Would you have gotten upset if someone gave you a wedding gift that was used or old? A relative was recently married and she received a clock that was suppose to be silver. When she open the gift, it was rust and silver. The box was torn so it looked as if it was placed back into the box and re-wrapped. When I got married, I received a picture frame that was obviously trimmed in gold at one time but when I received it, it was rust and chipped gold. I know people should be thankful for what they receive but I feel a card would have been better than a used or very old gift. What are your thoughts? Share your opinions and stories. Do you think this is tacky?
2007-07-23 16:06:49 · 12 answers · asked by Who me? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The chipped and gold picture frame I received was immediately thrown in the trash. There was no way I could use it (in bad shape). I wasn't mad but a little surprised because I couldn't believe that someone would give a gift that wasn't usable. I didn't donated it to the salvation army either because of the shape it was in. I did send a thank you card to the lady. I have told my relative who received the faded clock to send the guest a thank you also.
2007-07-23 16:24:00 · update #1
The picture frame was not a heirloom.
2007-07-23 16:40:05 · update #2
Everyone can say it's the thought that count but to give someone a wedding gift (or any kind of gift) that is old or had been used is tacky and unacceptable. I agree a $1.00 card would be better than an old or used gift. My wife and I still have all of our cards we received from our wedding. We placed the cards in a book. If the couple have a registry and the guest(s) cannot afford it, I'd say buy a card. It's that simple. My wife and I also received a gift that we were surprised to get. It was a coffee maker. We did not register for a coffee maker because neither one of us drink coffee. We could tell the gift was re-wrapped because the box was faded (looks as if it was in the sun for a while).
2007-07-23 16:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by stergre1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the gift. I might be offended if someone grabbed some random dirty pot out of their sink and wrapped it up for me. I understand if you don't have alot of money for gifts but if that's the case just give me a 99c card and keep your pot...obviously you need it more than I do.
However, if it was something had a history or was special to them (like a heirloom picture frame) I would love it.
The worst regift I ever saw was when someone gave the bride a crock pot. The only problem was they forgot to take the card out of inside the box that was addressed to them and it had been in their dirty house for so long when she opened the box there was a dead roach in it....needless to say it was quickly put in the trash.
Either way they get a thank you card, even if the only trouble they went to was wrapping it they should still get one out of courtesy.
2007-07-23 16:24:18 · answer #2 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is the though that counts, so what was the thought when they gave you that picture frame. Was it an heirloom or an antique? If it was just someone being lazy and cheap thant i would be a little upset, but if it was truly given with the best of intentions then I would let it go. I gues it just depends who gave it and under what circumstances.
I do agree it is tacky to regift, unles the gift is brand new and no one can tell.
2007-07-23 16:18:35 · answer #3 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should always send a card, maybe the couldn't afford a nice gift. THEY ARE TACKY! I wish there was a way to let them know you know what you know. but then you would look tacky. Dont go there. You where right to send a card. I live in the NE so here they give cash or a check. I know people who have had a guest write a check and then it bounced. atleast you only had a crappy gift, and not a charge from your bank on top of it. Life lessons right? Congrats on your wedding!
2007-07-23 16:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by rxing 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think giving a recycled gift is okay, but it should be in new shape. If it is obvious that it is worn or old, then it is too tacky. You're right, I would rather receive a card only than a gift that was so old that it had to be thrown away. I could understand if it came from a very old person or a person with mental disabilities, but otherwise it is inappropriate.
2007-07-23 16:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wonderful to give a family heirloom as a wedding gift, but there should be some explanation so that the recipient realizes that that is what it is.
My sister-in-law recently gave a wedding gift to her friend's daughter of a beautiful old Spode plate that she had received from her aunt. She enclosed a note saying that the plate reminded her of the bride's mom who is a wonderful gardener.
My mother has some wonderful old silver and has given various pieces as wedding gifts.
I think that many people really appreciate that kind of gift.
2007-07-23 16:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think regifting is tacky for a wedding. Those folks were being insultingly cheap. If you're going to be that cheap then get a card, I agree. Don't be cheap while trying to pretend you're not.
True, one should never expect a gift and is technically expected to be grateful for whatever one gets. But when something's ready for the junk yard, I do think that's insulting. Not even Good Will takes stuff that's not usable.
2007-07-23 16:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A skyline whisk circ 1938 which nonetheless in good concern however that's scaracent now and hidden away for posterity. a collection of silver teaspoons which have been given as an engagement recent to my mom by potential of Walkers the Jewellers on her engagement to my Dad in 1936. I nonetheless have a handkerchief holder that I gained for first place interior the one hundred yards on the White city stadium interior the 1950's. the only factor from my Helicon days of athletics...the days beforehand the expert Athlete. Oh i ought to bypass on and on in regards to the flaws tucked away in cabinets waiting for me to pop my clogs so the infants can relegate them to room one hundred and one. I even have started out sending a number of those issues to vehicle boots or the charity shops...however i'm undecided notwithstanding if or no longer they rejoice with what they have been given. LOL
2016-12-10 20:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by hutt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guest was wealthy then be upset. But, if the guest was having major $, marriage problems let it go. And thank them for their thoughtful lovely gift.
2007-07-23 16:10:19 · answer #9 · answered by jrie67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's VERY RUDE to give someone something old as a wedding gift,I mean you are starting a NEW LIFE and you get old gifts???That su.cks,you should be mad.
Good luck ; )
2007-07-23 16:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋