I was 16 when we met. He was 32 years old . Now I think I got married too soon. What should I do?
2007-07-23 17:00:53 · 7 answers · asked by anglecakesalfred 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He should have been arrested for child abuse, what in the world is wrong with your parents? Too late now, see a lawyer.
2007-07-23 17:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so you decided to marry him when you were twenty, correct?
All of these other messages about "Oh you were too young" and "He should have known better" blah, blah...mean nothing at this point..
You were with this man for four years before you decided to marry him .......
Feeling insecure about being younger?
YOU made that decision.........
You could have broke it off at anytime, yet you didn't....You stayed with this man for four years, AND THEN DECIDED TO MARRY HIM!!!!!!!!!!!
If you don't want to be married, then have the decency to tell him.
If you don't love him anymore, then at least respect him enough to tell him....
It sounds like you're freaking out because he's older than you...
Guess what....??
He's been older than you since the day that you met him...He's obviously kept up his end of the "Until death do us part bargain" because he loves you...
If you don't love him, for whatever reason, then just tell him...He deserves it...I will tell you though that I met my current husband when I was 19...I had 2 kids and was not married...He was 20 years older than me...and we are still together, after 11 years.
Either you love him or you don't..
It isn't fair for him to think everything's Ok.
If you have a problem, or you want out then tell him outright...Anything less would be wrong.
2007-07-24 00:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, girl your in your early 20's right...? So picture yourself being his age... 32 years old... another 10 years... you think your still going to be having doubts when he's 42? He isn't going to be getting any younger and either are you.. you aren't going to "catch up to him" if you keep going on. If it's the age difference that bothers you. But in my opinion you aren't ever going to have a complete meaningful relationship if you are looking at the greener grass on the other side of the fence... Maybe you should do a trial seperation. If there are no infidelity issues or anything like that... and you are just trying to find meaning in your life... try a trial seperation, just to see if a life with him is truely what you want. Best of luck to you :)
2007-07-24 00:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sugar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the source (your husband) Preferably do it when you are both in a quiet private place and are both in a good calm mood. TALK ABOUT ALL THE THINGS YOU LIKE AND DISLIKE ABOUT EACHOTHER AND THEN ASK HIM DOES HE THINK YOU BOTH GOT MARRIED TOO SOON, The conversation should take off from there and maybe a good solution will follow. What ever you do; please dont g et into an argument or start playing the blame game. JUST SIT, BE LOVINGLY HONEST AND TALK TRUTH. GOOD LUCK!
2007-07-24 00:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 16 when I met my guy. He was 29. Now I'm 29. He's 42. We went through our rough times. I guess you have 2 ask yourself just what this relationship's really worth to you. He hasn't even put a ring on my finger, but I love him, it's that simple.
2007-07-24 01:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by brutally honest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you did get married to soon and he's twice your age. Get a divorce and live life!!! I'm with ya on this!! I'll be watching the answers also
2007-07-24 00:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by MaRaNdA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honor the commitment you made.
2007-07-24 00:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋