Is There A Such Thing As A Functional Healthy Family?

Question

I always here about how someones Mom was an alcoholic for years.
Or someones father sexually verbally and/or physically abusive to them when they were young.
One thing that I never hear about is a family where when one grows up, there is a good nurturing structure where the children love and feel loved.
Therefore do better in life because of it.
Most achievers are either workaholics. Some earn success and some steal it.
Then there are some that are so damaged from their childhood, they can barely function.
So are there people out there that grew up in a healthy environment?

Answer 1

I'm sure there are people out there who grew up in a healthy environment. But if you look deep enough you'll find that somewhere along the line there were problems that were worked on and fixed along the way. As humans we all have challenges of one kind or another. The challenges are there to help us grow. Without them life would be pretty boring. Even the happiest of people have challenges of some kind in some area of their lives. It's what keeps us going.

Answer 2

It's very likely since instinct is the main factor. Some breeds are more likely not to run from danger than others. Pits, GSD, Malinois, Dobies, and Chows have a higher protection level than some other breeds, but a lot of it is instinctual. Even without training a dog can sense from it's owners or pack members if there is a threat. Pits/Chows (in my opinion) are more family oriented and will give their life without thought to protect their owners and property as would Dobies. Malinois and GSD are the same for family protection, however, not always so willing to protect property (I've met some that would let you steal even the kitchen sink so long as you don't hurt the owner). Along with instinct, you also have how the dog was raised and breed. Of course, as with everything it all boils down to the individual dog. (At least that's my opinion)

Answer 3

I basically did, and a lot of people that I know did - but I am probably older than you (49). I think the problem goes back to the 60s with the baby boomer generation so young and in such large numbers, combined with the pill, knocked over the old 'boring' but stable morality - I didnt know anyone in High School whos parents had divorced - if people didnt get on at least society pressured them to stay together for the kids sake - ie they put the kids first, not last after themselves. Even today I know a number of very loving stable families - and they are the ones who have stayed married, gotten through tough times without turning on each other, and just worked hard. Their kids are happy and doing well. If you didnt get a stable childhood, you can still give one to your kids.

Answer 4

I often wonder myself.. and most of the time i dont think there is such a thing as a normal family. There is always going to be somthing wrong we all have imperfections and if you consider a family normal then they are actually weird.

Answer 5

yes there are healthy families, but normally their kids grow up to be the gangmember that "choose" to be in the gang, or school or work bomber, serial killer, serial rappist, malfunctioning child molestor, then they are the ones who start the bad families, so to answer your question there are some people who grow up nice, but will **** it up in the end anyways. Or so stuck on themselves that nothing matters but them and fashion, and all their minor problems that lead them to drugs.

Answer 6

thank God above, I did, and my brother and sister. We had great parents. Daddy worked hard and we knew it and would be quiet so Daddy could rest when he got home. We respected him but did not fear him. Mama was the best Mama. She always knew exactly how to make you feel better. I remember waking when I was a sick child with Mama right at my bedside with her hand on my forehead. A home with no drugs, no alcohol, no affairs, no fussing. Going to church was not a possibility- it was a fact of our life. I remember tracing around my Dad's hands as he prayed aloud in church. I was so proud of them.We all believe in Jesus as Savior and do all we can for Him, our family and our friends. We had just enough money. no big extras. Fun was TV and popcorn and time together.

Answer 7

Yes. Also one that's disfunctional.

Answer 8

Well humans are not perfect so I seriously doubt anyone grew up with a perfect situation. My father was an alcoholic, but my mother was the best. She kept our family together, ensured that we respected our father despite his weaknesses. She raised four children. We all grew up to be successful, fairly 'normal' and not an alcoholic in the bunch!!

Answer 9

Even the most perfect family will have their own set of problems.

Sin is in the world and no one is perfect.