Family & Relationships - 13 August 2007

i found a card in the garage the other day saying to my husband sex and i love it but it was ripped up i have been married to that man for 18yrs whats going on i know that woman aswell she is married with 4 kids

2007-08-13 03:49:25 · 21 answers · asked by astra 5 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I just got married a little less than a month ago. Neither of us have ever wanted children until now, however we were going to wait a few years (3 at the most), but I just found out I'm almost 3 months pregnant. How in the world do I tell him? His mother has been pestering us for months, so I know both sides of our family will be happy, but I'm a little worried with him because of the timing - just so soon into our marriage. Please help with any suggestions on how to break the news to him.
P.S. There is no way possible he's going to be angry or violent (just not in him), but what I'm mostly worried about is him being scared.

2007-08-13 03:47:44 · 38 answers · asked by ladygodiva0220 2 in Marriage & Divorce

She says she has not inlove with me, she just loves me.
This come from us had a rocky marriage to some degree, but always loving. She does not want to stay married, and I do not want to force it, but I do love her. I do things that are anoying to her such as having hobbies, and many other little things.
She is by my untrained view bipolar. I know this since she has a blood decease known as thalesemia minor. The point is I don't know what is normal in my situation. Is my playing an instrument an doing it daily (about 1hr after work), and then I fly 4 hrs on saturday mornings, then the rest of the weekend is free , normal for her to hate what I do?

2007-08-13 03:47:03 · 5 answers · asked by Jaime L 2 in Marriage & Divorce

How would you handle this? The kids were babies when I came into their lives we had them all of the time while mom had the weekends ( I did feel alittle jealous, but It me helped to get closer to the kids) Now that the kids are grown I guess now she is trying to catch up for lost time. I don't like it but she is their mom
the daughter does not come over as much b/c her mom gives her way too much leeway she became a teenager before she was a teenager. The one paying for it is dad. I feel bad for him it really bothers him but he is a strong man, that is what attracted me to him was the way he was with his kids now we have 2 beautiful kids of our own.
Hope this made sense.
Thanks!

2007-08-13 03:45:57 · 5 answers · asked by Buttterfly123 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I got divorced 5 years ago, I have a daughter with my exwife. Ive been going out with my girlfriend for 2 years, shes20 im30, Ive never cheated, Im loyal carring, romantic & im told im good looking!. I dont drink or smoke, Im a fitness instructor. Since weve bin together Ive had clamidya once and an STD. She swears shes never had sexual contact behinde my back. I dont like her going cluubing, shes been 3 times, twice shes kissed lads and even took roses home from one and put them in her room! last weekend she gave her number to another lad. When she drinks with her mates she completely changes personality, she gets abusive, arrogant and treats me like dirt. Shes my longest relationship, we have great sex, but theres more to life. I lover her, she says she loves me but she causes me so much stress, lies, disrespects me & I dont trust her. I dont know why I stay with her, We split up for a month and she wouldnt leave me alone until we got back . Whats wrong with us? What should I do?

2007-08-13 03:41:45 · 18 answers · asked by ? 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

She admitted to me that her ex called her Saturday night telling her she was bored. So my girlfriend invited her out with her friends. Her ex has 3 kids and a husband. How possibly bored can one be? I think her ex wants her back. Her ex gave her a picture of the both of them from there past. And I saw the picture by accident when my girlfriend open her purse. She admitted how she got the picture, but I feel that my girlfriend was cheating on me. Plus, one night when she said she was shopping alone, she came to my house and her cell phone rang with a block number from her ex. My girlfriend was all dressed up the way she would dress to see me. I asked her why she was all dressed up and she said was because she was seeing me. I think she was lying to me about seeing her. I asked her to stop talking to her and she agreed. but the next day she told me she doesn't feel the same about me. And wants us to only be friends. So I ended it completely. She denies wanting her ex back

2007-08-13 03:41:37 · 11 answers · asked by SunnySideUp 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-13 03:41:25 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my girlfriend and i fought.. big time.. i tried saying sorry and i love her but she keeps saying words are just not enough.. i want to make it up to her and i want something really nice.. i cant think of anything.. please help me..

2007-08-13 03:41:24 · 19 answers · asked by jnggystrd 1 in Singles & Dating

HI. my parents have been married for 18 years and are going to get a ivorce at the end of the summer. My mom tries so hard to keep me and my little sister to have a happy life. My dad lately has been drinking a lot and also has a lot of family issues. I am 13 and i see everything that goes on and sometimes their fighting gets physical. I know ANSWERS is not the best place to look for help but can anyone give me some adivice on how to get through the next....well year?

Thanks.

2007-08-13 03:39:45 · 4 answers · asked by ayo, ERICAA! 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Doesn't this get boring when it involves anything from where to go on a vacation to what kind of sex you have and what time and place you have it.?

2007-08-13 03:38:27 · 2 answers · asked by Irish 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

my husband caught me with two other guys and i thought he was gona kill me. but i was surprised when he said he didnt mind it happening, as long as i tell him first. i told him that i wanted to try sex with other men, but i would still love him. he was cool about the idea but im scared that he might leave me. but i still love him even if its not him im doing it with. is it ok for me to do this?

2007-08-13 03:38:11 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm by myself, and don't need to buy anything, so I just walk around and don't have anything to pretend to be doing.

Any suggestions?

2007-08-13 03:37:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My sister is a very hardworking good girl.

Now that I am pregnant and I do not work, I thought I would make her life easier this summer.

My mom and I have been baby-sitting her son all summer, and I watched her house with a dog for a month, while she was gone on her vacation.

My fiance is upset about it, because I am always tied to my sister's house, dog and son. Plus this summer we are planning our wedding, but because I am baby-sitting we had to give up a lot of our own plans.

We are going to live ten minutes away from my sister. She is really excited and she makes all vacation, get-away plans with her husband, assuming I would always be available to babysit at any notice. My fiance is very apprehensive.

How do I let my sister nicely know that I am going to have my own family and our own plans, and I am not always available at the first notice?

Of course I am still going to help out, but I do not want to be over there everyday.

2007-08-13 03:36:22 · 3 answers · asked by sweetundina 4 in Family

Even though I'm the one who broke it off 4 months ago I still feel the pain. It feels like I've experienced a death of a loved one. The problem with this is that I think I'm getting over it, and then when I least expect it the pain and memories slap me upside the head. When I get up in the morning, at work, taking a shower. I know that eventually time will heal my wounds but is there anything I can do in the meantime to keep me from feeling so miserable?

2007-08-13 03:35:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

they can do whatever they want go out party, sleep with some one new ever night.

2007-08-13 03:35:30 · 14 answers · asked by samantha j 1 in Singles & Dating

I have been in a very long distance relationship for 18 months now - we met over 2 years ago when I was living overseas and were very close friends but did not get together as I was seeing someone else. We stayed in touch after we both left the country to go elsewhere and we became closer. We got together over the phone and have stayed in touch by phone, email and messenger. For the first year we kept planning to meet up but his job would get in the way (it requires him to travel a lot at short notice to very remote parts of the world). Now we have realised that we are not going to see each other again for at least another year to two years and we have officially split up but we still get on so well and I love him so much that in my head we have not really split up. What I am scared about is whether I am wasting my time waiting for him for two years when it might not work out (I am not getting any younger) however I really can't imagine life without him! Advice please!

2007-08-13 03:35:19 · 11 answers · asked by CP 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband and I are considering divorce. We have twin 3 year olds. He plans to request joint custody. I wouldn't have a problem with that if he spent time with his children now. He is scheduled to keep the kids while I work one day a week, but he usually says he can't because he's tired, or plans something else. This year they've went to daycare on his day more than he has kept them. He hardly ever sees them. I get them up everyday, take them to daycare on their scheduled days, I spend the evenings with them, cook dinner, give them their baths and put them to bed. My children are very attached to me and I know they couldn't handle overnight stays without me. I am their routine. Will these things be taken into consideration? I don't mind him seeing them, but I worry about how traumatic it will be at this age. I think they could handle it better if they were a little older.

2007-08-13 03:34:57 · 7 answers · asked by Madmas 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i had delivered three months ago and now the problem is that i feel less wanted by my husband or that i feel as if am not cared like before .my husband is abroad and when he was back on vacation i felt i was back in track.But now i am worried that he is gone. i am always thinking that he doesnt care for me like before.By the way i know he loves me still but this feeling is hard to take out.I love my baby and so do i love my husband.I have heard that a lot of women feels the same but will it ever be alright?

2007-08-13 03:34:33 · 1 answers · asked by golden princess 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

night. He was a bachelor for most of his life and strip clubs were a common occurance for him. Because of my ex-husbands behavior I was very close minded about porn/mags/strip clubs, etc... When my husband & I first met he was aware of my hang ups & knew what my "deal breakers" were & has been very respectful of that. Because I trust my husband so much & he respects me so much, I have become more open sexually. I know that if I were to say no to anything, he would respect that. It was my idea to go to the club & of course he was happy about it. He assured me that if at any time I became uncomfortable we would leave no questions asked. The thing is I/we had a great time while we were there but now that I'm starting to feel as though I have opened "Pandora's Box". I got a lot of attention from the strippers & even got on stage with a couple of strippers. My husband said he enjoyed going & seeing me have fun/showing me off was the big turn on for him. Is it really harmless fun? Is it OK?

2007-08-13 03:33:17 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, first of all I'm only 15 yrs old. A guy that works for my parents was talking to me. His name is Marcus. Marcus and his other two friends, and Marcus, was looking at my butt, and my body; quite a bit often. Even my mom noticed it. Marcus was telling me when he was alone with me that i'm real pretty, when he first saw me, he was like wow, saying to me once I turn 18, I should come and check him out, cause he wants me. I told him that he's too old- he's in his late 40's but he said thats ok, like the age doesn't matter. He tries to make me laugh, tells me what job he does, saying i'll have a lot of money and stuff and good credit. He told me that i have a nice body and that I should watch out for other guys but not him though. Whenever he see's me, he starts talking to me. Is this a guy I should watch out for? Do you think he might try to molest me or try something on me? Please, help me! Cause i'm really concerned.

2007-08-13 03:32:23 · 41 answers · asked by cookie 1 in Singles & Dating

i had delivered three months ago and now the problem is that i feel less wanted by my husband or that i feel as if am not cared like before .my husband is abroad and when he was back on vacation i felt i was back in track.But now i am worried that he is gone. i am always thinking that he doesnt care for me like before.By the way i know he loves me still but this feeling is hard to take out.I love my baby and so do i love my husband.I have heard that a lot of women feels the same but will it ever be alright?

2007-08-13 03:32:05 · 4 answers · asked by golden princess 2 in Singles & Dating

Hi,
I hang around in ice cream parlours, watching young nubile girls attack their cones. The way some of these girls lick and suck their cones fills me up with erratic thoughts. (I am a man, by the way). Should I be concerned? Shall I seek professional help?

2007-08-13 03:31:56 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ive been looking for my biological father for a few years now an just recently received an email from a cousin i have from his side of the family. my cousin saw an advert i placed to try find my dad an he has now told me my dad would like to get to know me. he has been out of my life for about 24 years due to my mum not wanting me to know him but now he wants to get to know me what do i do?? i had all these things in my head that i wanted to ask but now there is a possibility im goin to meet him i dont no how to react or what to say! i thought it would be a great relief finally finding him but i feel so confused??

2007-08-13 03:31:46 · 3 answers · asked by steffibaby24 2 in Family

My local community college has classes for continuing education... things you don't get credits for. They have 2 classes to learn how to dance. The first is ballroom dancing the second is Latin dance. I am totally clueless when it comes to dancing. Are these valid tools in a man’s arsenal? Do women really like to do this or is it just hip hop *** grinding in the sweaty nightclubs?

2007-08-13 03:31:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My mother has never been what you would call a mother. She is a very selfish person. When I was young she used to go out with her friends and sleeping with other men 7 nights a week. I had suffered depression for many years and she has offered me no support, I was bullied at school and she couldnt care less. She never tried to hide the fact that she has always favoured my brother over me. She is a horrible person with a vile attitude and has done nothing for me. My nan brought me up because she couldnt be bothered.
My brother has recently had children and my mother dotes on them, she bends over backwards for them.
I recently asked her why she does this and she said 'its her chance to put things right where they went wrong with me' as if im damaged goods. If thats the case shouldnt she be trying to put things right with me instead of pushing me and her mistakes under the carpet?
I am now pregnant and I dont want her near me or my child, am I wrong to do this?

2007-08-13 03:29:38 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

it couldnt work because he already had a gf,
i have ended up stalking him at his workplace,and on his myspace,
i cant help but check his account or walk by his office everyday.
PLEASE HELP

2007-08-13 03:29:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Got an email from my mother today making some small talk, also she said "your father is ill, I will talk to you about it when I see you next"

I live in another country from my family and go home once a month. Do you think she is trying to protect me from bad news?

If it was nothing serious why would she have mnetioned it?

then I emailed her back asking her to explain she replied:

she emailed me back again saying.......


"I'd rather talk about it when I see you - do NOT tell him I have said
anything, but just try to minimise the stress!
"

2007-08-13 03:27:22 · 5 answers · asked by john g 1 in Family

he is a miserable prick

2007-08-13 03:23:52 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

If you're single, just looking for fun, and use protection, would you do it?
Here is the scenerio, my 2 guy friends asked me if I wanted to do it. I don't want relationships with these guys (at first I did with one of the guys, BUT not anymore) and it sounds kinda kinky, and I want to get my bad girl side out of the way before I get married down the road. So...has anyone ever experienced 2 guys at the same time, if so, is it worth it or what should I do? I need some opinions on this because I've never done a 3-some before.

2007-08-13 03:22:50 · 29 answers · asked by V i P b A b Y 1 in Singles & Dating

remarried, and who can't have children?

2007-08-13 03:22:02 · 21 answers · asked by beba 1 in Marriage & Divorce