How would you handle this? The kids were babies when I came into their lives we had them all of the time while mom had the weekends ( I did feel alittle jealous, but It me helped to get closer to the kids) Now that the kids are grown I guess now she is trying to catch up for lost time. I don't like it but she is their mom
the daughter does not come over as much b/c her mom gives her way too much leeway she became a teenager before she was a teenager. The one paying for it is dad. I feel bad for him it really bothers him but he is a strong man, that is what attracted me to him was the way he was with his kids now we have 2 beautiful kids of our own.
Hope this made sense.
Thanks!
2007-08-13 03:45:57 · 5 answers · asked by Buttterfly123 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think there is much you can do...this is your husband's battle, not yours. You can engage in open discussion with him about his feelings, but don't make a move. The kids' mom and dad need to exercise their own parenting skills and realize their own mistakes.
If the teenager starts doing dangerous things though, it may be time to intervene. Call a counselor or at least talk to the daughter to set things straight. But otherwise, if she's not doing bad things, keep out.
2007-08-13 04:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by Alpha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel and we both know that kids will always feel loyal to their real parents no matter what we done or we feel for our stepchildren. They will probably see it all differently and maybe appreciate us for being good to them when they have families of their own and look back on everything in a more mature manner. If they are teenagers right now they are just in their own world and they won't be back for a long time. They get busy with school their friends and liking the opposite sex. It's all about them right now and they say it's normal. They are growing and changing and trying to find themselves. Take advantage of this free time you and your husband have right now.....because they will be back knocking on your door to care and love their children just the way you loved them. Take care and best wishes to you.
2007-08-13 04:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course she is trying to make up for lost time and the kids are most likely smart enough to realize that and are going to get everythign they can from her. When they are older they will remember who was always there. Encourage him to talk about it with you.
2007-08-13 04:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by Neka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And exactly what is wrong with it being all about kids? You will have plenty of time in your life when the kids are grown up. Time passes fast!!
2007-08-13 04:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what your question is, But teenagers are teenagers...wait till yours get that age and don't want to spend any time with you either.
2007-08-13 03:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋