My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs and about 5 months ago he said he wanted to start giving me oral which he has never done before but it never bothered me since he satisfies me when we make love although thru the yrs i have often wondered what it was like.Well been 5 months since he told me this but he hasnt done it yet and for a few months after and after making love i would ask him why he didnt do it and he would either say "i will" or "next time" or "im going to"..When he first brought the subject up he said he had been thinking about it and waiting to do it for awhile but didnt know how i would feel about plus he said he thought i would be something i would like..Although i never ask for it i am a little disappointed and i feel let down that he hasnt done it..Over the weekend after about a month or so of not mentioning it to him i ask him when he was gonna do it and he said "i will" but that night we made love and of course he didnt do it..
2007-07-23 16:40:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have always given him oral and i love doing that..Its really getting old always hearing him say "i will" or "next time"..I think it was wrong of him to tell me this,get my hopes up and then not do it..When i have brought it up to him he seems to get annoyed and i dont know why cause he is the right that brought the subject up NOT me..Should i just give up on him ever doing this.
2007-07-23 16:43:09 · update #1
Kim how could he not like it he has never done it before.
2007-07-23 16:54:15 · update #2
Nett i DONT ask him constantly like i already said over the weekend was the first time that i had mentioned it in about a month or so.
2007-07-23 16:58:33 · update #3
Think about your first time giving oral. Chances are you were worried that it would be gross.
And guys don't bleed down there -- so they have a little more to be worried about. He has gotten to the point where he is willing to consider it -- he just hasn't gotten to that step yet. Treat him like a virgin -- sometimes you have to gently coax him.
You may also want to see if he would be willing to try 69 -- perhaps suggest this after you shower together -- when everyone will be really clean and it may be something that he will be more willing to do.
2007-07-23 16:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by mj69catz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I would just wait for him to do it like he says he will. I think that the reason he's not doing it is because either he get's too into the making love and just forgets, or he's just waiting for the right time (when he thinks both of you are ready). I also think the reason he's getting irritated by you asking all the time is because he knows that he should have done it but didn't. Either that or he thinks that you're being selfish by asking constantly. Like when I tell my boyfriend that I will give him oral and don't I get irritated when he asks why because I feel like he's being selfish and he just doesn't like the sex. That and I get kinda mad at myself for not doing something I said I would do. So, I just think you should wait for him to be ready... or you could ask if he wanted to do 69, if you feel comforetable doing that. Anyway, good luck and I hope that I helped :)
2007-07-23 16:55:45 · answer #2 · answered by babyblue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I don't think he is going to do it. It sounds more like he was talking himself into doing something that has repulsed him. He may have mentioned it because he feels that it's something you really want, but cannot get himself to do. I'm sorry, but your asking probably makes it more difficult for him. I know you said that he doesn't know because he hasn't done it, but maybe the thought of it bothers him. It isn't for everyone. I think the best thing you can do is not mention it ever again and see what he decides to do. It sounds as though the 2 of you are pretty together physically, so you don't want to ruin that over him feeling pressured. I didn't say you were pressuring him, but just asking him could be too much.
2007-07-23 17:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be something that is hard for him to do. You know there are some guy just like there are some girls who don't like doing it all. He might have been thinking about it for a while and said while in thought but didn't mean for it to slip just in the heat of the moment. I wouldn't bring it up again. He knows you are interested in it and knows if he was to do it you would be okay with it because you have asked him about it. I think there are some people out there who dont' like to do things when it is expected and on this that might be him. I would just let it go and if it happens it happens and if it don't well try not to let it bother you. What if he does it and you like and he doesn't. Then you will know you like it and want it more and he doesn't want to do it anymore. Then you will feel worse and get mad because you want it and expect it. See what I mean.
2007-07-23 16:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your husband really doesn't like it but had a weird hair or something and said it. Maybe his friends were talking about it or something and he thought he would mention it to you... and he might have thought that you might say "no thanks" since it has not been part of your sex life. Maybe he thought you would forget about it by now. Some guys like it and some don't. I would not bother him about it anymore, I would be embarrassed if I asked and he said "next time" or something.
2007-07-23 16:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't have told you he wanted to do it if he wasn't committed to it. Your continuing to ask him will not get what you want but will only push him away. You waited 16 years so let it go. He made get up the nerve in time.
2007-07-23 16:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by Truth is elusive 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have seen this question, the same exact one many, many, many times now. I'm finally going to answer it. Tie him up and jump on his face already!!! Please, for the love of God! Do it so I don't have to read this question again!! Do it tonight!!
2007-07-23 19:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you should clean it up down there. trim or shave it close. guys are visual, we like to see what's going on.
2007-07-23 22:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by Bone Daddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he told you that he would, I say don't give him head till he gives you some!!!!
2007-07-23 17:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't do it for him until he actually DOES it for you.
2007-07-23 16:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by c 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋