well its a long distance relationship he leaves in the west indies and i am in new york and we go back and forth to see each other, and were planing our wedding
2007-08-13 01:09:50 · 25 answers · asked by Mrs S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he baby mothers also lives in new york and one night we had a disagree and he lied and said he was going to sleep at family memember how and he really slept at her house and i found out because of my instinct ,i just felt that he did something
2007-08-13 01:13:36 · update #1
when i asked him if he had sex with her he lied so i called her myself and she said " if he is your man then let him tell you" so he lied for a couple of days and told me that truth because i digged to find the truth
2007-08-13 01:26:42 · update #2
cut your losses and run
free yourself from this complicated circus that your involved in
this man has luggage....its stressing you...its making you sad, do you want to live the rest of your life like this
honey you cant trust him and your talking about marriage
dont you think you deserve more...dont you think you deserve a man who is totally and fully involved with just you? it'll never be like that he has committments with his baby...and the mother (his ex) is going to be there....
and i hate to say once a cheater always a cheat - cause if you forgive him and take him back, he'll prob find it morally easier to do it again and he will think he can just walk all over you like a door mat....
i would run......dont get married or at least hold the wedding off for a good long time
must be terrible right now...really stressful and hurtful, think your stronger and smarter than you believe in yourself...cause if you werent u wouldnt be asking this question here!!!
good luck hun!! you deserve so much more!!!
2007-08-13 01:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by pinksandbeach 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no don't forgive him. leave him while you still have the chance. he obviously still has something for his baby's mother and you don't need to wrap yourself up in that drama. besides that how can you trust him if he's already lying and cheating b4 you even make it down the isles. that is a big slap in the face girl. wake up and get rid on him. i really can't believe you are still thinking of going through with it. how can you look him in the eye and take vows knowing that it's all crap coming from him? just something to think about.
2007-08-13 01:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by Victoria J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A cheater is always a cheater! Watch your step, this person usually cannot be satisfied with you or anyone else for that matter. It is an inter-personal decision process to cheat and will go with them throughout life. It can however be changed, ie, life changing crisis/recovery/ etc....but, the odds a rare. My advise to you is find someone who finds value in you and would not risk the loss. You are valuable and have uniqueness to you. This has to be appreciated and will be one day by a fine man. You will then exhale......
2007-08-13 01:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have to agree honey if he lied he feels no regret, i was wondering the same thing myself if he was doing it on purpose to be able to go spend time with her. but my advice to you is to sit down by yourself in complete silence and really listen your feelings and your gut you cant always go on your heart because sometimes it just leads to more pain. ask yourself a couple questions can you live without him? is the stress you feel from this relationship really worth it? and do you want to go on for the rest of your life doubting him if you do take him back? if ya need anything just let me know baby girl ive been here before i think alot of us have!
2007-08-13 01:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by jssugarlips 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-04-26 18:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by hildred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decision to forgive someone can come from your heart only, not from strangers like us.
And you would be wise to postpone your wedding until you can totally trust him. If you can't trust him, then break it off completely. Having a baby by another woman is nothing bad, but going to her to be consoled (and more) is ugly and disrespectful.
2007-08-13 01:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by Sacrificial 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that obviously wasn't the right thing to do like someone told me "boys! you can never find one that will always love and trust you they come and go like people in a market" that tells me leave him. find another one and don't forgive him because that wasn't very nice. don't get married to him. why would you forgive a cheating bf?
2007-08-13 03:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by nom nom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after a disagree he decided to go & spend a night with his baby's ma...
so that night he forgot all the thing related to you & your relationship...Do you think a disagree is a permission to spend a night however you like?
I don't think so sweetie...
you can't rely on this man...seems that he always let himself use all the opportunities given to him...
he lied to you & don't forget that once a lier always can be a lier...
why wasting your time with him while you know that you could spend that night with another guy but you yourself didn't do that...you respect you relationship with him & waited...
but i think it can't work...
make up your mind..good luck
2007-08-13 01:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by shelman62000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bit strange that after the argument he went to sleep at someone else's place. Are you sure it was not planned? It looks like he was looking for an excuse to get out and have the opportunity to cheat with her. I would not forgive him, at least not so easily
2007-08-13 01:18:04 · answer #9 · answered by Elisa N 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't fogive. They have a child together for one thing. Number 2, there is still a spark between them as a couple. I wuld find a man without permanent attachments for life like that.
2007-08-13 01:16:09 · answer #10 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋