There was a time I would have done or overlooked or to be honest not only agreed but I would have enjoyed the other side of the woman I was married to, but now I don't think I would answer the phone to save the marriage. You kick a dog enough times and he leaves...
2007-07-23 16:28:26 · 11 answers · asked by AzNative89 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just to answer the lket me guess group.
We were under twenty-five when married...
Made over 6 digits for income...
Shared chores most of the time...
Lasted eighteen yrs
Had two children
2007-07-23 17:28:52 · update #1
We went to church regularly..
We forgot to communicate but we had something that was unique....
2007-07-23 17:30:35 · update #2
Dog Owner??? Whats up with the prostitution thing? I never betrayed my wedding vows, she did at every turn, even posting up on web sites for sex and having sex with both of my brothers one of which is the father of her baby due on our wedding anniversery...
2007-07-23 17:59:28 · update #3
pal your better off. in my opion?
2007-07-23 16:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You've really put up with a lot. I'm sorry that all this happened to you.
I don't know about your feelings on divorce...but even the Holy Bible says that infidelity is grounds for divorce.
It sounds like you have tried to save this marriage. If the other person doesn't want it...unfortunately you can't make them. I know...I tried too, and it hurts to get your feelings stomped on repeatedly. Sometimes you just don't feel like you can get back up.
Have you ever tried a separation? Just a suggestion. Sometimes a person might not realize what they have until its gone.
Pray a lot. You can pour your heart out to God and He always listens. I'll say a prayer for you too.
2007-07-24 02:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left my husband of 11yrs in May with no regrets....I feel I did everything in MY power to make it work. I went to marriage counseling and HE dropped out. I went to all his court ordered drug meetings with him, I participated in HIS anger management classes. I took care of him, bailed him out of jail numerous times did what ever it was he asked of me and was a faithful wife and took wonderful care of our two kids. I forgave him over and over for the mental, verbal and physical abuse, but his addiction's I will not forgive. I walked away from my home, financial security, and everything familiar. I left knowing that I gave him my all and have nothing but my kids, clothes, car, furniture and his last name to show for it. I finally realized I deserve to be treated better, and I'm worthy of a real man's love. That love is not supposed to hurt, you can't make someone change and no matter what you do for someone.That if they really loved you they would put forth the effort also. I was 18 when I married and I felt like a caged puppy, beaten, neglected, starved and abused and now that I'm 29 I have busted out of my cage and you can damn sure bet.... I did bite the hand that "did not" feed me all those years. He had me when I was just a baby and now I'm a dog; and I just hope I'm not left to be rabid for the rest of my life and that I do not carry my baggage into my next relationship. I now know what not to look for in a man and have learned many lessons...hopefully I'll find Mr.Right, someday.
2007-07-24 00:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by Destiny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right. A person should only have to take so much crap. The best advice I can give you is to try to recognize if you still have any love left. It doesn't sound like it to me. Remember, the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. You sound indifferent. It's a big step but it will hopefully open doors that will bring you happiness.
2007-07-23 23:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like your saying about the dog...
I did everything I could. Marriage counseling, forgave the affair, offered to move to another city or state, anything.
He wouldn't give up the girlfriend - so I filed for divorce. It was finalized in Feb. of 2000.
2007-07-23 23:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let me guess;
1) you and/or your wife were under 25 when married for the first time.
2) Your family income was below $50,000/yr
3) You did not attend church.
4) No sharing of house hold chores. The more you earned entitled you to doing less work but not none.
5) No children in the first year.
I would bet most of these things are true. It also underlies a fundamental lack of maturity and self indulgence.
2007-07-23 23:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by eric l 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would have tried to go to counseling. But you can never over look, problems. Try talking to each other. You have to pick up the phone to save the marriage. That is if you still have the energy to try.
2007-07-23 23:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by SHAY RN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have been honest abt my feelings. I kept everything in and the poor guy thought I didn't like him. I was distancing my self from him....I feel bad about that b/c it was immature. The marriage went down hill fast.
2007-07-23 23:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by asldfkjdfj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somethings are better left done
aznative . . . Nevada ain't THAT far away next time your feeling "romantic" prostitution's legal there.
2007-07-23 23:35:03 · answer #9 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm with ya buddy, I wouldn't have done anything to save it, it and he weren't worth it.
2007-07-23 23:33:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋