I have been with my husband for 5 years, and married 2 months. Since we have gotten married, he has done a 360. He humiliates me infront of his family, and he even drew back to hit me once. He does not care about me or my family, and he even acts like he hates us sometimes. I am currently staying with my parents until I figure out what to do.
To top it all off....I just saw my first love yesterday, and it made me sick to my stomach. I am still very much in love with him, and I know he would treat me soooooo much better than my husband does. But the thing is, we have both moved on, and he is now married. From what I hear, they are having problems too. I want to call him so bad, and just see how he is doing but I am sooooo afraid to have my heart broken. I don't think I could take it again.
My question is, should I try to work things out with my husband for the 100th time, or should I just leave now? And what should I do about my first love...should I call him or not? HELP!
2007-07-23 15:52:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave your ex alone... the grass isn't always greener and I think you may be looking for an excuse to get out of your marriage but you are the only one that can make this decision for yourself. Good luck!
2007-07-23 15:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by DAWN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to start a new project if you haven't finished the old one. Don't call the first love. You'd just be adding issues to the ones you already have. Figure out what you need to do about the husband first. Resolve that project first then begin a new one. As far as a 360, wasn't there some kinda signs before you said 'I Do"? No one should have to put up with abuse.
2007-07-23 16:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by Taf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is abusive - LEAVE him. You are lucky enough to be able to stay with your parents - so stay put. Get out of the mess you are in. Don't call your ex. He is married. Even if he is unhappy. The worst thing you can do is to leave your husband and look for safety (OR WHATEVER) in another man's arms - especially if he is married. He can't rescue you. You will be making a great mistake and probaby will get your heart broken. Fix your problems and get on with your life. Good luck!
2007-07-23 16:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 17:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by liskovec 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first if you want more complex problems you contact you old married boyfriend. In certain states that constitutes fault. Leave the old boyfriend alone and out of your business, your family is with you to help.
Now, stay the hell away from the hubby. B/C the next move he may make may be YOUR last. Seek an experienced attorney and get it going A.S.A.P.
2007-07-23 15:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by jrie67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you have already left your husband, and if he's that mean to you, why were you with him in the first place? As for your ex, leave him alone. Exes are that for a reason...just right now you probably don't want to think about why it didn't work out. He's married, let him work out his own problems and if he gets divorced, great...but don't help it along.
2007-07-23 15:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by traceylenore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were still in love with your first love..why in heavens name did you marry your husband? You obviously have no committment to him and I would guess that he probably knows that. Perhaps he too thought things would be different after he married you.
I cant advise you as to whether or not to call it quits or to stay...but either way...you need to make a committment. Don't go near your first love again. If his marriage is in trouble, you being available will only make things worse. If you really care about him...forget him.
2007-07-23 16:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by Poohcat1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off don't call the ex. If his marriage is in trouble stay away until he moves on. You don't wanna be a home wrecker. NEXT....why the hell would you even consider staying with a man that makes you feel bad? The next time he might not just draw back to hit you. He may knock your *** out. End it before you get hurt.
2007-07-23 16:00:13 · answer #8 · answered by gagirl01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married 2 months? Not out of 1 before your looking at another. Best leave it unhealthy.
2007-07-23 16:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not stay in the marriage. but---as others have stated, it is not a good idea to persue the old flame. in fact ,its not a good idea to think about any relationship with any man at this time. you need to sever the ties with your current husband, reevaluate your life,take some time to heal, and learn some new things about yourself. you are too needy right now, too emotionally weak,and you are not going to be able to be objective about whats best for you. later,if his marriage fails and you are in a position to have a relationship with him, then go for it if you still want a relationship with him. you really shouldnt want to put yourself in a position of contributing to his marital problems. best wishes
2007-07-23 16:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋