why does my dad pick to spank me when i've done something "bad". i want to know. tell me please n thank u. ^^

Question

i'm 15. why does my dad spank me? my mom used to but she can't anymore. she is "lazy" is wat my dad would say. i know i talk back, telling them off, i have run away many times and other stuff. but i don't go to far. when i yell i don't swear. i don't steal or anything that bad. but why do they spank me when i'm... i guess i could say out of line? i've tryed asking my dad so many times to pick something elso. not spanking my bare bottom when he thinks i need it. sometimes i don't think i should be getting the spanking at all. the only time he wont if i tell him its that time of the month. but other then that he'll pull me over his lap like i was 6 and pull my pants and panties down and then spank me as hard as he can and for as long as he sees fit. basliy i'm wondering. should my dad spank me all the time when i do something bad?? should he spank me all the time when i'm "bad" on my bare bottom?? tell me y plz.and if all ur gonna say is i'm a brat and thats all then don't reply. kay?

opps... now i sound really mean! now i feel really bad... but justed to say i don't do that stuff day to day. no thats alittle dumb. only time i do that stuff if i'm really mad at my mom or dad somethings both.

i never said i was 16 in one... i said i was 15 and i'll be 16 soon. don't mix my words around! i already do that alot.

i think i need to add something. my dad isn't a pev. please don't think of my dad that way. he is very nice, and mosted of the time understanding. i mean he talks to me more then my mom does bout thing that i had no clue that he even knew about. how knew my dad could tell i was crushing on a boy. not to say that when he does spanks me its not like his laughing. creepy if he did. no hes more like sad/mad/ other words that i can't spell. then after words he does try to make me feel better by hugging me and stuff. I DON'T DO EVERYTHING IN ONE DAY! ITS ONLY IF MY MOM AND DAD R BEING REALLY MEAN AND NOT LISTENING TO ME AT ALL ON WHAT I HAVE TO SAY!

thanks to those how have replyed... i do like only a few alot seems like not really want i wanted to hear. meaning the ones how only said my dad is a pev or w/e u guys put. thanks to those how explained it more to me. at lested i know more y my dad spanks me. so thxz. i think i understand more now y he does it.

Answer 1

Your father is choosing to spank you on your bare bottom because it is a humbling, painfull, embarrassing PUNISHMENT.

Despite what many people have been telling you, teenagers do get spanked. You already know this based on your other question - you have a 16yro friend who gets spanked by her father! There was a survey published in the Boston Globe in the middle 90s that said approximately 20% of all high school seniors in the USA still get spanked. That was only ten years ago so I doubt things have changed all that much. It would seem you have a few years to go. I have listed the source of the article below - note that it is written by an Anti-spanker - - understand that MANY parents are in favor of spanking despite what others say about it.

Whether you get spanked or not is really up to you. Follow the rules and you won't be. People are telling you to contact CPS or school counselors - - if you are being abused in other ways that may be the right thing to do BUT it seems as though that is not the case. Your dad allows you your modesty when you are having your period, you haven't mentioned him "touching" you in any other way than to spank you, it appears as though he simply feels spanking you is the best way to punish you - as your father that is really his choice. Many people may not agree and they may feel what he is doing is inappropriate but it really is his and your mom's choice just as behaving or misbehaving is your choice.

Sorry this may not be the answer you were looking for.

Answer 2

Something about this doesn't sound right. Since he's your Dad I don't know how to respond. He shouldn't be doing that. Spankings are something that should be over with well before 12 years old.

You may have to make a stand and it may not be pretty. Talk to your mother about it. Let her know it makes you feel uncomfortable in an eerie way.

Your punishments now should be revocation of priveledges or monetary loss. Spanking is not going to help you anymore and it will cause psychological problems. The fact that you question the idea as an idea is proof enough that you're beyond that.

I'm sorry, but your Dad gives me the creeps.

My mom's dad did that too, it didn't stop with spankings. He was an evil man. Look up pedophile.

Answer 3

There comes a time when a simple spanking becomes no longer effective. It sounds like your dad has problems that need professional attention. This is no longer discipline but abuse. Your dad shouldn't be pulling you pants down in the first place. I admire your admitting your faults and it sounds like you know what will happen when you do. You would think that you would try to avoid getting into this situation. You need to tell a teacher or another adult such as a pastor or doctor or an adult you can trust. Your dad needs help.

Answer 4

I was a rebellious child but my parents hv never spanked me. Somehow without spanking I still grew up to be a responsible and good person.

I dont support spanking. It does not work with evey child but cause more harm than good. Every child is different. It might be effective on one but not the other. Comminication might work better. Talk to the child and parents might be able to understand their children better and find out why their children misbehaved.

Btw I am a Malaysian Chinese. Despite of canning being a practice there, even in secondary Chinese schools where my son went to where students are reputed to be better disciplined ... well mannered and respectful. I condemn beating using belts or sticks. When i was a kid my uncle used to do that on my brother and I wld defend him all the time. This is child abuse.

Answer 5

Fifteen years old is too old for corporal punishment. As to why he is still spanking you, that is something only he can answer.

You mentioned a number of behaviors that you can easily change to reduce the number of spankings you get: running away, talking back, yelling. Even if you cannot change the punishment, you are old enough to change the behavior. I am not saying these things deserve a spanking. What I am saying is that you can choose not to do them.

I would suggest that you talk to your mom about having her and your dad come up with alternate punishments.

Answer 6

First of all your too old to get spankings, your a teen and you should be able to listen when told something, and I know thats your dad and not trying to call him a pervert but that is real odd, you need to sit him down and as grown as you can tell him you are a young lady and you need to be treated as such, and he "is" crossing bounderies, he has no right to touch your bare bottom now that you are a developing young woman, thats wrong and kind of nasty, so tell him to read this if you cant get him to listen to you, stop spanking a teen and talk to her, is she is bad send her up to her room take stuff away, but on a bare bottom, your being nasty.

Answer 7

Honestly, if you ask any asian kids (Im asian btw) about spanking they would probably laugh and think nothing of it because in no way would they consider it a harsh punishment. Asian kids are generally raised with more harsher punishments and strict discipline , we don't get spanked we get a beating lol and if you know you're out of line or get caught doing something you arnt supposed to be doing then just accept whats coming to you. It seems even you know you deserve it. From what you said you have done , running away from home and all and to get away with a spanking? Thank your lucky stars eh :)

Answer 8

Well first of all I think 15 is too old to be getting spankings. Secondly I think you need to tell someone that he is giving you bare butt spankings. He should not be touching you like that. You are too old and developed for him to EVEN see your bare butt.

If I were you I would talk to a counselor at school. I don't recommend you talking to your mom about it, because she will most likely side with him just to keep herself from getting into trouble so to speak.

I give this advice because I had something like this happen to me when I was 16. The counselor ended up telling me that it was a form of sexual abuse. So please report this to a responsible adult that can help you. Also talk to them immediately.

Answer 9

Why do you continue to be "bad" when you know the consequence is daddy spanking your bare bottom? Not only do I think you have a problem, but your dad does as well. Seems as though he is liking spanking you. Perhaps it is some kind of genetic malfunction. You both need serious help.

Answer 10

hmm.. thats interesting and just a little wierd.. are you cute.. cause i can only think of one reason and you may want to call someone about it.. I think there is an age limit on that sort of thing.. If he is still spanking you at 18 there is definatly a problem.. tell a teacher or something..

and stop lieing.. your last post said you and your 16 year old friends bare bottom were spanked by HER dad.. stop lieing.. you have a problem..