I went to see a friend over the weekend and my bloke was constantly texting me saying how much he missed me. i missed him badly too an i couldnt wait to get home to him. The thing is on the sunday that i returned it was a special day for me. Im adopted and my family have always celebrated the day i came to live with them. last year my bloke celebrated it with me and made me a lovely sweet card. Only on sunday on my return i got in to an empty house, and when he did show up he went into the other room, took his shoes and stuff off, then went to the bathroom and then finally came to find me and he gave me the smallest of hugs. I asked if we were guna do something and he said he had had no time to prepare anything (he'd been off work all weekend!). Is it wrong for a girl to expect a little romance once in a while??? Please, serious answers.
2007-08-13 01:28:58 · 10 answers · asked by *T*I*N*K*E*R*B*E*L*L* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he thinks im being selfish expecting things from him. he's stopped being romantic with me. we've been together almost 2years and lived together for a year.
2007-08-13 01:30:39 · update #1
i was crying in bed last night, woke him up syaing i needed to talk to him and he looked at me crying my eyes out and he fell back to sleep!! Is that someone who cares?
2007-08-13 01:46:37 · update #2
If you feel something is not normal in your relationship after two, years, i believe you've better talk to him as soon asap. It is completely natural if you need some romance, and if you lack it recently something might be wrong. try to talk to him about the situation, but always consider the possibility that he is undergoing some work related problem or sth like this which has distracted him temporarily. try to be honest and clear, and never bottle up your feelings.
good luck
2007-08-13 01:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by gem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This was an important day for you; presumably, he knew that it was important. Therefore, a bit of effort would not have been remiss. However, if you had been harping on about it for months on end before the event, I probably wouldn't be too impressed ; if you'd made the point once, and then not said anything else, I'd like to think that I'd respond appropriately, and honour the occasion.
It sounds like there's something not quite right, here - even if he'd had a busy weekend whilst you were away, he could at least have offered to celebrate with a take-away.
However, does he realise that pain that he's causing you? Have you told him in a non-accusatory way?
Best of luck with sorting this out. Don't let it ruin your relationship, but try to emphasise the importance of the day to him.
2007-08-13 08:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by bouncingtigger13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your bf is being inconsiderate. it is nice to do romantice things for one another as a couple on special occasions and he should have at least had a card or taken you out to dinner. why the heck was he rushing you to come home then? he messed this one up. you should talk to him and explain that you do feel liek in order for you two to remain romantic towrds eachother it only makes sense that the two of you remain commited to being romantic especially on special occasions and that there is never a point in a relationship when that should stop because when it does, that is the very moment that the relationship becomes dull and unhappy. the best relationships like marriages that last 50-75 years are the ones where the romance is always there and a genuine desire and commitment to eachperson is heartfelt and expressed allot so if he isn't willing to keep at it then maybe you need to start looking for someone who will. that should put some pep in his step!
2007-08-13 08:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one. Firstly he may be a little annoyed you went away without him even though he prob wont say.
I recently went away for 2 days and my girlfiend of 6 years was constantly texting me and wanted to talk on the phone. And this was a stag weekend! And i was with her brother. But when i got back she was OK but didn't really want to hear what I had been doing.
Anyway i've kinda drifted off the answer. Infact I can't really think of why else he would act like that. All I can say is that it works two ways. You want him to be romantic and he prob wants something from you. Um not really sure if I've helped you with this one. I advise a long talk.
2007-08-13 08:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mike A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't trust you and he was jealous / worried about what you got up too over the weekend when you were away with a friend.
Or he was annoyed about you leaving him for the weekend and that is why he was acting like that.
Not saying it is true but it could be that based on what you have written and I know some blokes are like that.
2007-08-13 08:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by abluebobcat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch him and im a guy !!
i have been with my woman now for 10 years and romance is so important. i make my woman feel special coz she is special. should not matter how long you have been together. what you got to remember is romance brought you together, and loving someone is easy, romancing someone and letting them feel loved, and letting someone know you love them with no words is hard work, but with the right person that hard work is well worth it. so ditch him or kick him in the knackers and tell him to get right.
please ignore final part, just the beast in me !!!
2007-08-13 08:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by azmondo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not bloody good enough.. i hate men who are selfish,, you should be lavished with attention .. eespecially if you have been away.. geez what an anti climax when you got home.. its like when you werent there he missed you and on your return he just takes you for granted.. well id say hes the selfish one.. mm what can you do to get him to sit up and take notice..sit down and write him along letter telling him all your needs and wants and how much you love him and want to spcie up your life together, put down afew ideas to get him excited and see what reaction you get..like lets go and have picnic on the beach and try to be sneaky lol xx
2007-08-13 08:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not wrong....
either he forgot or is really lacking in the romance department...
try talking to him and if he doesnt want to talk maybe he isnt right for you...
2007-08-13 08:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think your being selfish at all, all you want him to do is respect your feelings. hardly selfish,
talk to him, see if you can worki things out, xx
good luck xxx
2007-08-13 08:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb immediately....If he cannot appreciate or understand your feelings then forget it!!! He's the one being selfish.......
2007-08-13 08:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by KeepItReal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋