here is the problem i'm from middleast country i'm in my mid20 and i met this guy he is from the US he is kinda older than me ppl say its alot but i say not that old i loved him to death and he loved me too he asked me to marry him and i said yes but my family never agree so i had to marry him behind thair back so we got throgh hill for almost one year and then my family found out that i got married to him they tried to divorce me but i never agreed so they kept me in the house for a month but yet he waited me so they give up and let me go and told me we dont wanna know even that your alive so i lost my fimly for good cause i loved now i'm living with him i dropped out of school to take care of him i have no friends just to please him but he start to drink and get drunk almost everynight then he lost his job and he start to take it out on me and he beats me up alot i dont know what to do i cant leave him i got no where to go and noone to help me and idont know why he become like that
2007-08-13 00:16:31 · 7 answers · asked by Broken 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it seems like your husband has become abusive towards you.. if you dont leave now, then things might get worse. I don't want to hear on the news about you getting killed by him because you two got in an argument.
Yes your parents wanted you to divorce him. They probably knew that he was up to no good.
I bet your parents would take you back, if you wanted to go back to them. Knowing that you are home safe, and not in the arms of a man who beats you up, is the best thing for a parent.
I got pregnant a little over a year ago and my parents wanted nothing to do with me since I was not married. They told me that they wanted nothing to do with me.
Here it is a year later, and my parents called me last week asking me how things were. Me and my boyfriend are not married, not talking about marriage at this time either, and they said that if he does anything to hurt me, to go back to them. They want me back home! Can you believe it?
Parents do get mad in the heat of the moment, but they change. It takes some time, but you are their daughter.
At least get in contact with your parents. I bet they have calmed down a little bit, explain to them what happened, and that you made a mistake, and I hope they take you back in.
2007-08-13 00:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is definitely not normal. You hooked a total and dangerous loser. Do the following:
1.Run-don't walk- to a battered womens' shelter (call you doctor or local hospital for a reference). Do it NOW, while you're still in one piece.
2. Get a lawyer - many lawyers take pro-bono (don't charge) cases if money is an issue.
3. Have said lawyer issue a restraining order against your husband.
4. Immediately start divorce proceedings.
Don't wait. Get the hell out and save yourself. You deserve better. Good luck!
2007-08-13 07:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by countrygent07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always somewhere to go! There a lot of agencies that will help you. They will find you soemwhere to stay, help you get on your feet and get a job. Help you to find medical treatment if you need it.
The next time he is not around contact the YWCA in your area and ask them for help. At the very least they will have the names and numbers of agencies that you can call. If he hits you again, CALL THE POLICE. This is not acceptable anywhere in this country, it is illegal and you will be protected.
Do these things as quickly as possible and get out of there. Before he hurts you too badly.
2007-08-13 07:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all parents take their children back after they refuse to listen to advice given by them. Parents will often give an ultimatum and the option is stay here and obey my rules or go out on your own and do what you please. well, the majority of them want their freedom but then find out that freedom comes with responsibilities and grown up issues that they cannot handle nor want to handle yet.... Parents try to explain that its more fun to stay young and have family freedoms because life and responsibilities come much too quick.
2007-08-13 08:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by Hi its me again 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the crisis shelter 1-800-370-3103.they will give you some where to live ,help you get a divorce and a job.
2007-08-13 08:38:52 · answer #5 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel so bad for you wow i think its the drinking that s making him this way. your parents still your parents i think u should go back but if u can't try to get you GED and divorse him and get a job or try to get your husbands life back together by trying to stop him from drinking and show that you love him and u care for him
2007-08-13 11:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your family, admit your mistake, divorce the man, and hopefully they will give you the support that you need. I hope that it turns out well for you.
2007-08-13 07:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by John 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋