i found a card in the garage the other day saying to my husband sex and i love it but it was ripped up i have been married to that man for 18yrs whats going on i know that woman aswell she is married with 4 kids
2007-08-13 03:49:25 · 21 answers · asked by astra 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
confront him and find out whats going on,
2007-08-13 03:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by mamgu....... 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would first show her the card and ask her about it. Not in a nasty kind of way, because you are married to him not to her, she owes you no answers and she has just as much to lose as you do, should her husband find out. She would probably be more honest than your husband would.
As far as leaving him, that is a personal decision and a lot of factors should play a part in that decision. His answer to the question would have a lot to do with how I decide.
If he's not a jerk and you normally dont have problems trusting him, maybe its an isolated incident.
2007-08-13 11:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by Bentony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than jump to conclusions, just show him and ask. I have some old love letters from 30 years ago out in the garage somewhere. I've only been married for 21, so those don't count. Some day I'll clean out the garage and get rid of them. They are sort of goofy.
Kent in SD
2007-08-13 11:00:25 · answer #3 · answered by duckgrabber 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If i found that card in my garage wripped up i would be demanding to know what the hell was going on or what has ever went on, You need to ask this woman. Does your man know you found this card???? If not just wait to one night you are sitting watching the tv then just out of the blue come out with it you will instantly know by the expression on his face if anything has happened wether it be latley or a while ago i hope you get to the bottom of this keep us posted. x
2007-08-13 10:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by sexyscotts24 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would sit down with my husband when we can be alone and give him the chance to explain. I would ask him bluntly if he's had sex with this woman and if not, what is this card? I would find out his side of it and if he says he did not sleep with her, believe him until otherwise. You must trust your man before anyone else. Now, if that's what he says, then perhaps pay a visit to that woman, show her the card and politly request that she not be so innapropriate with your husband anymore.
2007-08-13 10:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if it was ripped up some of the pieces might be missing. Dont jump to conclusions go to the women and talk to her. Like somebody said your husband will just lie.
If shes married with 4 kids why would she want your husband ... its a bit weird.
Good Luck x
2007-08-13 11:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by DaisysMumma13 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well go talk to the other female and then talk to your husband if you like if not thenmove out and get way from him
you dont need that BS
2007-08-13 10:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by suepooh23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hand your husband the torn card and just look at him with the confusion you have about this all over your face and let him speek .
2007-08-13 10:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by henryredwons 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow shady! confront her first, then get his side of the story. That is so f*cked up. What is it with men! being married sucks!
2007-08-13 11:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't mention the card!!!!! ask you hubby one night when you having dinner, if he has ever been tempted to stray!!! also mention to this women, not about the card!! but mention you have a niggling doubt about your husband! closely watch their reactions before you mention the card!
2007-08-13 11:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by smartypants 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
confront the women , your husband will just lie
2007-08-13 10:53:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋