verginity together. and well [[lucky lucky us]] we got pregnant. i've never had to deal with ANYTHING like this in my life. and i kno its my fault. but it all happened so fast..and i told him [[the MOST scary and emotional nite of my life]] he took it so good. i thought he'd be mad. and leave me alone with this mess. but thnk god he didn't. i brought up adoption. i've always been against it, but i told him if thats wut he wanted, thats wut i'd do. but he actually shed a couple tears in my arms and begged me to keep it. but i'm so so scared to tell my parents and even more scared that i won't be able to support this baby. gosh, this is just not sumthing that happens to me. its so crazy. i mean..idk. i have so many thoughts...i geuss my question is..wut do i do? do i follow [[our]] hearts and keep our baby. or do i follow my mind and give it up?!? i just don't kno..i kno that kno one can tell me wut to do but myself..i just need to hear some other thoughts..please. and thank you so much.
2007-09-08 17:23:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It has to be scary, such a grown up decision to make at such a young age.
Talk to your parents!!!!, and at the most, expect them to be upset, what parent wouldn't be. But in the end, they love and care about you and will help with all the coming decisions to make. There is so much pressure out there these days, please make sure you get all the facts before you make ANY decisions. Though one may be immediate, it will come back to haunt you later in life, as for the other, there are programs for open adoptions and even if you choose to keep the baby, I know some young girls who by the time they was 16, on their first baby. With family, friends & local chariety support groups, most if not all kept the baby and now have great good paying jobs and wonderful children to boot. There are also great transitional programs for young mom's, so they can continue with schooling and go onto college. There is no rush, take your time and pray about it, listen to your heart. It's not hopeless and remember " Life Happens". Take Care and you will be in my thoughs and prayers.
2007-09-08 17:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell your parents.
they will support you.
i am sooo happy for you that you have such an amazing boyfriend that he wouldnt leave you during this time and that he is taking responsibility. you are lucky.
follow your heart and keep the child. youll be happier knowing you did.
but like i said first tell your parents what happened.
since youve never gotten in trouble before i highly doubt theyd be mean or anything about it.
they will for sure help you support it and hearing how your bf wants it so bad- he'll definately support it too.
good luck hun. having this baby will be an incredible experience.
ill pray for you.
<3
2007-09-09 00:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by kay lay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing to do: Talk to your mom or dad.
The first time I had sex, I felt alot like you do now, I did not get pregnant from it, but I talked with my mom and she bought me some rubbers, gave me the Safe-Sex talk, and toulod me to have fun.
Ever aftere I have had a blast!
As far as keeping the baby, thats up to you and the lucky guy- but do you really want a four year old when your in colllege?
2007-09-09 00:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with your parents and ask them to help you make the right decision.
You really needed to have gotten some real information on sex and birth control FIRST before doing that.
I personally would suggest asking your mother to take you down to Planned Parenthood and sit with one of their counselors. I would also suggest considering terminating the pregnancy as an alternative to losing a year or more of school.
You can always make a baby when you have grown up and gotten married.
Your boyfriend is ill-equipped to make any decisions on your behalf. He wasn't concerned enough about your welfare to wear a condom.
2007-09-09 02:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your hearts are telling you to keep your child than that's what you need to do, otherwise you will regret it, and once it's done, it's done. Tell your parents, I'm sure if they know you and your boyfriend are in a serious relationship they probably are smart enough to know sex was a possibility and they know where babies come from, it will be alright there your parents and they love you.
2007-09-09 01:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by jesser31285 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id like to start this off by saying to go with your hearts. do what will make you happy. if you give it up, you will loose something very precious because having a baby is one of the miracles of life and should be cherished. as far as your parents go, you do need to tell them. if they are like any amazing and understanding parents then they will help you get through it. and supporting the baby, wont be hard. chances are you have wonderful friends and family that will definitely help you out. Believe me telling parents something isn't always easy. *(off topic) Im gay and i still cant think of away to tell my mom* but you will get through it. and believe me.
2007-09-09 00:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id say you're first step is to sit down with your parents and explain to them, i know its gonna be hard but its the first step in anything, without them and their support it might not be possible to go through this situation alone, same with his parents, you parents love and care about you, they will help you through this, even if they are terribly angery at first..
2007-09-09 00:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep the baby... do what your heart tells you
2007-09-09 00:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by Hello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KEEP THE BABY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
dont give it away thats horrable and plus your bf has to support him 2 not just u so its ok DONT COMMIT ABORTION
2007-09-09 00:31:58 · answer #9 · answered by i know it all 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u shouldnt have had sex. stupid teenager.
2007-09-09 00:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋