I've been really close with my cousin and her hubby for a long time. They've been married for about 7 years now. Recently, her hubby and I have become closer. We started talking on the phone a lot in December last year and then we started meeting each other in secret in January. In February we started sleeping together. It only happened a few times and then in March I broke things off. Well, I still can't stop thinking about him. We started talking to each other again about a month ago and I think things might start up again but I'm a little bit scared. I really think I'm in love with him. I'm so happy when we're together. I cry when I think about not being with him. I know this isn't right. But, I don't know what to do. BTW, I'm 19 and he's 36. What do I do? Him and his wife (my cousin) don't get along at all.
2007-07-23 15:54:39 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first, you should have enough respect and love for your cousin not to mess around with her husband. you said that you and your cousin are close. when two females are close, there is a bond there that is stronger than a bond with a man. one of the most hurtful thing a person that you think is your friend can do to you is betray your trust. men come and go, but true friends are there before and after the men are gone.
secondly, i doubt very seriously that you are the only one this man is messing around with. to him you are probably the young vulnerable girl.
third... he will probably never leave your cousin, if he is so unhappy why isnt he gone yet?... if they do split it will probably be your cousin that leaves him. It is unlikely that he will leave her for u.
and lastly, really really think about it, do you think if you and him got together that he wouldnt do the same thing to you?
2007-07-23 16:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by Shazee Sha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a well known fact the fruit of the forbidden tree is always the sweetest tasting.And you're both eating from it.But the price may be too high to pay for either one of you.This affair should never have started the first time and it most definitely should not start again.You guys are allowing your lust to control your better judgment.In case you have forgotten there is another person involved in this mess.Even if they don't get along, it is not your place to start sleeping with her husband---is that some new type of therapy .what will happen to their marriage on one hand and your relationship with your cousin.on the other.Which relationship are you both ready to give up(that of cousins or that of the married couple.Guys, it is not worth it .There are other people out there for each of you and it is not a cliche.If you decide to continue on this path, you may destroy the family and it is not worth the pain it will cause.Here is hoping you do the right thing.
2007-07-23 16:28:12 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Relationship --------------
I am a stranger, have nothing to do with whatever you are doing but One line answer that I can give is that This relationship not in your best interest. Ask yourself, where do you stand in this relationship ? Can you name your relationship ?
You ---------------------------------
Can't you find a nice guy for yourself who is single and faithful towards his woman that's you.
Your Cousin---------------------
She is getting cheated at her back, stabbed back by you. I am sad for her. Don't do something to someone that you wouldn't like to be done to yourself.
Your Cousin's Husband-----
He's enjoying his wife(your cousin's) trust n faith, using your immaturity and loving it.
In a nutshell
Get wiser, any Man (A Good, Complete, Wise and Intelligent) would never use someone immature to his advantage knowing the larger interest of hers. He would never cheat at his wife's back.
You neither have a meaningful relationship, nor you stand anywhere, just being used to his advantage.
Advice --------------------
You have got yourself used for long, they are a couple and you should find a nice guy for yourself, that's my request too.
2007-07-23 16:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by Goldman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is completely using you and you need to stop this now before you cousin kicks you out of her life. There are more men out there you can find someone your age that you can relate to who isn't pretending to care about you so he can use your body for sex. this guy sounds like a sicko.
2007-07-23 16:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by Roxanne G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your cousin! Family should not do that to each other even if they don't get along it's their life.
2007-07-23 15:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by Hiro a Hero? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋