Why would a man suddenly stop giving foreplay and expect the woman to please him?

Question

My fiance suddenly stopped kissing me passionately, stopped gving me foreplay, but expects me to please him.
Could he have cheated on me? Is it control? What could be happening? Why would a man do that? Did I do something wrong? It has been like this for over a year. I have hesitated to make wedding plans because of this.

Answer 1

Some men feel they do not have to do foreplay, some are uncertain how to do it properly

Answer 2

Because his little brain is doing the thinking right now.. Cut off the blood supply to the little brain so the big brain starts to think again. Then you can talk to him and sort things out a bit before restoring blood flow to the little brain once again.

We are guys, we all lose focus at some point and need reminders. Its like being a kid in a candy store, you have a plan before you enter the store, but once the doors open its over. Just change the store hours so he has to stand in line longer.

Answer 3

I think that something changed in his feelings toward you. it appears as he doesn't feel the same any more. So if I was you, I would find out before committing to a marriage. Because if he is doing this now, what is going to happen after a couple of years of marriage? You have to have a serious talk with him. Good luck.

Answer 4

Maybe you are the one thats not giving him foreplay so he feels like if he is not getting it, then neither should you. If that is the case, then its the game of tic for tac. Either way its wrong and it should be an issue that you two should get out in the open and discuss.

Answer 5

He's got you and doesn't have to work at it. All my married friends say that their husbands like service more than sex with them..... this is very disappointing to a single girl who wants to marry some day. Of course it is true for any guy but after marriage things change to better or worse. He probably thinks you like it this system. You NEED to let him know what you want. He sounds like he needs ideas. I hate listening to my married friends complain about the lack of the bedroom fun, it sounds like more work for the wives!

Answer 6

I would try telling him how much you miss how he kissed you or certain ways of touching. See if being complementary about how it used to be, rather than complaining about how it is changes anything.

I personally would not complete wedding plans with a huge unresolved issue like this hanging over our heads.

Answer 7

I doubt it's because he's cheating, but that he has gotten more selfish in bed. Tell him if he wants it, he's got to give it to you, if he doesn't and tries to withhold sex from you (some guys do this), just forget about sex for awhile til he comes around, if he doesn't, he's become way too selfish, and in a manner trying to control you. You definately don't need a husband like that.

Answer 8

First of all he has stop being passionate with you and having foreplay something that you are use to and you dont like it,,
But he expects you to please him how could you if your not in the mood to please him. Men do strange things sometimes without thinking about it. Now you are hesitated to make wedding plans because of this.

Best of luck

Answer 9

has your hygene changed? if your breath isn't the same as before or if you smell or taste funny he may reserve foreplay until after you've washed up (observe it). if you ask him directly, he may not tell you the truth because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. if you don't take care of yourself, he may feel that you may not be able to take care of him. if its his stress, you need to talk to him.
to answer your questions
most likely not
no
stress or see above
stress or see above
no

Answer 10

I don't know about cheating. But if he is watching a lot of porn, he might just be starting to see a woman as an object to be used. His new ways of treating you might well indicate a porn addiction.
Not all men get selfish because of porn use, but some do.