Family & Relationships - 13 August 2007

My husband and I have been married for 5 and a half years and we still do not have our own place. He owns an assited living facility and we currently live in it ( we have an apartment which is a part of the assisted living facility for old folks). I am 26, this is my first marriage and I would like to have my own place and start a family. He is 42 and has 3 kids from previous marriage, so I guess he doesn't really care . I've been miserable for 5 years, I can not stand living here, I can hear our residents flush their toilet, talk etc. when I am in my bedroom. We also live in the country and I am not used to live in the country, I am from a huge city. I told my husband so many times that I wanted to move but he always says : "sure, let's do it, just wait a little " or just makes up an excuse.
What should I do, should I leave him? I think he would do something about this situation if he loved me....

2007-08-13 01:52:17 · 13 answers · asked by Sandy K 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i mean, women with families, do you feel too tired at the end of the day to enjoy sex?

2007-08-13 01:51:49 · 21 answers · asked by jay Lo 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i really dont know the difference.. can anyone tell me??

2007-08-13 01:31:37 · 18 answers · asked by BABYCAT 2 in Singles & Dating

Hedidn't do to well in hight school,he drop out.
He does everything alone, I try by best to be there for him even go to the place he hang out just to see what he does there but nothing. He said he play basketball with some people, but he never play with them in from of me, all we do is walk around the city.
At home, he eat & go out, don't talk to anyone, goes out all day and come in every late.
He play basket ball alone, he doen't close friend. my mom and stepfather thought it will be nice if he have a job, he get fire from his jobs, b/c he is always late. He seem not wanted to be home anymore, my mom said to rent him a room, he agree and changed his mind the last nimute. He hate being home with the family, he used to play computer all day and I turned that off so he can go out and find a job, just to he can be busy doing something in his life, he is 21 yo,
I don't live at home and it can be hard to keep up with him by phone b/c he is never home even when i show up.

2007-08-13 01:29:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I went to see a friend over the weekend and my bloke was constantly texting me saying how much he missed me. i missed him badly too an i couldnt wait to get home to him. The thing is on the sunday that i returned it was a special day for me. Im adopted and my family have always celebrated the day i came to live with them. last year my bloke celebrated it with me and made me a lovely sweet card. Only on sunday on my return i got in to an empty house, and when he did show up he went into the other room, took his shoes and stuff off, then went to the bathroom and then finally came to find me and he gave me the smallest of hugs. I asked if we were guna do something and he said he had had no time to prepare anything (he'd been off work all weekend!). Is it wrong for a girl to expect a little romance once in a while??? Please, serious answers.

2007-08-13 01:28:58 · 10 answers · asked by *T*I*N*K*E*R*B*E*L*L* 3 in Singles & Dating

the guy is really cute.

2007-08-13 01:26:48 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i'm da elsest n have a younger sist (only 2 of us). She's 7 years younger. Yeah..as a big sist, I her luv so dearly (to a point wen mom asked me how much i care bout my lil sis, i said..i'd kill n die for her)..Da issue here is.. she's going ova to paris to persue her artistic make-up course (btw, we both studied hairstylin n make up 2getha here but she's takin it to a higher level..as I am getting married soon...so i kindda have to sacrifice dat part of my dream). i am very happy for her but part of me is so worried of her safety etc ... i hv sleepless night thinking about it insted of thinking of my wedding (i'm gettin married in 3mnts btw). and i think my future hubby is a lil pissed...(i dont blame him). But its hard to ignore my worries wen da last thing dad told me b4 he died was to take care of lil sis.. n hell yeah...since then thats da promise (or more like a vow) dat i treasure. Wat wld u do if u r in my shoez.. shld i discourage her so dat she'll be here where i can see or?

2007-08-13 01:24:42 · 5 answers · asked by jijieluva 1 in Family

I sometimes catch a young lady staring at my crotch, when I look at her she cuts her eyes away and try to act like she wasn't doing it. I want to approach her and talk to her romantically but it is so awkard at this point, I just act like nothing happened most of the time. How do I approach these young ladies who are always staring at my crotch?

2007-08-13 01:21:22 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

well its a long distance relationship he leaves in the west indies and i am in new york and we go back and forth to see each other, and were planing our wedding

2007-08-13 01:09:50 · 25 answers · asked by Mrs S 1 in Singles & Dating

I hate the most I think that he's fun to be with most of the time and he's one of the few people in my life that has always been pretty genuine. We don't have a history of falls outs and that makes him important. We are about to celebrate anniversary number 5 so I'm pretty sure it'll stay that way.

2007-08-13 01:04:11 · 27 answers · asked by quintons_mommy2004 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Like last saturday he told me, hes going to a baby shower on thursday in another town. he didnt even leave me an offline msg on thursday that hes leaving already, no sms at all or emails. its already monday. nothing at all.

should i be annoyed? i mean, isnt the sensible thing to do is at least leave me an offline msg or email or sms, that youre leaving?

if i confront him im sure hes going to say "didnt i tell you im going to a baby shower?" :(


please tell me if im out of line, thank you.

2007-08-13 00:52:00 · 3 answers · asked by happybeanstalk 3 in Singles & Dating

My bf can only orgasm during sex if I tell him stories about me being naughty with other guys. Is this normal? It is fine some of the time, but doing it all the time leaves me feeling like I'm not enough to turn him on or make him finish. He keeps telling me repeatedly that I do turn him on and that he's just used to this. Any advice?

2007-08-13 00:49:02 · 8 answers · asked by sublime 5 in Singles & Dating

I need some help with this. I want to be with my boyfriend for the rest of my life, but we can't. We want to get married, but it's not legal. We don't want to have to go to Canada to get married and then have it not recognised here. What should we do?

2007-08-13 00:47:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Or should I use some headphones?

2007-08-13 00:41:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband is very difficult to buy something for. He doesn't wear jewelry, doesn't need clothes, electronics (buys it himself), doesn't need clothes etc. So can you please give me some suggestions. Thanks.

2007-08-13 00:40:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My husband is very difficult to buy something for. He doesn't wear jewelry, doesn't need clothes, electronics (buys it himself), doesn't need clothes etc. So can you please give me some suggestions. Thanks.

2007-08-13 00:38:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Is it ok for a girl to ask a guy out...expecting no more then a friendship?

I think he has a girlfriend, I am not sure and I note he has never mentioned her to me. We do talk a lot about personal stuff, he has given me some good advice about my life and in particular about how to split with my rather difficult b/f. I have never seen him socially before though.

I just don't know if its ok to ask him for a coffee or drink or something.

I can't work out how he feels about me either, but I need him as a friend. I doubt he would be interested in me, I expect he would also think the age gap is too big anyway.

2007-08-13 00:38:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i personally think that todays children should be punished more by there parents accordingly,because that way they will learn self respect and treat others accordingly.i mean it never did me any harm when my parents smacked me or i got the caine at school which wasd hardly,i admit i am no goody 2shoes but at least i didnt go round been disrespectfull and damaging property when i was a child/teenager.
also if parents delt with there childrens mis-behaviour then it wouldnt have to be delt with by police and local authority by giving A.S.B.Os out and save money.AND YES BEFORE YOU SAY OWT I AM A PARENT ALSO TO 3 CHILDREN and i would punish them within reason,and if anybody ever told me to stop smacking my child i would tell them its nowt to do with them,its not there children so butt out and do it your way and i will deal with it my way. (s.p.h. of halifax)

2007-08-13 00:33:12 · 19 answers · asked by simon h 1 in Family

For some time now I have been struggling to get conversation out of my husband. He has never been a great talker and I find I am starting to dread when our kids leave home. We have constant money worries and debt and everything seems to go wrong for us, resulting in extra cost. He is always worried about money and unless we win the lottery I can't see things improving. We have been together for over eighteen years and I still love him to bits. We have no social life or take holidays abroad (or in the UK) as we can never afford it. I try talk to him about anything and its usually a struggle for him to acknowledge that I have spoken. He never seems interested in anything I say or do and I am getting to the end of my tether. I am sure he is different at work cause sometimes when he gets calls at home, I hear him laughing and joking. Maybe its just me.

2007-08-13 00:26:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-13 00:25:43 · 16 answers · asked by Mike A 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

here is the problem i'm from middleast country i'm in my mid20 and i met this guy he is from the US he is kinda older than me ppl say its alot but i say not that old i loved him to death and he loved me too he asked me to marry him and i said yes but my family never agree so i had to marry him behind thair back so we got throgh hill for almost one year and then my family found out that i got married to him they tried to divorce me but i never agreed so they kept me in the house for a month but yet he waited me so they give up and let me go and told me we dont wanna know even that your alive so i lost my fimly for good cause i loved now i'm living with him i dropped out of school to take care of him i have no friends just to please him but he start to drink and get drunk almost everynight then he lost his job and he start to take it out on me and he beats me up alot i dont know what to do i cant leave him i got no where to go and noone to help me and idont know why he become like that

2007-08-13 00:16:31 · 7 answers · asked by Broken 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi there, my wife and I had our first baby 4 months ago and I love both her and my little boy to death. The problem is that since she had our little boy she hasnt been so good in bed because shes really open and not very tight so it doesnt feel very good for me and after a while I lose interest. I really love my wife and I dont want to upset her or hurt her feelings but she needs to do some of those exercises to tighten herself back up, because its not good for me the way she is which means I am not making her feel the way she should be feeling. So how do I explain that to her with out coursing a fight and hurting her feelings

2007-08-13 00:11:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

His "title" will be Brother of the Bride (my husband is deceased), so can he be listed under my name ? The parents of the groom are listed right after me right now, as is proper.

2007-08-13 00:07:41 · 4 answers · asked by Vicki 1 in Marriage & Divorce

What happened to the real Man- the one who used to look for a woman to make his wife for all time. The one who wanted to love her and look afer and provide her with a home, security and stability til death did they part? Do these kind of men still exist?

2007-08-13 00:05:39 · 48 answers · asked by Ellie 6 in Marriage & Divorce