i had delivered three months ago and now the problem is that i feel less wanted by my husband or that i feel as if am not cared like before .my husband is abroad and when he was back on vacation i felt i was back in track.But now i am worried that he is gone. i am always thinking that he doesnt care for me like before.By the way i know he loves me still but this feeling is hard to take out.I love my baby and so do i love my husband.I have heard that a lot of women feels the same but will it ever be alright?
2007-08-13 03:32:05 · 4 answers · asked by golden princess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
perhaps you have some post-partum depression? have you talked with your doctor?
meanwhile, i hope things work out with your husband... i'm sure he loves you.
having a baby is tough on our bodies and systems... hormone fluctuations and taking care of a new person can become tiring sometimes.
believe it or not, i had some psychosis after i had my second child, and i was fine before that... the entire experience did a number on me.
take care of you, and perhaps think about the doctor? if all else fails, maybe talk with a therapist?
i hope it all falls into place for you. hugs
2007-08-13 03:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand sooo much where you are coming from!!!!
When you are pregnant, everyone holds the doors open for you, your hubby gives you foot masages, he always ask you if you are okay, people always want to talk to you about your pregnancy, and you get treated oh so kind!
After you have the baby, it all goes away and the baby gets all the attention now.
After having a baby changes your hormones also.. he's working overseas, and coming home, and you're at home with the baby 24/7.. and its hard.
Lots of relationships change after having a baby, but it takes effort to get it back to the way it used to be.
Dont feel unwanted because you are not. you have a newborn on your hands, and you may be going through post-partum depression.
2007-08-13 10:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah its very normal and it happens to many eomen after birth.
its very hard to adjust to having a new baby in the house- taking care of abby all the time, its hard to find spouse to spouse time. but you must make the time.
good luck, itll all be alright.
2007-08-13 10:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by ilovecandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let the parents have the baby for a night, and show him a good time with a nice romantic evening.
2007-08-13 10:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by anon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋