2007-07-23 16:33:24 · 14 answers · asked by anglecakesalfred 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have be together since I was 16 and he was 32 about 6 years ago.
2007-07-23 16:48:27 · update #1
I married young and became pregnant immediately. That was many years ago. If I were to do it over, I'd leave when I realized there wasn't any love and respect. I ended up with 3 kids and felt compelled to stay. Now I realize it would be better for my children to grow up with a set of happy parents, although they are divorced.
Don't do anything impulsive. Marriages have ups and downs and these days people are quick to divorce. Sometimes adversity can make a marriage stronger.
There's both sides of the coin. Good luck. It is a very difficult decision.
2007-07-23 16:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many couple's marry young and make it! You really were not specific as to WHY you are regretting getting married. Marriage is a committment, whether you were 18 or 80 when you said your vows. I am not implying that this is what is happening in your marriage, but there is no room in a marriage for selfishness from either spouse. I suggest you sit down with your husband and talk about your feelings. Use kind words. You did not mention any type of abuse or infidelity, so short of those two things existing in your marriage, I think you need to sit down with him and talk about what made the two of you fall in love in the first place! It is normal for couple's to get into a routine and take one another and the reasons that got married for granted! I do not agree with the response that told you to go take a vacation with a friend or family member! That is the same as running away from your problems, and believe me, they will still be there when you get back!!! Marriage is not easy, but if you are willing to honor your vows, it is the most rewarding experience you will ever have in life. You and your husband need to work to be best friends as well as husband and wife!
2007-07-24 00:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by Dolphin73 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe take some time away from each other. Go on a vacation with a best friend, a sibling, or a parent. Your spouse should maybe do the same, when you come back. After the alone time/vacation from each other start to reconnect all over with your spouse. You guys will be both be interested in each other by having your own stories to share with each other. This is a big step to rekindling that feeling of fresh, new love. Good luck !
2007-07-23 23:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have heard that you should give it a good 5 years and then you should know. Its like going into a partnership with a company. They say it takes 5 years to really build a successful company, and if it hasn't succeeded in 5 years to fold it up... & move on. A marriage is a partnership as well. . . . try to hang in there. I have been married 2 years & it isnt easy all the time, but we ALWAYS work through it.
Good Luck!
2007-07-23 23:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by ~Quixotic~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you are starting to regret it. You left out alot of details. If you had kids young you could be watching your friends still enjoying their lives as single and childless but you have to look at your child and realize that you have a life that NO ONE will ever get unless they have kids too. You will have great times with your child the same you can have with your friends. This does not mean do not go out. It's important for you to get away and even more important for you to get away with your spouse. Go someplce no body knows you and have a great evening just the two of you without pressures of the house, kids, parents, in-laws OR friends!!
You need to re-connect with your mate as a sexual, adult human. After some time with little ones you tend to take that connection for granted.
2007-07-23 23:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by gipseedancer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stick it out. You're just feeling restless because you're young, but you have older responsibilities, like being a wife and a mother. The thing is, running from your marriage won't grant you any freedom- in fact, you'll be even more tied down. I know hindsight is 20/20, and noone likes to hear "I told you so", BUT - THIS is why teenagers shouldn't be having sex and getting married.
2007-07-24 00:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think ur the only one who can make that decision.cuz if you choose to leave him there might be no turning back. Are there children involved? Whatever u do,just tink twice.
Think of what had possibly went wrong? Or is it just that now you want to live ur life,free to do anything you want? But are you sure you don't mind seeing him with another girl,loving her the way he loved you... All i want 2 say is,just think it over and do what you think is best for you. Absolutely don't stay only cuz you feel sorry for him... Success
2007-07-24 00:20:12 · answer #7 · answered by chex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, everyone has doubts about their marriage at some point. I know you were young, but you did make a vow. Marriage takes work sometimes.
2007-07-24 02:35:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get marriage counseling before you decide to call it quits.Divorce should be your last step and I mean LAST.Think of your children and what it will be like for them,Your kids didn't ask you to get into this marriage.What's more important,your kids or your love life?
2007-07-23 23:49:14 · answer #9 · answered by E. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stick it out. It will get better. There were days I questioned my sanity as well. However, things always get better. Going on 10 years now! Maybe seek counseling.
2007-07-23 23:41:11 · answer #10 · answered by Guy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋