how do i handle old people?

Question

i live with my grandmother and as her health deteriorates, she is becoming more difficult.
e.g. she shouts at something for me to do but she already asked me a 'million times'.
nursing home not an option.

Answer 1

Try to keep yourself centered that she isnt doing well and that your there to serve. And even though its not easy it can be a learning experiance. And if it becomes to much for you, hopefully there are others in your family that can give you a break when you need it. Thats all i can think of, good luck ~ Sheky

Answer 2

Simply talk to her about it, tell her you do not like when she yells at you or demands things, tell her you respect her and love her but as long as she is acting inappropriate or abusive you will not help her. Tell her that if she wants something done to ask you nicely and with respect and you will do it for her when you get a moment. This being said remember it goes both ways if she asked you to do something and she has to ask you a million times more than you are not being very respectful either. She is older, she can't hear well anymore and is most likely physically not fit enough or is in pain. Have respect and remember that she is older. Spend time with her as much as possible she may not have much more time on this earth (you'll regret it if you don't and it will be too late). As for her yelling she maybe getting deaf it comes with old age and she may not realize she is screeching. Make the most of it.

Answer 3

Were not getting any younger , as we go by we been also getting old. Well, to handle a grandmother is little bit hard but the first thing to do is give importance to her as you care, give story, to talk to her the most interesting topics that she can relate. Be patience all the time so that you can understand her by her own need.

Answer 4

Learn to develop your patience faster than she deteriorates. It will serve everybody better, even when YOU get old and need help. That's practical advice and moral advice at the same time, so pay attention!

Answer 5

Patience.

Answer 6

You need to talk with her doctor and if you don't have legal power of attorney, you need to get it. Your grandmother sounds like she might have dementia.

Answer 7

you treat her as you wish to be treated

there is no such thing as young people or old people

there are simply just people

dont do anything you would regret doing or saying to her as when she passes away you will be buried with guilt.

Answer 8

the same way you wanted treated when you become old. or how would you treat your mom or dad if it were them? what goes around comes around...remember that we all will grow old if we live long enough!

Answer 9

No idea I am on the same situation, I know how you feel.