Family & Relationships - 23 July 2007

my mom meets this guy (Tim) through her brother (Richard) and she kinda likes him. I meet this girl (Stacey) through Tim and my mom. We kinda like eachother a little too. (Who) is wrong if we both end up dating? as in my mom+Tim------me +Stacey, do we have to drop one? or is it alright? or wuts goin on??
just wondering kuz i'm not sure if my mom likes him or he likes her or anything... just an interesting situation
because if they marry someday, i would be dating my step sister!
or if we marry, my mom would be dating her in-law!
so how does this work?
i dont think its gonna happen, but... what if?

2007-07-23 16:51:26 · 1 answers · asked by Kyle J 2 in Singles & Dating

I've tried to tell him how I would like him to treat me and I've even gotten him a book that we read together. He still does not compliment or say I love you, without being prompted and it hurts. What do I do?

2007-07-23 16:49:01 · 34 answers · asked by kc 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is a retired city of chicago employee, he went into rehab 2 yrs ago and had his pension check sent to a new bank account leaving me without support. I had to leave our home and move to Louisiana my home. all attempts to serve him with a subpoena have met with failure. He is still my husband of over 25 years, I was recently injured in a fall and cannot work full time. The pension board refuses to tell me of his location. I don't know what to do , I will have to apply for food stamps and assistance from the government. I cannot even pay my insurance deductible. I am 56 years old and cannot look forward to a new career, during my marriage he was my sole support. I cannot afford a lawyer, or a private detective to find him, what recourse do I have. Can I sue the pension board for money that I deserve since I am still his wife? I did obtain legal aid to file a divorce but was unable to locate him. What should I do?

2007-07-23 16:48:43 · 9 answers · asked by beignet 2 in Marriage & Divorce

my husband works for full 24 hrs. and rests for 24 hours. in short, he works every other day. and on his off days he is with me. i only get to sleep with him every other night. how can i make him look forward to his day off? we're newly weds...

2007-07-23 16:46:01 · 8 answers · asked by ching 1 in Marriage & Divorce

This decision could be the greatest and most important you would ever make in your entire life? The right decision would result in celebrating silver and golden wedding anniversaries which are treasured? Intense and serious feedback appreciated from both married and non-married persons.

2007-07-23 16:45:07 · 10 answers · asked by Dolphin-Bird Lover8-88 7 in Marriage & Divorce

my roomate is so mean to me because unlike her i am still a virgin. she pokes me in the *** and yells "anal sex!" it makes me really uncomfortable. I really don't like being poked in the behind. i told her that it hurts my feelings and she laughs. what should i do?

2007-07-23 16:42:40 · 3 answers · asked by happytrails 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

This was a around a month ago he moved out but they have had a relationship for a few months now. I cheated on him earlier on in our marriage (12 years ago) and he forgave me and basically wanted to try again, even though I filed for divorce then. So I stopped the paperwork. I asked him today if he was happy. I really just want him to be happy. Just as I want to be happy. He said he doesn't know if he will ever be happy. (He is around midlife crisis age and had a near death experience earlier this summer.)
I have been working out more, eating better and such. My body is getting into shape and I have lost 10 of the 15-20 pounds I needed to lose. I caught him checking me out a few times recently.
We had an interesting conversation today where he expressed concern for me and how I am handling things.
Now, he wants to have sex with me. He talked about getting "excited" while we were talking. Talked about how we weren't divorced yet. Could he stop by this week and *ahem* with me.

WWYD

2007-07-23 16:41:09 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs and about 5 months ago he said he wanted to start giving me oral which he has never done before but it never bothered me since he satisfies me when we make love although thru the yrs i have often wondered what it was like.Well been 5 months since he told me this but he hasnt done it yet and for a few months after and after making love i would ask him why he didnt do it and he would either say "i will" or "next time" or "im going to"..When he first brought the subject up he said he had been thinking about it and waiting to do it for awhile but didnt know how i would feel about plus he said he thought i would be something i would like..Although i never ask for it i am a little disappointed and i feel let down that he hasnt done it..Over the weekend after about a month or so of not mentioning it to him i ask him when he was gonna do it and he said "i will" but that night we made love and of course he didnt do it..

2007-07-23 16:40:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My fiancee and I are exicited about our aug 2008 wedding but we do have a sticky situation. We have decided to have 5 groomsmen including best man and 5 bridemaids uncluding the maid of honor..My fiancee Edwin is from russia and has a Best friend named JR...that he first meet when he came to america...The problem is JR is 17, 5 years younger then Edwin, and Edwin and I both feel JR is too immature to play the role and take responsibility of the Best Man. Edwin has another great friend ,Stan who will take the role of BestMan. Stan is older and alot more mature....THE MAJOR ISSUE> JR thinks and expects he is going to be the best man. How does Edwin tell him that he is not going to be the best man without causing major problems? Jr is still going to be a groomsmen.

2007-07-23 16:34:44 · 16 answers · asked by Bride2Be 4 in Weddings

2007-07-23 16:33:24 · 14 answers · asked by anglecakesalfred 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I believe my husband is mentally and emotionally abusive to me. He does so many things to mess with my mind and self esteem that I am no longer myself anymore. I am very withdrawn. In a typical argument..he will say things to really get me going..and in the heat of things..he will just stop and say in the calmest voice.."Why are you yelling?", "listen to yourself" "are you crazy?" ..when he had been screaming at me just seconds before!? He does this often. He always wants me to feel stupid and belittle me. Once he even got in my face with his finger directly on the tip of my nose, when I reached with force and pushed his hand away..he grabbed my arm and said I deserved it because I grabbed him first. He is always trying to push me over the edge and out of nowhere make me feel stupid or crazy! He has me questioning my own sanity here! I KNOW I am not crazy..and I just believe he may be. He has me going nuts with this Jackal Hyde personality!

2007-07-23 16:33:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

There was a time I would have done or overlooked or to be honest not only agreed but I would have enjoyed the other side of the woman I was married to, but now I don't think I would answer the phone to save the marriage. You kick a dog enough times and he leaves...

2007-07-23 16:28:26 · 11 answers · asked by AzNative89 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Is it ever okay for a man of those ages to date and marry a 16 year old?

2007-07-23 16:25:55 · 31 answers · asked by anglecakesalfred 2 in Marriage & Divorce

he's very cute..and i would like to get to know him..but have you ever heard of a teacher dating a student..no i am not a minor!
i am 20,and he's 26..but would a teacher date a student ..or they wouldn't??

2007-07-23 16:25:37 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I have asked five people to be my bridesmaids. They're ages 16, 19, 20, 25, and 45.

The woman who is 45 is about the same age is my mom...is it weird for me to have her as a bridesmaid? She's been a friend of mine for three years. I thought about giving her a different, equally important role, but I couldn't come up with any ideas.

Should I just stick with her being a bridesmaid? Or should I give her another role? I want her to be featured somehow.

2007-07-23 16:25:23 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My mother is a Saint. My Grandmothers are Saints. How come I can't find no woman here that could continue the line of good women in my family.

They were nice girls, waited for marriage. They tell their granddaughters sleeping round is a sin- they didn't do it.

And they can cook old world style. My mother makes the best pasta, period! It seems all the women I meet live on take out chinese or McDonalds or more of that unhealthy stuff.

And the women in my family, they demand respect and gets it. I have not met any woman that demands it, quite on the contrary. They seem to do whatever they can to tarnish their reputations.

What do you think?

2007-07-23 16:23:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

please help

2007-07-23 16:22:15 · 34 answers · asked by danieloholic 6 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-23 16:15:16 · 34 answers · asked by anglecakesalfred 2 in Marriage & Divorce

we had a look at a few suit hire shops in melbourne. i dont know to go for a charcoal suit with pintripes. the pinstripes are in a white but dosent stand out looks great. and have the groom in a white vest and a tie matching my dress. and with the groomsmen have them in the same suit but no vest and just shirt and tie. or go for a chocolate brown instesd of the charcoal. but with the chocolate brown i can have the groom in a plain instead of the pinstripes and cream vest also for the groom with the rest being in a pinstripe suit. i am confused cos the b/maides color dresses make it a bit difficult. the ceremony will be at 1p and reception at 6.30p it will be summer here thats why i wanted to choose a colour for the suits. oh and will having a vest for the groom look too wintery? please help

2007-07-23 16:10:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Or are there some who want that and a realtionship...

2007-07-23 16:09:19 · 10 answers · asked by Plumenon01 2 in Singles & Dating

Would you have gotten upset if someone gave you a wedding gift that was used or old? A relative was recently married and she received a clock that was suppose to be silver. When she open the gift, it was rust and silver. The box was torn so it looked as if it was placed back into the box and re-wrapped. When I got married, I received a picture frame that was obviously trimmed in gold at one time but when I received it, it was rust and chipped gold. I know people should be thankful for what they receive but I feel a card would have been better than a used or very old gift. What are your thoughts? Share your opinions and stories. Do you think this is tacky?

2007-07-23 16:06:49 · 12 answers · asked by Who me? 3 in Weddings

Have you ever been in love with somone even though you knew that it was impossible to be with that person? If so, why could you not be together and what did you do?

2007-07-23 15:58:41 · 6 answers · asked by ncgirl 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I would love to hear how people feel when they are in love or just lust? thanks :)

2007-07-23 15:55:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been really close with my cousin and her hubby for a long time. They've been married for about 7 years now. Recently, her hubby and I have become closer. We started talking on the phone a lot in December last year and then we started meeting each other in secret in January. In February we started sleeping together. It only happened a few times and then in March I broke things off. Well, I still can't stop thinking about him. We started talking to each other again about a month ago and I think things might start up again but I'm a little bit scared. I really think I'm in love with him. I'm so happy when we're together. I cry when I think about not being with him. I know this isn't right. But, I don't know what to do. BTW, I'm 19 and he's 36. What do I do? Him and his wife (my cousin) don't get along at all.

2007-07-23 15:54:39 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How can it work if we don't agree on how to use our finances?

2007-07-23 15:52:20 · 5 answers · asked by googlebugg 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been with my husband for 5 years, and married 2 months. Since we have gotten married, he has done a 360. He humiliates me infront of his family, and he even drew back to hit me once. He does not care about me or my family, and he even acts like he hates us sometimes. I am currently staying with my parents until I figure out what to do.
To top it all off....I just saw my first love yesterday, and it made me sick to my stomach. I am still very much in love with him, and I know he would treat me soooooo much better than my husband does. But the thing is, we have both moved on, and he is now married. From what I hear, they are having problems too. I want to call him so bad, and just see how he is doing but I am sooooo afraid to have my heart broken. I don't think I could take it again.
My question is, should I try to work things out with my husband for the 100th time, or should I just leave now? And what should I do about my first love...should I call him or not? HELP!

2007-07-23 15:52:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

what do mens like in agirl,,,how do ya want ur wives to be?

2007-07-23 15:50:56 · 4 answers · asked by Jessie 3 in Singles & Dating

Because I'm sure it will be our aniversary on Friday the 13th more than a few times in our lifetime.

2007-07-23 15:49:29 · 12 answers · asked by vvsec 1 in Weddings

My husband and I were trying to file child support against his birth mom. She has to pay for her other two kids that the state took. When we tried to get some child support they said that she didn't make enough to pay to his son. Why dose the state get child support from her ,but not her son who lives with us? We live in the state of Wisconsin.

2007-07-23 15:48:03 · 8 answers · asked by anglecakesalfred 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, I'm reposting this question since I was typing a little fast the last time. Guys, if you where to receive a text message from your girl that you have know for about 2 months and the text message say's" I miss the way you taste in my mouth and I can’t wait to see you” .Sorry for being so blunt. But guys wouldn't you think that a little too much. I'm trying to tell my crazy friend not to text that to him. So I want to know what you guys would think if you received a text message saying that from a chick you have just know for 2 months.

2007-07-23 15:44:30 · 17 answers · asked by vikkilynn5454 1 in Singles & Dating