Family & Relationships - 23 July 2007

In many cultures, marriages are arranged by family! Often a mate is chosen from distant relatives or from close friends of the family. Would anyone consider having a having arrange marriage? Is love easier or harder to develop and maintain is those relationships? What are the pros and cons of going that route?

2007-07-23 17:40:20 · 9 answers · asked by Caleb 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-23 17:39:03 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-07-23 17:38:39 · 19 answers · asked by lost 1 in Marriage & Divorce

If I Divorce my abusive husband, and my children have never been a day without me in there life, say that they would never want to spend the night with there father, and not be able to not sleep in there own bed at night for visitation with him, will the court change there life style that they are happy with? husband is in the Millitary, and has only seen the kids two weeks out of the year, they are very happy now, and want it to stay that way, I'm scared!! he threatens that he will take the kids from me, and that I must listen to his commands, he sexually threatens me, saying what he can do when he returns to visit, I would only supervised visitation, any advise??

2007-07-23 17:38:17 · 10 answers · asked by l 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-23 17:36:24 · 5 answers · asked by loriedoll 1 in Singles & Dating

When?

2007-07-23 17:35:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-23 17:35:36 · 14 answers · asked by ηιgнt Vαmpιяє 3 in Singles & Dating

ok listen my whole family has mexican in them, and my stepgrandpa has 2 OTHER grandparents that are WAAAAY more mexican than me......so anyways whenever they speak spanish they look at me like "well?" like they expect ME 2 speak spanish back and its really imbarrasing cause when i DONT say anything back they just laugh and they have a look on their face like "ur so lame"...... and also sovonna (the 1 thats my age) she always says "omg im alot darker than you" and i say "so??" and she says "well its cool 2 b a beaner"...........and whenever she talks she has that mexican accent i wish i had and it seems like their just rubbing it all in my face when they know i want 2 b that mexican. so my question is, do u have any ways 2 build up my self esteem?? i just cant think of any good things about myself anymore now, JUST because im not that mexican.




PLLLLLLLLLLZZZZZZZZZ HEEEEEEEEEELP!!!!!!

2007-07-23 17:32:46 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i'm 15. why does my dad spank me? my mom used to but she can't anymore. she is "lazy" is wat my dad would say. i know i talk back, telling them off, i have run away many times and other stuff. but i don't go to far. when i yell i don't swear. i don't steal or anything that bad. but why do they spank me when i'm... i guess i could say out of line? i've tryed asking my dad so many times to pick something elso. not spanking my bare bottom when he thinks i need it. sometimes i don't think i should be getting the spanking at all. the only time he wont if i tell him its that time of the month. but other then that he'll pull me over his lap like i was 6 and pull my pants and panties down and then spank me as hard as he can and for as long as he sees fit. basliy i'm wondering. should my dad spank me all the time when i do something bad?? should he spank me all the time when i'm "bad" on my bare bottom?? tell me y plz.and if all ur gonna say is i'm a brat and thats all then don't reply. kay?

2007-07-23 17:32:06 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-07-23 17:31:03 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I went with my dad and my sis to get ice cream, my sis is always doing things for my mom so i thought i would take my moms ice cream to her. My sister got mad and so did I, I got out of the rover and smeard whip creme on the dash board. My dad started yelling at me! I said that is wasnt permenant and and that it would come off with a wet towel. And I walked off as I went down the sidewalk through our carport i shut the gate to my backyard so the dog wouldnt get out and went inside. I gave my mom the ice cream and as i turned around my dad grabs me by the ear and drags me across the living room saying if i ever "slam" the gate on him again he was gonna beat my a**. He dosent do this alot. But every time he does he comes in to apologize. I told my mom to tell him to leave me ALONE. Can anyone tell me if this entire situation is MY fault?!!?

2007-07-23 17:24:45 · 16 answers · asked by nicolas~cage~luver 2 in Family

she is a poor eater

2007-07-23 17:24:35 · 10 answers · asked by Lillyput 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i live with my grandmother and as her health deteriorates, she is becoming more difficult.
e.g. she shouts at something for me to do but she already asked me a 'million times'.
nursing home not an option.

2007-07-23 17:24:21 · 9 answers · asked by skylarklash 1 in Family

i went out with my girlfriend for about 6 months and we broke up and she went out with another guy and she lost her virginity with him and then later they broke up and she asked me to go back with her but i dont know if i should still be with her and i dont know wat to do i really need help to think wat to do???

2007-07-23 17:23:15 · 34 answers · asked by artchaqui 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-23 17:19:40 · 7 answers · asked by Wildflower 6 in Marriage & Divorce

are house parties (non-invitational parties) a normal part of teenage life?
i'm 14, should i be able to go to them?

2007-07-23 17:18:03 · 4 answers · asked by CJS 2 in Family

I'm just curious...I've heard and experienced that men don't like to talk about their feelings much and they seem to get irritated with women talking about theirs. Why is that? Do you men have any tips for us women on how we can talk to you when we need to? It's hard for a woman to be "shut down" when she's trying to explain something that is hurting her...so we need you to listen. But, I also understand that men can't handle all that (don't know why) - so I want to be more sensative to my man but I also have some needs myself (mostly to express myself). I'm learning to do some of it with my lady friends - but sometimes I want HIM in particular to listen. He does. He's sweet about it. But, I can tell it's hard for him. Help! Tips? Advice? (Please be nice, no need to bash me or call me names...I'm seeking CONSTRUCTIVE criticism or advice). THANKS! :)

2007-07-23 17:18:02 · 11 answers · asked by Jazmin 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm just curious...I've heard and experienced that men don't like to talk about their feelings much and they seem to get irritated with women talking about theirs. Why is that? Do you men have any tips for us women on how we can talk to you when we need to? It's hard for a woman to be "shut down" when she's trying to explain something that is hurting her...so we need you to listen. But, I also understand that men can't handle all that (don't know why) - so I want to be more sensative to my man but I also have some needs myself (mostly to express myself). I'm learning to do some of it with my lady friends - but sometimes I want HIM in particular to listen. He does. He's sweet about it. But, I can tell it's hard for him. Help! Tips? Advice? (Please be nice, no need to bash me or call me names...I'm seeking CONSTRUCTIVE criticism or advice). THANKS! :)

2007-07-23 17:17:05 · 15 answers · asked by Jazmin 2 in Marriage & Divorce

It is his 50th birthday on the weekend. What should I get him? I want to spend about $60 Australian dollars, which is about $100 US dollars.

2007-07-23 17:16:59 · 6 answers · asked by Angel 4 in Family

Mostly I call my wife by her name, but often, especially around my kids I call her "mommy" (she calls me "daddy" often too)

I consider this a term of affection, as does she, and have no problem with this. (nor does she)

However my real mother apparantly told her at dinner last night that she shouldn't let me call her this. (My mother hated it when my dad would call her mom)

So question:
is it wrong? Bad taste? Bad for a marriage? I get the impression it is anti-feminist. (mom's a bit feministic)
Though clearly my wife isn't my mom, she is the mom figure for my family, so isn't this OK?
I certainly don't want my kids to call her anything other than mom, and me anything other than dad.

Anyway, how proper/improper is this?

P.S. the question ISNT weather or not this is any of my mom's business, because clearly it isn't. Ultimately what we call each other is our decision, and we are certainly going to be using the mom/dad labels in my mom's presence A LOT!!

2007-07-23 17:16:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My friend who is realy nice,fun and kool. Ur average perfect bff Shes being called a whore by many ppl.. becuz she kissed a couple of guys. And she really just wants 2 show and prove to those ppl becuz she really does like those ppl and wants 2 be friends with them. But she dosnt know how 2 get them 2 know the real her. And c how she has changed so much! Does anyone know anything she could do 2 show those ppl the real her? And NO, she doesnt dress much of a slut sometimes she has those days were she wants2 look super hot but dont we all have those days! She dosnt want 2 be the shy,over developd(Lets just say she has out grown everyone in her grade),normal dressing,whore who likes to kiss awhole buncha guys.. she is unfairley called a whore kinda cuz she is very overdevelopd and ofcourse ppl like her, get the most attention it aint her falt, and alot of other girls have kissed a whole buncha guys but... unfairly, becuz she is VERY much over developd she is called a whore and they arent

2007-07-23 17:13:21 · 2 answers · asked by kassy 3 in Singles & Dating

A co-worker everyone loves and has worked with us for 7 years is moving to Orlando. We need a great goodbye gift (but not horribly expensive -- $100 or less). Any ideas?

TIA

2007-07-23 17:13:01 · 4 answers · asked by Amy H 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

my son is really sick with a new cancer. my daughter in law wants me to watch the boys so she can tend to things,and I dont mind that, except she gives me orders instead of asking and before I flew out to help if i call the hospital and he had a visitor she wouldnt let me talk to him or tell him I was on the phone. He was 1800 miles away. How can I get along with her so she won't upset my son with our disagreements?

2007-07-23 17:12:36 · 8 answers · asked by tundra 3 in Family

The Supreme Court on Monday held that states must take steps to register all marriages in all communities. The order can annoy those among Muslims who insist that such legal requirements infringe their right to be governed by their personal laws in matters of marriage, divorce and inheritance.
Reiterating its February 14, 2006, order, the court said, "We are of the view that marriages of all Indian citizens, irrespective of their religion, shall be compulsorily registered in the state within whose territorial jurisdiction it was solemnised." Your comments.

2007-07-23 17:10:34 · 15 answers · asked by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 in Marriage & Divorce

OK--HOW DOES THIS WORK???- HOW DO YOU HAVE A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP AND SHOW HOW MUCH YOU CARE FOR SOMEONE OVER THE PHONE AND THE PC???? THIS SUCKS TO ME--YOU CANT SHOW EMOTIONS OVER A PC OR A PHONE-- I PERSONALLY NEED TO BE HELD AND FEEL THE PERSON--LISTEN UP IT CAN ONLY WORK FOR SO LONG--IF YOU DISAGREE LET ME KNOW- ENLIGHTEN ME SOME ONE PLEASE TELL ME I AM WRONG--LET ME HEAR YOU-LOUD IF YOU PLEASE

2007-07-23 17:08:30 · 8 answers · asked by ChukNShae H 1 in Singles & Dating

I am dating a man who allows his 11 1/2 yr old daughter to sleep in his bed with him every night. He also allows her to share his bathroom, dressing area, shower, etc while she has her own bedroom and bathroom. They do not close the bathroom door while they are showering, only pull it slightly closed. Should I be concerned? He gets defensive if it is mentioned to him as being questionable and knows a court of law would have trouble with it when he sues the mother for custody, yet he refuses to change it. Any advice?

2007-07-23 17:08:15 · 20 answers · asked by ljgmom 1 in Family

But I thought women needed to test drive shoes and try on cars?

How are women supposed to do this wihout the help of serial monogamy?

2007-07-23 17:07:58 · 8 answers · asked by ? 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I was 16 when we met. He was 32 years old . Now I think I got married too soon. What should I do?

2007-07-23 17:00:53 · 7 answers · asked by anglecakesalfred 2 in Family

She is 45 and a great mom. I am on a budget of under 100$

2007-07-23 16:59:50 · 13 answers · asked by H <3 2 in Family

Why?

And why is serial monogamy a better method to sleep around than swinging or open marriage?

Thanks,

Flavio

2007-07-23 16:58:33 · 12 answers · asked by ? 3 in Marriage & Divorce