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Question

I got divorced 5 years ago, I have a daughter with my exwife. Ive been going out with my girlfriend for 2 years, shes20 im30, Ive never cheated, Im loyal carring, romantic & im told im good looking!. I dont drink or smoke, Im a fitness instructor. Since weve bin together Ive had clamidya once and an STD. She swears shes never had sexual contact behinde my back. I dont like her going cluubing, shes been 3 times, twice shes kissed lads and even took roses home from one and put them in her room! last weekend she gave her number to another lad. When she drinks with her mates she completely changes personality, she gets abusive, arrogant and treats me like dirt. Shes my longest relationship, we have great sex, but theres more to life. I lover her, she says she loves me but she causes me so much stress, lies, disrespects me & I dont trust her. I dont know why I stay with her, We split up for a month and she wouldnt leave me alone until we got back . Whats wrong with us? What should I do?

Answer 1

Pack and leave.

She want's to have her cake and eat it to.

If you are sure, absolutely positive that you haven't stepped out on her, then the STD's are coming from her. Have her get checked, and if she comes back clean then the next time you get an STD, I can assure you that even I know where it came from.

This is not a long term relationship, if she gets abusive when she drinks, then she either needs to quit, or you need to find someone who knows how to enjoy a drink without ripping their partner a new one for no reason.

Without trust, there is nothing, sounds like you are staying in it for the hopes taht she will change (doubt she will) or the sex.

Answer 2

Age is a big deal even when you are adults. She is 20 and she wants to party and have fun. You have been married have a daughter and you grew up much faster than she did. After all she has put you through you are still there. You love her while she is abusing you and that is just wrong she doesn't love you she just thinks she does cause at the end of the night when everything is over the only person she has left to go to is you and you keep dealing with the bullshit. If you decide to leave her change your number avoid her as much as possible and go on with your life doing things with your daughter and stay away from all the places she is she will understand a good man is hard to come by and if you don't trust her already it is really time to move on no trust no love period!!!!

Answer 3

U wouldnt be writting here if u didnt think it was a big issue would u, i think u need to get out while u still can, make a fresh start and find someone who u deserve! If that hasnt persuaded u then u have to realise your girlfriends young, she wants to party and she is obviosly attractive but is that an excuse to the way shes behaving? Spesh when children are involved. The only person that could have given u the STD is her, and at the end of they day, shes gotta be gettin her kicks from others as well as u to contract them - plus, shes obviously not using condoms (Could it be that in 6months she turns round to u and says shes pregnant, then 20years down the line u find out the babys not urs its sum sleaze she met in a nightclub that she dont even know the name of?! - Do u really want that hassle?)...Good luck mate, i hope u choose the right decison, if not for u, then for ur daughter Xxx

Answer 4

I think the age thing is probably the problem. Your older and more mature and been married and have a child so you know what its like to have some responsibility in your life! She is still very young- I dont think its acceptable the way she treats you but she is being a typical 20 year old!! I think if you want someone you can trust and spend the rest of your life with then your with the wrong person!- sorry! You dont need to be treated like that!! She needs to learn that the hard way so leave her and dont back down!

Good luck!!x

Answer 5

you sound like a lovely man and she obviously doesnt see that maybe you should treat her at her own game (you dont have to do anything just let her think you are) see how she reacts to me she seems very imature and is not ready to settle down if you know you have been faithful where did the stds come from i think she is playing you for a fool you deserve better i know its hard to let someone go but if she really loves you she will change her ways you need to sort this out or she will drag you down to me happy people dont cheat on each other i wish you lots of luck in sorting this out and hope all goes well for you im sure if this ends the next woman will make you her everything x

Answer 6

Honey, run for the hills. If you know that you've never cheated, then you have to know that she's the one passing on the clamidya & STD. If she's bringing this home, the next time it could be AIDS. If she's kissing other guys when she supposed to be your girlfriend, that right there shows she can't be trusted. It may hurt for a while but at least it won't be fatal which it may be if she keeps bringing diseases home.

Answer 7

Okay she is 20 and you are 30, you have had STDs together and you aren't creeping with anyone else, so what she caught them from the toilet seat. Again, you are 30 and she is 20, someone needs to grow up here and it ain't the 20 year old. Homey, stop thinking with your itchy prick and act your age, what are you going to wait for that AIDS test to come back positive. Get you a 30 year old piece, hey try 35, a little maturity never hurt anyone. Don't you want to be around to see your daughter grow up? God Bless.

Answer 8

Well, if your daughter came to you and said "Daddy, my boyfriend is great, except that he drinks too much, is mean to me and I feel like I can't trust him.", what would you say to her? Your dating someone who is not mature enough to handle the kind of place you're in right now with your own life. You should just let her go have her fun while she's young and go find a different girl who will be more mature and ready to take on what you really want. Besides that, getting std's is rediculous. You should be too old for that too.

Answer 9

open ypur eyes, if you are loyal and you have had clamidya and an STD she has cheated on you. You said you dont trust her, then sorry to say it will never work, there are many women out there that are loyal like you try to find one, your girlfriend at the moment is not the one for you. good luck.

Answer 10

She's 20 and immature and she's got a long way to go before she grows up. She thinks she loves you, but probably doesn't. There are plenty of wonderful girls out there. Unless you're willing to wait through the lies, partying and games your current girlfriend is playing at, you should look for one closer to your age that will give you the love you deserve and appreciate your trust.