I have been in a very long distance relationship for 18 months now - we met over 2 years ago when I was living overseas and were very close friends but did not get together as I was seeing someone else. We stayed in touch after we both left the country to go elsewhere and we became closer. We got together over the phone and have stayed in touch by phone, email and messenger. For the first year we kept planning to meet up but his job would get in the way (it requires him to travel a lot at short notice to very remote parts of the world). Now we have realised that we are not going to see each other again for at least another year to two years and we have officially split up but we still get on so well and I love him so much that in my head we have not really split up. What I am scared about is whether I am wasting my time waiting for him for two years when it might not work out (I am not getting any younger) however I really can't imagine life without him! Advice please!
2007-08-13 03:35:19 · 11 answers · asked by CP 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
go and c him!
2007-08-13 03:40:49 · answer #1 · answered by =P te-he 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are very hard. You say it will be a year or two before you see each other then you really need to take a look at your life and do you really want to wait for someone you might never see. You have stated you split up well then this would be your time to enjoy life and see if you can meet that Mr right. You said you still love him well you will always love me but the question is are you in love with him and how does he feel about you. If its meant to be then it will happen. I too love a man that I broke off with but we had 12 yrs together I will always love him and want him in my life so I know how you feel. Good luck
2007-08-13 03:57:16 · answer #2 · answered by Cathy P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really not sure how much this will help you but I am in a similar situation, and all I can say is go with your heart. You have to do what fells right for you. You can't be that old so you still have time to explore this relationship and find another one if this one doesn't work out. If you have a good relationship already why not work at keeping it. good luck stay strong and keep your head up.
2007-08-13 03:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by mace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how old you are. But if you are thinking "I'm not getting any younger" I feel like you want to settle down. Well, it might not work after waiting for 2 years. I'd say spare yourself the sadness, and go out and meet some men who can actually take you out on a friday night. You never know if you'll meet someone you like better than him. you might. if it's meant to happen with his guy, it will. one way or another. be open for what can come your way. in the end, you can still see him in 2 years and see how you feel. best of luck.
2007-08-13 03:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by dici d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try dating, not having sex, not hooking up, just dating. Meet some guys and when you do let them know you're in a long distance relationship and not looking for anything serious or long term. With that kind of honesty it should end up a win-win scenario. Either you'll be able to keep busy till you see each other again or you'll find a good person to move on with and for get about this incomplete relationship.
2007-08-13 03:41:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, don't promise anything to eachother, but keep in touch.
this way, if you're interested in anyone else, (that would also mean that you're not soo in love with this guy and you're getting over him) than you can let him know that there's someone else in your life and there would be no hearts broken.
And since then you wouldn't be completely alone, because you'd have your "friend" on the phone.
this is basically what I'm doing with my ex/not so ex boyfriend who will be away for a year.
2007-08-13 03:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by pelin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason you cannot continue communications with him, but nothing says you have to go steady with him. Long distance relationships are difficult to say the least and more often than not don't work out unless they remain long distance relationships. If you want more, than you NEED to search farther for the "Right ONE".
2007-08-13 03:43:34 · answer #7 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i just can say that i know a girl who wait for him 2 years, for the work too, always using the phone to be with him,he left the work, and now they are together.
2007-08-13 03:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by AntikristPrinceWilliam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Long distance relationships do not work. It has been proven time and time again. Find someone you can talk to face to face and be able to touch him. You need closeness, not fantasy.
2007-08-13 03:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in touch but don't stop dating over him. If it was meant to be, then it will work out. Silly to wait.
2007-08-13 03:41:31 · answer #10 · answered by Shameless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...Life is too short.
2007-08-13 05:16:03 · answer #11 · answered by Afi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋