Please I need help, please my little brother seem to be a LONER, i am worry?

Question

Hedidn't do to well in hight school,he drop out.
He does everything alone, I try by best to be there for him even go to the place he hang out just to see what he does there but nothing. He said he play basketball with some people, but he never play with them in from of me, all we do is walk around the city.
At home, he eat & go out, don't talk to anyone, goes out all day and come in every late.
He play basket ball alone, he doen't close friend. my mom and stepfather thought it will be nice if he have a job, he get fire from his jobs, b/c he is always late. He seem not wanted to be home anymore, my mom said to rent him a room, he agree and changed his mind the last nimute. He hate being home with the family, he used to play computer all day and I turned that off so he can go out and find a job, just to he can be busy doing something in his life, he is 21 yo,
I don't live at home and it can be hard to keep up with him by phone b/c he is never home even when i show up.

I want the best 4 him but it hard b/c he doesn't communicate much, my mom is very worry to and she is sick & he had behave like him the time i known as my brother, my mom wanted him out b/c he start to put his hand on his our little sister. my mom doen't want to pick him out, she worry he will end up being on the street going illegal stuff.

he want Apt but can't affort that and won't last at work long b/c he is lady, & seem loner, i am very worry. My parent wanted to kick him out but i ask them not to that he will get a job but he end up on Myspace every them looking 4 job. so i turn off the computer and now he is broke, want money and won't take a job that he is available now to make some money, he just want to do things his way.
is there anything i can do? I did everything i would, I hangout with him just to be there for him, talk to him but don't get answers,
I feel that he might get very angry& do something stupid.

Answer 1

Your brother is perhaps just enjoying life in a way that a few individuals among us cannot conceive because of a) lack of experience b) a lack of faith in the good side of life.

Many of my friends and relatives act exactly like your brother, or like otakus as they call it in Japan. Of course your brother will look sick and in need of help if you take for granted your parents' point of view. A few baby boomers realized, in the nineties, that they took the simple and quick path, and now they pretend that we owe them the times in which we live, and that it's not ok to be contemplative.

Well my parents lived a normal life, and they were safely employed by the canadian state as teachers. But i'm positive that they don't have any friend at that time, and they sin like anyone who missed his/her life.

They perhaps still don't understand that the times have changed, and that while we may look snobby, we're in good terms with mankind. We are pacified, and anyone can transact with each other like brothers and sisters without having to know our private lives. The internet by itself is a great community, secure, peaceful, free, and quite bigger than the villages in which our parents lived.

Now the hospitals and the prisons are full in canada, among others, but it's just the hypochondriac spawn in which we live, and what happens next probably has to happen, just like the seasons happen since we're born.

So your brother could accept the help given by pushers if he feels desperate. But obviously he does not. You might inform him of these "therapies" and "drugs", and if he refuses this, then just let him go and let him learn life in a sober way. No man should be stripped of his freedom only because his sister does not agree with him. Unless he's totally unconscious, your brother can change his mind and take the simple solution. And you know it, to have little money isn't a big threat to survival, especially if you keep contact with old friends. My parents lacked of it many times during their lives and they're still healthy. My brothers too, and two of my friends at least still have debts, but they're fine.

Answer 2

He's depressed. He probably feels like he can't do anything right and that just makes him more depressed.

You only have three options, ignore it and hope it will go away (not likely), Nag him about getting into Therapy (and taking the accompanying medications. He needs to re-set his brain chemistry). or three - Have an intervention. Either demand he either go to therapy and take the meds (And he has to go more then a few months, he has to go for a while) or have him involuntarily committed. He exhibits all the classic symptoms and some paxil might just save his life.

Not to put to serious a point on it, but depressed people often commit suicide.

Answer 3

Dont take care of him...he is old enough to take care of himself...if he needs talking then talk to him and help him but never take care of him...

Answer 4

he should join some sort of community group or sport.

Answer 5

he must be w/ someone since he is out late and all

Answer 6

dun get too worried. Let him be on his own, he has his own thinking so let him be.