Was it my fault?

Question

I went with my dad and my sis to get ice cream, my sis is always doing things for my mom so i thought i would take my moms ice cream to her. My sister got mad and so did I, I got out of the rover and smeard whip creme on the dash board. My dad started yelling at me! I said that is wasnt permenant and and that it would come off with a wet towel. And I walked off as I went down the sidewalk through our carport i shut the gate to my backyard so the dog wouldnt get out and went inside. I gave my mom the ice cream and as i turned around my dad grabs me by the ear and drags me across the living room saying if i ever "slam" the gate on him again he was gonna beat my a**. He dosent do this alot. But every time he does he comes in to apologize. I told my mom to tell him to leave me ALONE. Can anyone tell me if this entire situation is MY fault?!!?

I accidently smeared the whip creme!

Answer 1

Talk to your school guidance counselor as soon as possible

Answer 2

If you accidentally smeared the whipped cream the correct thing to say would have been "I'll bring back a wet towel and clean that up". Coming after a fight with your sister, a smeared mess and the snide comment about the mess even closing the gate quietly could be taken as slamming it. If you were still mad at all it probably did look like you slammed the gate. I think you were all in the wrong at places in the story and should all try to apologize and get along better.

Answer 3

You knew your sis would be mad, because you knew she wanted to give the ice cream to your mother; so you picked a fight with her.

You state that you got mad and smeared whipped cream on the dashand so made a smart remark about it instead of cleaning it.

You state that you turned around and your father was right there, so I also believe you slammed the gate on your father.

Your question is, "Can anyone tell me if this entire situation is MY fault?"

My answer is predicated on the information you decided to share; it is this:

Maybe your father over reacted, but I think you could have done at least a couple of things differently.

Sending me any more emails is not going to change my answer.

You apparently, don't want to own responsibility for any of it. That means you aren't using the power you already have to make things different. Different attitude + Different choices = Different outcome.

Answer 4

Well, you shouldn't have smeared whip cream on the dashboard but your dad definitely didn't have the right to pull you around by your ear. Remember, he is the adult and supposed to be setting the example. If he wants you to learn how to control your temper, he needs to control his. Even if he does apologize it's not right. So, no, it's not your fault. You could apologize for smearing the whipped cream but as the adult, your dad should have confronted you in a more controlled and mature manner.

Answer 5

He just lost his temper there is no excuse for doing what he did. However In the future remember to be more careful with food in the car and make sure to be more considerate next time you knew you dad and sis were right behind you so why did you close the door behind you i they were also carrying ice cream they could have had dropped it or had trouble opening the gate.

Answer 6

no it wasn't your fault... not entirely. i know that when emotions get heated thing happen that we can't retract. However, i do give your dad kudos for apologizing. I know you probably didn't mean to shut the gate on him, but he just over reacted... and was heated probably. I remember my dad freaking out on me and he told me once, "I've never been a dad before, I'm still learning every day. And on top of that, I'm still human." Keep that in mind... your parents aren't perfect... no one is.. but as long as your communication is open with them and you and your dad talk it out then no one can truely be at "fault"

Answer 7

If you had smeared whipped cream on my dash board, I wold have beat your a**. It doesn't matter that it wasn't permanent, it was a stupid thing to do, and then you walk off without cleaning it off.

Answer 8

Well I don't think that you should have smeared anything on the dashboard, but I also don't think that your dad should have flipped out so much either. Maybe sit down with your mom and ask her to talk to your dad about not being so aggressive.........even if it's only sometimes.

Answer 9

ignore the chick that last posted an answer. seriously, it definetly wasnt your fault. ive been in a household where things like that happen, accidents that get blown out of proportion. and it's not your fault at all. adults tend to make a big deal out of things that teens or youngins think is a little thing. and most of the time it is, which explains why he apologized. it's ok though. but if things get to be worse, like him hitting you or anything like that because of something so petty, definetly talk to a counselor or someone like that. k?

Answer 10

You could have reacted better, but it wasn't your fault. You just need to control your emotions and learn to keep yourself from getting angry and doing something stupid in a heated situation like this. Keep your temper under control and things like this won't happen.

Answer 11

Your father is out of control. Talk to your mom about this, but not when you are mad. Sounds like there is something on his mind, and its probably not this little incident.