage, and even though it was a very small roll I gained an insane amount of confidence in myself and I started being more talkative and making more friends and being more relaxed.
I'm really glad I joined it, I don't know what I would be like now if I didn't.
2007-09-08 18:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Davy D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I experienced that. My mom told me to make eye contact as I passed people in the hallways, and to say hello with a smile. 2 years later I was voted friendliest in high school.
2007-09-08 18:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get into a club. meet people. learn to open up i was like that in high school and wish i wouldn't have been. there's no reason to be shy, people except you for who you are or they don't. you can either be shy and the chance of never going to your proms or be social if you are a geek and i dont mean to insult, then join some type of club you can do it i am sure you can open up. good luck to you
2007-09-08 18:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by texasdaddy2009 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im a sophmore in high school, and NO ONE should be nervous at a high school. teenagers are known to be very "whatever" and accept (or should) who everyone is. at my high school, nobody really teases other people for appearance or anything like that, we usually dislike people who are mean and unaccepting (aka haters). if people judge others by their appearances at your school, then your school is messed up. or you need to be more social. ask people in your class what they like and be like "hey man i totally love MCR shyeahhh" be natural, and yourself
2007-09-08 18:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋