Why do men get irritated when women talk about their feelings?

Question

I'm just curious...I've heard and experienced that men don't like to talk about their feelings much and they seem to get irritated with women talking about theirs. Why is that? Do you men have any tips for us women on how we can talk to you when we need to? It's hard for a woman to be "shut down" when she's trying to explain something that is hurting her...so we need you to listen. But, I also understand that men can't handle all that (don't know why) - so I want to be more sensative to my man but I also have some needs myself (mostly to express myself). I'm learning to do some of it with my lady friends - but sometimes I want HIM in particular to listen. He does. He's sweet about it. But, I can tell it's hard for him. Help! Tips? Advice? (Please be nice, no need to bash me or call me names...I'm seeking CONSTRUCTIVE criticism or advice). THANKS! :)

Answer 1

Men can't handle so much of " emotion" because their brain is build in a bit different fashion than ours. In our brain, emotional centres are More dominant while in males, the mechanical and logical thinking centres are more dominant. But, both these centres are present in both males and the females and with more of practise, these centres can be developed... Just as your man is trying to develop his, though it can be little hard sometimes, its possible. Give him time.

Answer 2

I think that many women, including me, get rather analitical about feelings. We enjoy understanding feelings and evalutating them. Most men don't seem to think the same way at all. I think a lot of men like to "problem solve" and when we talk about feelilngs in an open-ended way, where expression is what counts, not "solving" anything.... men get lost and bored..... there doesn't seem to be a point ... to them. I get real frustrated with this, but since you are willing to take some responsibility for the solution, here's what I suggest: Get right to the point, keep it short, and have a point ... a specific goal that can be achieved. If you really want to put some effort into it... make it so he thinks that he figured out the solution.

Answer 3

There is no need for you to obtain any advise from the others. How can you jump on to a conclusion that all men are like your man. You do not know how to tackle your won man, that is main problem. You have been encircled with some prejudicial about men. Better take it out. Lady is very capable enough to deal with man. It appears that you may be less than 30 years in age. Better go for counselings on the topic.

Answer 4

Well first of all Jazmin, its really wrong that MEN don't like to express their feeling, (their are some situation that we don't express ourselves, but those are really few, especially in front of our rivals). I personally talk quite a lot about how I feel with my GF and this is not just once or twice in a week, but its everyday.

And on the other hand I also listen to her with lots of attention, because, I know she always talks sensible and to the point.

So it was never ever the situation that I really had to get on my nerves to listen what she wanna explain to me. What I suggest u is to talk to ur BF when u think u have enough reason to make the conversation going.

Anyways all the very best to u.

Answer 5

hi i have read u'r question it is personal, but im telling u my view if it hurt u then sorry, i think every men and women want to n try to understand their partner feeling but they could'nt beacuse he or she has grown in different environment n u in diff the main thing is that only diffrences are there neither u r wrong nor he is so think about it n try to be u on his place then may u get his problem. n if u'r problem is that he does'nt share anything with u or not intrested in u'r feeling that what u thinks ,u'r thought then try i know it hurt but nothing obtion left for u beside that u hve to do that whether u like or not, the one thing that evey partner seek in his partner that she should be chacterfull n religious so don't share u'r feeling of u'rs for any menor don't talk about u'r past with him , when u with him then just only with him no other should not be there between u n him it will help u a partner can feel bad by anyother person talk whether it anyneither male nor female trust me i m a doctor of this so be with it

Answer 6

Dear friend, thats why we need a friend apart from our husband who at least would be respecting our values & can make us understand politely of our fault ( if we do unknowingly!) . This the similier type of condition happened to me also 10/12 years ago after my marriage, sometimes I felt for suiciding too, but gradually I could revive myself with my growing kids , & for all this I should thank my special friend whom I met through internet . By this way, I am very much thankful to this computer too!

You can try to join any social networking site for freind with whom you can discuss every aspect of life & feel better from stucking life in a monotonous way!

Good luck!

Answer 7

just hav patience with a smile always u will feel better and hav a +ve attitude towards ur husband i m a scycologist expirience of 25 years...........any query always here 4 u

Answer 8

Try to talk relevant facts only.

Answer 9

bcoz guys dont wanna show their actual feelings, rather they r bubbly kinda prsn n dun wana b trapped by gals in their emotional behaviour

Answer 10

because i think when man like anothe